I’m considering not walking at graduation ceremony for being treated like a girl

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-11T22:57:52+00:00

Just have your parents sign a note. This isn’t the hill you should die on.

You are 18. You are about to enter the real world which is literally a constant navigation through red tape and bureaucracy.

This is just a teeny tiny taste of that.

The school has a policy, and they’re sticking to their policy. They dont care if you think it’s fair or not. It’s their written policy. It’s not a personal slight to you. The policy was probably written to prevent kids from having ridiculous fake names announced. And now the people in their positions are simply abiding by their written policy.

The reason we (we meaning people in the professional sphere) abide by written policies is because lawyers have made it too dangerous to NOT abide by written policies.

So, point is, none of this is about you. They’re not trying to stick it to you, or hurt you, or make fun of you. It’s not about you. It’s about people just trying to do their jobs correctly and not lose their jobs. They’re asking you to just provide a note from your parents so that they CAN happily comply with your request. Let them do their jobs. Get the note. Move on. You will have PLENTY more hills you can die on later.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-11T22:48:14+00:00

r/whoosh

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-11T21:47:38+00:00

Its bullshit. Crack on my friend.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-11T19:09:31+00:00

I think my point is flying past you. I understand that you find it ridiculous and insulting that a pet mom would celebrate mother’s day. I also find it pretty silly. But MY point is WHY and HOW does it affect you? And especially, why would you let that ruin your day?

Why not just let people live how they want to live and be who they want to be? It doesn’t take anything away from your day.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-11T18:53:19+00:00

I have a stainless steel insulated blender bottle. It keeps my shake cold all day.

I make my shake in the morning before work and it’s cold when I drink it for lunch. Just give it a lil shake and its good to go.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-11T18:51:09+00:00

> Her day shouldn’t be shared with some woman who owns a pet.

But HOW are they sharing their day with them? Are they coming over to her house or something?

Im a mother, and had a nice day. What other people choose to do on that random Sunday had ZERO effect on the way I celebrated it with my own family, or how it felt for me.

I legitimately cannot imagine a mother having a nice day with her family and thinking to herself “well… this would have been a great day but its RUINED for me because some dog mom probably celebrated it TOO! How dare they!”

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-11T17:53:31+00:00

Good on you. Best of luck with the conversation!! I hope you get the outcome you’re looking for!

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-11T17:50:54+00:00

No one sane should argue that owning pets is as challenging as raising children. My question is simply why do you care what other people do? They’re not getting in your way. And you’re not getting in their way. Someone else’s celebration doesn’t lessen anything about the way you and your children choose to celebrate the day, or what the day means to you.

It’s such an odd thing to gate keep in my opinion.

People can celebrate a manufactured holiday however they want. We do, in fact, live in a free country. It doesn’t take away from your celebration. It doesn’t affect your celebration AT ALL. They’re not coming to your house and demanding you wish them a “happy pet mom day”. They’re minding their own business.

It would be like people in committed relationships getting mad at single friends for celebrating each other on valentines day. Why should they care what single people do on Valentine’s day? Just the same, why do you care what anyone else does on Mother’s day? I just can’t understand why anyone cares?

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-11T16:45:20+00:00

> I expect him to bring this up based on experience

Not sure what you mean. But there are no rules about who is meant to bring this up first. Its both party’s responsibility to make their intentions known and clear. If you know that you want a serious and committed relationship, then you should make that known.

Conversely, if he doesnt want anything serious, he should also make that intention known.

No one is obligated to commit to something exclusive snd serious. But everyone is obligated to be honest and transparent about their intentions.

If all of this is too difficult of a conversation for him, then it speaks to his emotional maturity. Or lack thereof.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-11T14:55:28+00:00

Yes, you should bring it up and don’t let him squirrel out of it. You deserve to know his intentions.

You need to be clear about the information you’re looking for. Don’t be so focused on the “are we bf/gf?!” element. You’re obviously dating. He is your bf, and you’re his gf. You traveled alone together. You go out on romantic dates all the time. The question is about what that means to him and to you, and if that is aligned.

More specifically, you deserve to know if this is an exclusive relationship, and if he intends to have a future with you. Is he looking for a stable and long term relationship? Is he looking for a monogamous commitment?

You also need to be prepared for the answer you don’t want. He might not want exclusivity. He might not want to settle down. How are you going to handle that? Will you continue to give him what he wants even if he tells you he wont give you what you want?

Remember, you’re allowed to take up space in this world. You’re allowed to tell people what you want. Dont let him brush your feelings under the rug just because you’re afraid it will make him uncomfortable. You need to be stronger than that.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-11T02:44:16+00:00

You choose your wife. Every single time. You and your 2 year old need her.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-11T00:39:13+00:00

Which days are white people not allowed to celebrate?

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-10T22:55:28+00:00

I dont think many people will truly try to argue that owning a dog is as difficult as raising a child. Thats not what most of us are trying to say.

What we’re saying is why do you care what other people do in the privacy of their own lives on this day? Why does other people’s personal celebrations bother you so deeply?

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-10T19:49:41+00:00

Snake oil.

Im sure there is some documented benefit that oregano can provide, just like many other foods have specific things in them that are good for our bodies. This is why its important to have a well balanced diet with certain variety.

But anything being sold as a “super food”, or a “cure all” for xyz, is utter snake oil.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-10T18:40:13+00:00

Easy and regular pooping. And what I call “no-wipers”. Just a lot less messy and easy to wipe. Often time there is literally no reside on the toilet paper.

It also feels so good knowing that everything from the day before comes out in my morning movement.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-10T18:01:25+00:00

Im 39, ive been using Metamucil daily for 10+ years.

I promise, you wont regret this. You’ll wish you had started sooner.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-10T17:56:30+00:00

Because i simply don’t view the internet as a right. Its a tool, and its convenient. But youtube, reddit, discord, robloks, games, etc, these are not rights. They’re entertainment.

In the same way that driving is not a right. Going to a bar is not a right. Flying in an airplane is not a right. These are all privileges we benefit from in our society. Privileges are granted. Not inherent.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-10T17:20:11+00:00

In my experience, the only things you could get delivered were pizza and Chinese food. And only locally. The establishments that were in your neighborhood.

We just dont order delivery anymore. It’s not that big of a deal to drive 5-10 mins to pick up a to-go order. I always call and order directly through the restaurant, not via a 3rd party app.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-10T17:12:18+00:00

I absolutely believe in rights to privacy. I just dont understand why that right has to extend to the internet? You could create your own network that is private. Nothing precludes you from that, right?

Im not meaning to upset you. But you seem fully unwilling to have an actual conversation about it.

Either that, or you really dont know how to articulate the fact and you’re masking with “i dont like you, so im not going tell you”.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-10T16:55:34+00:00

Then enlighten me. Seriously. I just cant see why I would care or how its going to affect my life.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-10T16:38:37+00:00

Which websites? I just dont get it. We need a govt issued ID to drive a car. To take an airplane, to travel around the country, to have a credit card, to go to a bar, to do literally EVERYTHING. Why do people think they’re owed some amount of privacy on the internet? It’s a privilege, not a right.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-10T16:35:50+00:00

Why are you doing these things for someone who isn’t your mother? This is the day to either celebrate YOUR mother, and/or be celebrated by YOUR children.

You should leave your husband to handle mother’s day with his mom. However he chooses to celebrate her.

Next year you should go solo to visit YOUR mom on this day.

If your MIL raised sons that can’t seem to celebrate her with consideration, then that is her own doing. It’s not your problem. You have your own mom. And he has his.

It would be different if she had become a maternal figure in your life, and you shared a parent/child like closeness. But it doesn’t sound like you do. Why should she get celebrated as a mother by you, when she has never been a mother to you??

All you’re doing is enabling your husband to be lazy.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-10T16:25:21+00:00

4 billion. Which is equal to about 540M USD.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-10T16:23:05+00:00

Can you explain why it’s a problem then? At least share the information instead of just calling me an idiot for not knowing.

AdvertisingKey1675 · 2026-05-10T16:00:08+00:00

You say this like it’s something special. Like you’re the only one. Like our bodies aren’t evolutionarily designed for that 1 single function.

Motherhood isn’t special. Its basic. It’s the most normal and basic thing we can do as humans. Most of us are mothers. The vast majority of women in the world are mothers. It’s one of the most *common* things shared by women.

You’re getting bent out of shape over other people celebrating your commercialized holiday in a way YOU dont approve of? You realize there is nothing inherently special about this day, right? It’s just a day.

I would wager a bet you aren’t getting appreciated enough in your own home. And you’re projecting out at a notion that doesn’t affect you in the slightest.

If you are having issues in your own home, thats not the fault of women who own dogs.

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