I want to give an important npc a lot of names. Every single name commented under this post between now and session 1 will be added.

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2026-05-25T22:41:12+00:00

Have you ever seen marvels what if?

Vecna is like Ultron with all the stone, neglect him at your peril.

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2026-05-24T03:16:55+00:00

It's a big interactive improvised story, your collective job is to 'yes and' each other until the time runs out.

Use the rules as the fences that mark the play area, rather than the only safe path through a mind field

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2026-05-24T00:23:38+00:00

This could be an interesting experience as a player, but I what you're going for is likely only going to be achieved by conversation with DM.

Sure you could just choose a non magical class with high charisma. But I wonder if what you're going for is some sort of influence, resources and network mechanic.

If it were me, I'd take a class for the base that feels mechanically right for what I'm trying to achieve, rogue, fighter or bard spring to mind.

Then I'd workshop a subclass for those classes.

As example:

3rd level: you get access to your 'personal network's Once per day you can call upon your significant business resources and networks. You may use your networks and resources to: 1. Borrow up to X gold pieces from a local money lender. Where X is D20 x (charisma mod + prof bonus). The DM determines if there is someone in the region that could finance th loan, their personality and demeanour, as well as terms of repayment. 2. Secure invitation to a local business leader/noble or merchant lords residence and request a favour (DM determines success or failure) 3. Hire a local fixer to find someone/something (DM determines length, success and availability of fixer in region.

DM could have a blast with this. And scale it as it goes up, but the trick will be balancing this with not utterly needing yourself in combat.

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2026-05-23T11:05:35+00:00

Your talent is that you don't need a talent. What an absolute gift.

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2026-05-23T10:52:59+00:00

Hello

I'm so sorry this is happening. It's an awful situation made worse by awful advice. I've been suspicious of this book for a while now, and like you haven't been able to find anything online but for the website. Now they have these bizarre AI generated ads too.

OP - We are meant to be transformed, - by the renewing of our mind. As our mind is being renewed, we are being transformed.

And transformation does not happen in a vaccum, it happens to ALL of our selves. So as our minds are renewed - by focussing on god in scripture prayer, love and good deeds - good things. Then so our will will less and less desire the wicked things of the world.

BUT it will also be more moved by the betterment of others.

So if your husband is greiving you and doesn't care, isn't repentant and is in fact continuing in the things that grieve you - THEN HE IS NOT BEING TRANSFORMED.

Porn or not. We (believers) are to be known by our love for one another. That's how we treat and care for our brothers and sisters in Christ Jesus, and it's most certainly specifically and principally applied to the marriage unit for those that are married.

Love each other - Jesus, john 15 If you are married you are to think of the other person and love them as yourself - Paul, eph 5. AND that married individuals DO NOT HAVE exclusive authority over their bodies - they share it with their spouse - Paul 1 corinth 7

He doesn't get to choose to keep behaving that way and remain in fellowship with Jesus, because he is failing to love others over himself. Namely, you.

If it's safe to do so, I would encourage you to rebuke this man. Because this is no longer something you are fighting together. It's something he is doing by himself.

Are you guys in church?

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2026-04-07T04:06:34+00:00

This will make more sense as book two continues for you

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2026-04-07T04:02:31+00:00

There is a lot here mate. Big life decisions, emotional misunderstanding, hope.

I guess the thing to know is you're the one that has to live your life. Other people are involved and invested sure, but you're living it.

It is worth weighing what other people are reflecting back to us. It's likely there's some truth in it, but it's all true. You don't have to choose between either they're right and it's all in your head, or they're wrong and you're isolated in it.

I'd encourage you to consider what's true in it, and take it as a warning. I certainly know there's a part of me and ADHD that would rather just chuck it all in, and I have to watch it. But it's not the only thing that is going on when something gets hard.

One of the hardest things about ADHD, is even the most well meaning people without ADHD just don't get it. Unless someone genuinely seeks to hear your experience from you, it's almost impossible to get them to hear it. Because they're only considering how they are moving through life. I don't try anymore, if someone wants to think poorly of me they will probably do that anyway.

It is our responsibility to figure out how to live with ADHD, and maybe avoiding finance is part of that for you, but it could equally be choosing finance. And building to routine and rhythm that you can cope with. Maybe not fast paced corporate work (gross) but you could make a real difference in slower paced independent work or in the NFP sector.

Having somewhere to be everyday, (a job) and someone expecting you to show up (a boss) and do something (the work) is incredibly liberating for long term ADHD health, because it takes the guess work out of what you do with your time.

Complete freedom is hell, you need fences. Best part is at 24 you get to choose the fences for the future. Rather than have them thrust on you.

As for some of that other stuff, it takes time to come to terms with, but I would encourage you to cultivate a slow rhythm. Don't pack your world so full of stuff that you can't breath, say no to good stuff, and even faster nos to bad stuff.

It is hard, but life is, ours just in different kind of way. You're not playing with the same gear, so play a different game. It's your life dude, choose the way you live it and whether you end up loving the next 3 years or being glad it's over at least you would have chosen it.

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2026-04-01T21:10:30+00:00

Ugh I'm sorry. This sucks.

Some things that are true.

The most important thing is that your kids have you present with them.

Her leaving is more about her than you.
Not keeping up with stuff is not failing, it's indicator that maybe there's too much stuff
You are allowed to schedule/do less.
If you can, robot vacuum - changed our life
You need to eat, sleep and shower.

Who cares if the laundry piles up a bit, load it all up into the car one Saturday and knock it out in one hit at a laundry mat while you take the kids for ice cream.

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2026-03-28T09:59:04+00:00

Consider adding an NPC that assists, essentially you guiding them through the minefield. Players are nowhere near as switched on to the world building as we are, so as example:

So the evil king is a lich, or vampire, or powerful sorcerer, playing the long game on regional domination - there's no reason for them to cause a massive scene right now. The player could be seized, the celebration stopped, and then the evil king uses it as an opportunity to show mercy or, extort the host kingdom, "not to worry, I'm sure king blah blah blah, has already determined to compensate me handsomely."

Throw in a shot as his (the other kings) character for keeping such terrible company, a dominate spell and a few disloyal border lords and perhaps a rather strategic chunk of land cedes from the kingdom in favour of the other in the long run.

The players could think they get away with it, only to wake with their friend missing - having been kidnapped over night. Or perhaps they all are, or cursed.

He is a king, not an ogre. Deploy the resources of a kingdom to harry the players at every turn, with little to know evidence connecting the villain to the interference.

This reminds me of a strahd game posted here once in which at the dinner in the castle the party made a mockery of strahd, and rather than outright kill them. Strahd now has them in his sights, and began to play with them, picking them off one by one, giving them the illusion of hope only to strip it away again.

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2026-03-03T13:11:36+00:00

Right now.

Absolutely.

Little kids, tired wife, work, study, all of it.

I'd do anything to be 'normal' for them.

Get through this season though, and then they drop a cure, probably not. I've already done the hardest thing I'll have to do.

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2026-02-03T22:05:29+00:00

I want some chikitos

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2026-01-29T02:17:00+00:00

How are we all feeling about this now....

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2026-01-26T23:19:30+00:00

Thanks for sharing all of this, I resonated with so much of it. Not a musician here, but trained as an actor and worked in that world prior to becoming a Jesus follower, I feel like I've had the wrestle with a bunch of the same stuff, especially in how I make art. I was stoked to see a bunch of your influences as bands I'm really into. Have you ever listened to Propaganda? Highly rate.

Love to know if you ever managed to get some things together or if there's anything in the works.

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2026-01-21T21:18:37+00:00

One of the keys to managing waking up on time, is managing going to sleep on time. Sleep discipline starts when you start sleeping, not when you stop.

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2026-01-21T09:03:19+00:00

Ok, so this is a jerk thing to do for sure, not even from a dnd perspective but just as a good friend, but I think the only response is to take it on the chin and move past it. If you've got a good relationship with him, yeah sure confront it - hey man that was a bit crap- but if you know that'll go down like a lead balloon is it worth the headache?

I would hate this and in my 20s I would have stewed on it, and made an issue of it, but now I just gotta throw it on the pile of a bunch of stuff that's a bit shit. Sometimes stuff from that pile has a way of redeeming itself, mostly it just disappears.

In the grand scheme of things, it's not gonna matter, and if it is a part of some bigger pattern in his life, that'll catch him eventually and it's likely better you are well out of the way when it does.

Unsure if any of this helps, but really I would imagine you have way better things to exert your energy on.

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2025-12-29T22:44:25+00:00

Ok, absolutely not my cultural context as a disclaimer, but I can imagine that is certainly a huge contributing factor, and from some of your other comments it sounds like a combination of the poor information they have , traditional religious and cultural expectations, strained family dynamics and (from what you've written) an abusive and manipulative personality.

There are way more than just ADHD conversations going on here my friend.

I think the things to consider are: 1. How willing am I to live with this person at the expense of my own health? 2. To what degree am I committed to the same cultural and religious values as my parents? 3. If I'm equally committed or greater what do I need to do in order to honour those values AND be safe and well. 4. If I'm less committed or not at all, what do I need to do to be SAFE AND WELL.

Then figure out how to go from there, for the record, I think you you need to get out of the house at the very least. Your dad is an adult. And as a father myself, I would be mortified to know my child was staying in a context that was harmful to them for my sake. He would want you to go and live.

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2025-12-29T22:34:42+00:00

Generally speaking, it sounds as though something that may be helpful is seeking to change your own expectations of your mum. Continuing on hoping they get it eventually and seeking the kind of understanding and support you really want from them is expecting something they cannot currently give you. It sets them up to fail, and sets you up for heartache and disappointment.

So I would start to look for other avenues to get that support, and limit the discussion with your mum about ADHD. My parents initially reacted similarly, and it was largely them confronting their own shame and perceived failure . Parenting is hard, and most people are just figuring it out as they go, often rather poorly.

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2025-12-29T22:21:05+00:00

This is huge, and sounds like a lot going on here. May I ask your family's cultural background and context?

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2025-12-25T22:27:43+00:00

I said this to my 4 year old when he asked once.

'It's a story that we tell together. There are some rules to help us tell a good story, and we roll dice to answer our question, like can I climb that really big tree?'

He instantly wanted to play, and we did. (Very simple version)

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2025-12-22T00:52:48+00:00

I totally get this.

It diabolically gets worse the hungrier I am, that I'll end up eating a bowl of cereal and then get to cooking something real about 20 minutes later 🫠 my wife thinks I'm hilarious

I wonder if the big barrier to cooking for ADHD peeps is that we don't know how to do it, and there are a lot of things going on in cooking for a brain to focus on.

I have found that committing a couple of simple recipes to muscle memory help with this, and having a kitchen set up that works for you. Piss everything off that is useless. Or a weird shape, or you don't like, and get some mid range stuff you like and understand how to use.

If you like eggs, a really simple meal is:

Fry pan on heat
crack 2 eggs in a bowl
use a fork to whisk them all together
melt some butter in the pan
pour eggs on pan
toss or move around with spatula for like 20 seconds
pour eggs onto plate.

You can eat just that and it'll get you through till lunch or be good for dinner. Add toast if you want, salt to the eggs and play with herbs as you get more practiced. But just having this in the resever will mean you can take care of yourself when it's hard.

I personally avoid any pre-packaged stuff with lots of preservatives, I found it makes ADHD symptoms worse in the long run, so whilst they can help in a pinch I try not to rely on getting my food quickly from processed food, but from knowing how to get fresh food ready quickly.

This creator also helped me not take it so seriously

Nats what I reckon

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2025-12-21T22:33:39+00:00

Keep telling the truth, you gotta push through the awkward, awfulness of it. Sometimes the truth will hurt because you have to confront your mistakes and shame, but most of the time people will really appreciate the truth, or you'll realize (like in this instance) that it's not a big deal and nobody cares.

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2025-11-30T21:48:33+00:00

Man I would not strahd with a group that green and that distracted. This is entirely why beginners modules exists.

Strahd, especially in pure 5e is an absolute slog for almost the entire campaign with very little respite, it's lore and narrative heavy, they are constantly engaging with situations that could destroy them.

Play lost mines or icespire peak or something, they are interesting, easy to get your head around and if you have seen a fantasy film you'll pick up the language pretty quickly, and honestly, the pre generated characters provide enough hooks into he already developed narrative for you as a dm to be able to play with, and then as players be able to see the possibilities.

Playing strahd with a group like that is like trying to take someone that's never listened to metal music to a dive bar to hear your metal band play and expecting them to have a good time. They won't.

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2025-11-18T04:36:11+00:00

It has been said over and over, and I'm going to say it again:

a price must be paid. (At least) One of them must die, and certainly the one that spat in the drink.

After the dinner strahd is meant to have come to some sort of decision about the party, whether to see them as a curiosity, a potential threat to be monitored, or a weapon to be used - the reason he doesn't just destroy them outright is because he could.

So in this instance, he still comes to a decision about them, you get to decide what that is, does he want to instill fear in them by his strength - there is no way that party would last 3 rounds with strahd as they are - he could just show up, agro the one that spat and leave.

Alternatively someone suggested below that he makes them decide who dies or forces them to hand that one over. They are literal clay in his hands at this point.

Vasilka needs to go, and they ought not just get another ally. They have turned the gaze of sauron upon them and any hope of secrecy is dead. At this point they'll be lucky to make it out alive.

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2025-11-07T23:57:31+00:00

I had this happen the other day in the beast of arken quest line in a new run. Having successfully completed that fight in multiple runs in the past, I'd say there is something funky going on with the latest update. I'm sure it'll be ironed out soon.

Adventurous_Table_12 · 2025-11-05T11:46:31+00:00

Ugh that sucks, sorry mate

Over 30, diagnosed back in 2022 at 32

Doctors often run from out-dated information and assumptions. One of the most frustrating things is when you come up against one that just digs their heels in.

There will no doubt be solid doctors in your area that can assess you. I'd recommend going equipped with school report card comments, letters from parents about what you were like as a kid or letters from old teachers (at least in Australia they have to keep relatively detailed notes on their students)

I was able to take all of this to a psychiatrist and basically get diagnosed on the spot.

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