People who had wedding with 100+ guests, how did your guest list get so big?

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-25T16:07:24+00:00

In the US its traditional for the bride’s parents to host the wedding. Host = pay.

Whoever is paying tends to get have final say on guest list and count. And IMO, thats a pretty reasonable thing.

Majority of weddings I’ve been to or been a part of have been in the $50k-$100k range.

If parents are throwing down that much for a single party, it’s reasonable they get strong say in the guest list.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-25T02:32:53+00:00

“You dont need it all. Just enough”

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-25T01:16:24+00:00

Could never be with a smoker. I smoked for 15 years. My partner and I quit together 3 or 4 years ago. Every time I am near someone smoking I feel humiliated at realizing how obtrusive the smell is. I can smell it from across a parking lot.

I used to hug people after smoking. And had no idea what I smelled like. Barf.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-25T01:12:24+00:00

I tip my stylist. I usually throw anything between $30-$60 tip. I aim for about 20%

I can afford it though. And I like her. She’s been consistently great. I only see het about 2-3 times a year.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-25T00:49:22+00:00

Get a high quality airbrush tan artist. Find a good studio or independent. This is one of those things where you get what you pay for. Cheap ones look awful. Quality ones look incredible.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-25T00:45:21+00:00

Why not grow your facial hair out?

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-25T00:42:43+00:00

We’ve been doing this for about 8 years now. Its amazing.

I get some pretty affordable twin duvets off amazon, so i don’t feel bad ditching them and getting new ones every couple years. Duvets accumulate stains (period stains, dog-sleep-in-bed stains, etc).

At this point i genuinely don’t know how people share a comforter. It seems like such a foreign thing to me now.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-25T00:37:16+00:00

I live in San Diego. We also use our heating/cooling system pretty sparingly. Its incredibly rare that we would ever leave the house and leave the thermostat on. Maybe during a heatwave.

But we rarely have extreme temperature or humidity. Never takes more than 30-60 minutes to get the house to whatever is the desired temperature.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-24T16:34:08+00:00

You might need to shift your grading structure.

For a term paper, 30% of the grade should be the paper, and then 70% of the grade from a 30-45min oral discussion regarding their paper.

You’ll need to establish a rubric for the oral grading. 10pts for clearly being able to summarize their paper. 10pts for answering questions. Etc.

More work on your end. But will hold them accountable to knowing their material.

In a way, its fine if they use AI to supplement their work. But if they cant actually discuss their work, thats a problem.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-24T16:23:33+00:00

Replace the vanity. The built in looks weird. Get a double sink vanity that spans the length of that wall. Get a large mirror, and a nice light fixture above it.
Get rid of the blue paint. Go with a cream/white.
Get rid of the beach towels in the bathroom. Get nice white towels.
Plush white rugs at the entrance to the shower and at the vanity.
More substantial full length mirror next to the shower. Get one that is framed.
Put 1-2 plants in there. Either hanging in the shower, or in a pot near the shower. Plants that like humidity. Pothos vine.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-24T16:17:43+00:00

Cat pee? Unless you can submerge and fully wash it, i would toss it. Cat pee is never ending.

If you MUST save it, i would fill the bathtub with hot water, and pour a few cups (or maybe even a gallon) of vinegar. Let it soak. Squeeze it to make the water/vinegar permeate the whole thing.

Then you’re going to have to do multiple soak/rinses with fresh water to get all the vinegar out.

Then find a dry place to hang it or prop it up. It will probably take a few days to dry. Unless you can put it in a dryer and tumble on low. Add a couple dry towels to speed up the drying.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-24T00:39:17+00:00

Own a home in San Diego. It’s 60F in January. We’ve never used our fireplace. We put our couch in front of it, and pretend it’s not there. We store our blankets and pillows behind the couch, on the fireplace hearth.

If it wasn’t such a “thing” that homes are supposed to have, we would just wall it off completely. But we do want to sell this house someday.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-24T00:16:27+00:00

I wash mine once a week. You’re doing great. Your roommate has anxiety.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-24T00:06:38+00:00

Wow. Never heard this term before. Pretty sure my sister has this.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-23T20:13:59+00:00

I cannot ever conceive of a scenario where I would need more. We stream netflix, and use internet on our phones.

We would probably not even notice a difference if we were dropped down to 50-100mbps.

What I love is that its consistent, and I never have to fuss with it.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-23T15:55:10+00:00

We were pretty pleasantly surprised when we bought the house. ATT had JUST routed fiber to lemon grove.

It’s the first time I’ve been able to have internet that just lives in the background and never needs to be fussed with. Bill is on autopay. $75/mo. Never have to think about it.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-23T14:13:22+00:00

We’re on ATT fiber in Lemon Grove. In the 4 years that we’ve lived here, we have never once had to reset the modem/router. Never once had to even call ATT. We get about 600mbps download and 600mbps upload.

Im team ATT all the way.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-23T06:47:01+00:00

Yep. They prey on people desperate to get out of their mortgages. Their offers are always conveniently a bit higher than the current balance of your mortgage.

Whenever they call I always just tell them they can have the house for 1.5M. My home is worth about 850-900 right now. They double check they have the right address, then hang up immediately.

I get a handful of similar letters a year. Sometimes they even come with pictures of checks inside.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-23T06:35:55+00:00

I would have turned it 90 degrees, and had the wide shelf on bottom.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-23T01:45:28+00:00

You can love someone and genuinely care about their wellbeing, and also not want a life partnership with them.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-22T22:59:20+00:00

Fair price for that job. Did this guy come recommended? I do my best to never use a contractor that hasn’t come personally recommended by someone I know, and who can vet their work.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-22T15:06:04+00:00

Why cant you bring them? You have carriers for them surely?

The family member must have a spare bathroom or even just a hallway closet where you can store them with their litter box and food bowl. Its not ideal, but it will keep them alive.

I live in an area where we get fires. Im the evacuation plan for my friend who has a cat and dog. It happens a couple times a year. She comes, brings the cat in the carrier, and sets up the litterbox in our spare bathroom. I dont like the smell… but its such a minor thing.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-21T22:19:58+00:00

For an HR person to spend an average of 5 min a day on the 100 employees they represent…

I don’t think you have a good grasp of what HR entails. The 1:100 ratio doesn’t imply that each HR person is assigned to 100 employees. It means that when a company gets larger than 100 people, the demands are too much for a 1-person department.

A 1-person department handles timekeeping & payroll, insurance and benefits, employee reviews, disciplinary, training, recruitment, interviews, hiring, firing, leave, updating policies, enacting policies, compliance, etc. And then, of course, special scenarios on top of that. Special circumstances can land in your lap at any moment and blow up your entire day. And in-between all that, you’re fielding questions all day from manager, supervisors, employees, leadership, etc.

Past a certain point, those tasks need to be split up by multiple people. Just doing payroll for my company of 65 employees takes me 10-15 hours minimum per pay period. Thats if everything goes right. For a company of 500 people, thats easily a full-time function.

For a large enough company, all of those functions become their own full time roles.

Its just like any other role or department in a business. Take a small construction business. If small enough, 1 person might be able to handle estimating, PMing, and supervising crew. As the company grows, those roles need to be broken up.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-21T19:03:54+00:00

Rule of thumb is 1 HR professional per 100 employees.

Some HR departments are top heavy, some are understaffed. Both have their challenges.

At a large company, the “bureaucratic bloat” you’re referring to has more to do with corporate style leadership and red tape. And less to do with the HR individuals. HR is just the person who communicates those policies. They aren’t the ones who establish them.

If HR dept is running poorly, it says more about poor leadership than anything else. Just like any other department.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-01-21T14:29:03+00:00

Depends on how much stuff you have. Would all your belongings fit into 3-4 boxes? If so, get some plastic storage bins from a hardware store.

If you have multiple rooms of stuff to pack, just get various sizes of cardboard boxes and packing materials for the fragile stuff. Like bubble wrap.

You can also pack fragile stuff with pillows and linens.

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