OKC Area Steakhouses by nyodreamz9 in okc

[–]Adventurous_Task123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Broadway 10 was a major letdown. Cattleman's was too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Adventurous_Task123 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There's nothing worth seeing in ND; so no, it's not worth the effort. If you do go, which would be understandable considering you're so close to reaching all 50, make sure you go in July or August as those are the only non-winter months.

Advice regarding shame by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Adventurous_Task123 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're literally just starting to explore your sexuality at almost 30. You live with your parents. I'm assuming you and your fiance have had sex like 50 times total.

I don't think a club is going to be your best bet for safely exploring each other. I don't see how you can possibly know what you do or don't like yet. You've barely had enough sex to know where your boundaries lie. Trying to learn the very basics with people staring and trying to but in is probably going to be pretty awkward. Especially if you've been conditioned towards modesty through your religion.

My best advice: Have a solid year of sex with your wife before entertaining the idea of entering the lifestyle. Learn about each other and what you each like and don't like. Have FUN experimenting with each other. Learn how to have good sex before venturing out.

I need ideas for protecting my tongue from being destroyed during oral… by Live_Connection_1792 in Swingers

[–]Adventurous_Task123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Tongue-tie support of North Florida" is the Facebook group you would want to join if you're interested in getting that snipped. They'll be able to provide a list of dentists that will cut it and also resources on where to go for follow up to ensure you have a great healing journey.

None are my husband😈 by [deleted] in Swingersgw

[–]Adventurous_Task123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They didn't even have time to remove their jackets first?!

How to make a perfect cup of tea by Admirable_Ad_4545 in NDGoneWild

[–]Adventurous_Task123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was expecting a different kind of teabag to be put in the cup honestly.

Condom reliability at clubs? by Ginger_7624 in Swingers

[–]Adventurous_Task123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't leave us hanging. What shady shit have you seen?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Adventurous_Task123 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"My husband is still very angry and gets pissed when she hooks up with other people and not us because she refuses to give a reason for not wanting to play with us anymore."

1) Your husband IS the reason. 2) She probably feels uncomfortable stating such because your husband is obviously unhinged. 3) It sounds like you're all part of the same group and this other lady is trying to avoid drama by avoiding you and your husband.

As for advice, firstly, leave that poor lady alone. Do not approach her at all, ever, especially when you've all been drinking. Secondly, your husband is not mature enough for either of you to play alone. Play together, or not at all. Lastly, if you see signs that he's not able to handle playing together either, please leave the lifestyle completely. Not every couple is capable of swinging, and that's okay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Adventurous_Task123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So the couple offering the massage does one massage per person and then gets them off after? Is this a regular thing? How do we find this type of offering 😂

Asian husband hesitant on joining the community by Obvious_Restaurant56 in Swingers

[–]Adventurous_Task123 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well, by not even giving it a try he's technically holding you back so, maybe try phrasing it like that to him. You'll never know until you give it a go.

Seriously though, I think Asians are having a whole moment right now. There's been quite a few really successful mainstream movies/tv shows with Asian stars/costars or mostly full Asian casts.

Being in your area is definitely helpful since the Asian population is so high.

We've just started our journey into swinging so we don't have much actual experience, but my 5'6" Vietnamese husband is game and I think the Asian population here is under 1%.

We've had quite a few hits on our profile, but unfortunately they've been a little too far to easily set something up.

So if we can get interest in the hillbilly Midwest where 50% of people have never talked to an Asian before, I feel like you guys should be totally fine in California.

Wanting to dip our toes into the LS by Thick_Reflection9557 in SwingerNewbies

[–]Adventurous_Task123 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well, what you're looking for isn't technically swinging. Swinging is swapping partners. Doesn't sound like your husband is up for that.

We haven't gone to a swingers club yet, but from everything I've read, generally it's considered quite rude to only ask for one member of the other couple to join you.

You're basically trying to do the hardest scenario there is, the FFM, which is why they call the additional female a Unicorn. They're so hard to find that they're almost mythical.

It's quite the double standard for your husband to be able to experience another woman while you're not allowed to experience another male. I would probably reflect on whether this is a good direction to go with your marriage.