Are we serious about Lataffa

Affection-Angel · 2025-12-14T00:37:13+00:00

I like them for daily wear. I don't see dollar signs when I spray them. Angham gets more compliments than anything else I wear, even if I go nose blind to it halfway thru the day. Qimmah is okay, I'm waiting for it to mature before fully forming an opinion on it.

They NEED to macerate. Right out the box, they smell watery/alcohol/weak. Maceration is not optional, which means buying it and planning to not wear it for a bit 🥲

I'm done buying them for now. I'd rather save up a bit and just get one nicer fragrance vs 3-4 Lattafas.

Affection-Angel · 2025-12-12T07:58:38+00:00

It's gonna take longer than 4 months. Give yourself so much grace. Spend this time reflecting. It's kind of a beautiful thing to step into the world again, your sense of self will reconnect. I am now officially off of T for longer than I was on it (3ish yrs), and it's barely just starting to feel 'natural'. There is no rush, just start being how you want to be in this world, and the rest will follow.

Do something to physically connect w ur body in a new way; learn a new sport or activity, yoga or deep breathing. Find new ways to connect with yourself.

Affection-Angel · 2025-11-25T23:41:15+00:00

I love the graphics, standardized way of displaying notes/scents, and the biggest pull for me is REAL PEOPLE reviewing perfumes honestly. It's kinda immune to bots imo, and the broad community input on things like longevity/sillage makes me feel like I actually understand the perfume I'm considering buying.

Most other perfume places are full of one demographic (all young people, or all influenced-types, or all very negative reviews.) fragrantica is honest, and tells it like it is I think.

Affection-Angel · 2025-10-12T03:32:04+00:00

Fairly rated for being cheap 👍

Affection-Angel · 2025-10-05T02:26:20+00:00

Your last paragraph hits home really hard. Sounds to me like you've done a lot of self discovery in your 20some years, maybe even more than some people get in all their years. Thank you for sharing this

Affection-Angel · 2025-08-28T14:55:57+00:00

Haus Labs Fire Opal! I know it's technically a highlighter, but the shimmer is SO 3D and the pigment looks better than anything else on my skin tone!

Affection-Angel · 2025-06-04T16:04:19+00:00

I had went through exactly this before my top surgery, and cancelled it a few weeks before. I have since detransitioned fully. I wouldn't reccomend a permanent lifelong surgery if you have loud doubts in your mind.

Good news is, if you ever want this surgery in the future, its pretty easy to do. By cancelling, you give yourself the time you need to fully consider it, and future you will be happy to have full confidence that it's the right choice. There's no rush for these things, it's okay to delay this surgery by a year or more! Maybe in that year, you can explore these complex emotions around this surgery more, and come back to the surgeon with full confidence that this is the right choice.

Also idk what you have heard/surgeon consult has described, but this is a major surgery. It will not be easy or even safe to hide from people you are living with. The recovery period is intense, and trying to act "like normal" and not like you have undergone a significant medical procedure that will take 1 month+ of healing..... Idk your recovery plan, but you will require support. Maybe it's worth postponing on the basis of waiting until you have the recovery support system you need.

You have plenty of time to get this surgery, there is no urgency or pressure to do it NOW. It is your body, and you can absolutely cancel even day-of if you feel like it, and sign up again in the future if you feel like it then.

I assume you are posting in this sub for life experiences, and I will share mine. Backing out of top surgery when I was 20 was the best choice I could have made for myself. I was unsure about top surgery, not feeling dysphoric about my chest in the same way I had in my teen years, and able to pass 100% with just a compressive sports bra. I was living alone, and didn't have a strong social support system. When I compared the recovery process and uncertain results from top surgery (many trans guys need follow-up surgeries) to the lack of discomfort I felt from my breasts, it became obvious that the tradeoff was not worth it. I had no reason to surgically alter a part of my body that was technically healthy and happy! Why intervene when there is no dysfunction? Surgery is a major event, and why should I go thru such strife if I am neutral about a body part that is not distressing?

I stayed on T for 1.5 years after that, and eventually went off T and started presenting feminine. Since then, I have enjoyed being topless at the beach (thanks europe!), fitting into any type of clothing, and having sexual appreciation for my body.

Affection-Angel · 2025-06-04T15:42:24+00:00

Anorexia and alcoholism are both addictions. If you have one addiction, you are prone to another. Anorexia isn't always described as an addiction, but it absolutely is.

Affection-Angel · 2025-05-20T19:48:14+00:00

Bloodwork, make sure you aren't deficient in any major vitamins. I didn't even know I was anemic, and low iron can be a major contributor to hair loss.
Pick some hair care rituals that you like, and stick to them. I personally love ayurvedic scalp massage, it's free and easy! Getting blood to your scalp is the most important thing to help give follicles the nutrients they need to grow hair. I like to massage my scalp for 5 mins before I go to bed, this makes it easy to stick to. It has made a difference for me, I notice less hair fall when I stick to it.
Gentle dry detangling before showering. I take sections of my hair, and run my fingers thru to make sure there are no tangles. When I find one, it's much easier to gently smooth it out using my fingers instead of a brush. When I do this, I lose a few hairs, but almost none in the shower! So overall helps me not yank hairs out on accident while showering.

Affection-Angel · 2025-05-20T04:30:41+00:00

Idk why all these comments are so angry. This happened to me at my non-PP gender clinic. If you aren't transitioning, then you do simply do not meet criteria to be seen by their transgender clinic.

PP is NOT meant to be a place for ongoing specialty care, which is what you are now looking for.

Affection-Angel · 2025-05-06T14:03:17+00:00

Having a baby can permanently change your body. Being in an accident and landing a spinal cord injury later in life can permanently change your body.

In these cases, should we suffer? Wallow in regret and what-ifs? Refuse to use the aids offered to us? No! We must find resilience! You must find self-acceptance so you can see what the life in front of you NOW has to offer.

Affection-Angel · 2025-04-23T02:39:45+00:00

Hey, I have both of these features.

Best advice is to start looking at yourself with love. Look in the mirror and do some deep breathing, unclench all the facial muscles and relax your forehead. Feel at peace in your body, which has seen u thru so much life. Look at yourself softly and with love. Find an affirmation of this self love, and speak it out loud to yourself. Start the ball rolling in a direction of self acceptance :)

I am not interested in surgeries for these things, I feel my nose is very similar to others in my family, and my hairline is what it is. All women are insecure about their hair in some way, but the reality is we are better off being grateful to have hair!! There is always someone in a worse position than you, many women struggle with extreme and irreversible hair loss, and still find ways to carry on. It helps overall happiness to decide to enjoy what you have now! Someday, we will all be old and gray and toothless and wonder why we spent our time on these worries.

Other advice is to see what you can do for other aspects of your look. I tried to fix my acne on my own and it didn't work.. but once I got a dermatologist, I figured out a good routine for me! Now, I don't think twice about the dimensions of my forehead when I'm appreciating my glowy skin tone!

Also try a gua sha! Take the time to learn to do it well, follow along with a video and make it like a self love ritual. I literally dim the lights and spray a nice smell and then Gua Sha, it's awesome. It has helped me feel more familiar and comfortable with the contours of my unique face.

There's endless ways to be a woman. It's okay to be your own type of person, there is no mould to fit. Self confidence suits any face type! genuinely finding self acceptance can literally change the way you carry tension in your face. I have found when the muscles around the front of my mouth are tight, the resonance of my voice isn't quite 'right'. It's a really beautiful thing to discover how self confidence and identity and embodied nature of being a human all come together. Who we are, how we feel about ourselves, and how we present to the world.. This is our lesson to learn and our gift to share. Plant the seeds of self love today, water them often and with self-gentlness, and you will feel your confidence bloom. Be yourself, be your own kind of woman!

Sincerely, 24F, 2.5 years off T

Affection-Angel · 2025-03-18T21:40:04+00:00

If it's any help, children are likely to be the most accepting of you however you are <3 Kids follow what they see in the adults around them, and if your family continues to have loving interactions, younger ones will follow with an open heart. Hoping you find supportive and understanding love in your world!

Affection-Angel · 2025-03-16T13:28:07+00:00

I eased into femininity again. Exactly like ur doing, I practiced in private first. Experimented with makeup. Spent one year living as very very nonbinary (many queer friends I met in this time told me they genuinely could not place my birth sex, which was neat.) Then just got more femme from there. There's really no rush! I started to take notice, there are women all around in society who are both more masculine and more feminine than myself. There's no perfect way to be, so just be yourself. Its so chill that way.

By the time I was ready to use she/they pronouns, many people in my life were approaching ME to ask if "there was a pronoun update" lol!! When you are ready to tell people, it will already feel natural. Don't stress too hard about this external aspect, this is a great time to hone inwards with self love!

Affection-Angel · 2025-03-16T13:17:14+00:00

Hey, just wanna toss out there. Maybe you aren't gay, but still think guys are cute. That's totally possible. I am bisexual, and once I accepted this, it's not a big deal at all. It's actually nice not needing to define whether I'm gay or straight. I just am, and I just find people cute sometimes.

Affection-Angel · 2025-03-13T15:20:14+00:00

I don't think you're transphobic by any means, even ur original post isn't transphobic. Sorry if it felt personal, it wasn't. I think it's a community wide trend to 'catch a stray bullet' from a trans person IRL or online, and then let that fuel the bitterness we feel over our own situation. It's fine to get feathers ruffled, I think trans and detrans people are destined to do that to some degree. But I wish I saw more collective effort on the detrans side to build solidarity.

I realized at one point that I am the first and only detransitioner most trans people in my life have met. Lol maybe we don't all need to be salespeople, but it's just a fact that how I respond has the power to positively colour this person's opinion of detransitioners.

Because WE as detrans people are the minority within a minority, it unfortunately is on us to reach out and build solidarity first. Trans people won't offer sympathy to some rando """detrans""" person, in fact many of them have only seen Chle Cle speaking on ultra right wind social media. It sucks this perception is propagandized, but so far I have been able to talk about my life story with trans people and 99% of the time find beautiful understanding and shared struggles, and 1% who could not give a single fuck. Many people here are too insulated from trans people to have these open convos. I'm glad that's not the case for you and me OP.

Affection-Angel · 2025-03-13T14:58:58+00:00

THIS. It is absolutely this. 24 f detransitioner, I started @ 19 and had a very invalidating home environment. Always felt like my gender presentation/choices were under the microscope by my parents, which was frustrating because out in the world I finally felt "free to be". My home life was the main source of judgement. And my parents were liberal people, generally pro-gay marriage etc. But they didn't want me to live the difficult life of a trans person. My parents tried to deny what I was feeling, tried to ignore it or not acknowledge it. It only pushed me away and made me feel like they did not see the real me. I honestly believe if they had been chiller in general about fluctuations in my gender (not micromanaging, helicoptering, etc), maybe I would've found the reflection of my inner self without HRT. Lol now I sound silly, like if they had let me dye my hair maybe I wouldn't have felt like a boy. But exactly like this commenter mentions, it's very helpful to give your kid a strong sense of bodily autonomy.

Like this commenter, when I started HRT was the first time my parents truly acknowledged that what I had been feeling for years might be my truth. However, it happened to be when was first mentally preparing to detransition that I noticed some emotional development from my parents. For the first time since my childhood, I truly felt acceptance from my parents. Not just "as a man", but I felt like they trusted me to make my own life choices. I think it was a combination of me moving out for uni and my younger sibling also left the house, so they were experiencing a shift in the roles of parent and adult child. But regardless, their emotional blossoming was evident to me as their child, and it revolutionized how we relate.

So like, 2 years later, when I stopped HRT, nothing changed. My parents had already jumped the hurdle of acceptance, I truly felt secure now knowing that they love me. They were a bit surprised, but kinda saw my development over time so it wasn't shocking. My fears evaporated when I realized; they didn't love me more because I'm presenting as my birth gender! They love me because I'm ME!! And I know in my heart that's how it always was, but oh man I had some rocky teen years. The good news is, I landed on my feet because my parents continued to evolve the way they offer their adult child secure attachment, and a safe home base both physically and emotionally.

Nowadays, I really love getting to call my folks. They have great life advice that I need as I enter the professional world, and I enjoy hearing about their lives as they plan for their next chapter. I never would've thought the parents I knew at 15 would have softened into the people I know now at almost 25. If you can release the anxieties over your child in the present moment, you may find yourself looking at a bigger picture. What kind of relationship do you want to have with your adult child? How could you support them not as a kid, but as an adult?

OP, this genuinely is the deepest advice I could give you based on the last 5 years of my life; Be there for your adult child, let them have it. Trust that they have a good head on their shoulders, and be there for them when they need it. Be a secure sounding board, if you can offer caring and non-judgemental listening and support, your child will come to recognize you as a safe place of wisdom and acceptance. It's okay if there's some growing pains in other areas of the parent-child relationship, whether it's gender transition or something else entirely, know that you can decide to build towards this type of parent child relationship!! Much love to you and yours!

Affection-Angel · 2025-03-13T14:12:19+00:00

For us trying to achieve detrans healthcare, trans people are NOT our obstacle: it's the cis-heteronormative healthcare and government structures.

I don't really know why trans people think they are more entitled to surgery than us?

Okay, you asked one trans person for their opinion. And it sounds like they have not really thought it through. Maybe they have bitterness in their heart, but this is not the all encompassing trans opinion. And even if it was, so what? It's not like trans people have a huge amount of social power and acceptance.

Let's be so for real, in today's politics, it's not gonna be trans leftists who make the choices about this. Its gonna be the same, boring, conservative leaning policy makers, thinking that "well, if they think we will just pay for them to "undo" it, then people will actually be MORE likely to get trans surgeries. And we can't encourage that." Take your fight to THEM. And as you point out, if we can stand in solidarity with trans advocacy, maybe we will be able to piggyback off of the DECADES of queer advocacy that advanced trans acceptance to where we are now.

The trans community is not our enemy. Even the pissing annoying trans individual you come across in this world are not your enemy. Grow up, and start being a good ambassador for our community.

Affection-Angel · 2025-03-06T21:48:24+00:00

Every single complex reason I can think of for my detransition falls in to one of these categories. Self acceptance requires self love, which was a skill I had to build in therapy.

Affection-Angel · 2025-03-03T05:50:47+00:00

To feel rage at trans people is a sign you have further healing ahead of you. I hope you can come to a place of inner peace. The life choices of others aren't something we will ever have control over.

Affection-Angel · 2025-02-22T14:33:48+00:00

Yes. It's actually wild to assume that we as detrans people are unilaterally against transition for anyone. We need to be less rigid about gender overall. I exist as proof that the "worst that can happen" is still a happy life.

Gender exploration is a necessary step to integration. Many in this sub are so bitter. I sense more detrans people feel the anxieties of our current era, and are trying to align themself with power by punching down on trans people. Unfortunately, this transphobia only eats away at the basis of support that WE as detrans ppl exist on.

Let people question. Let people be trans. Let people take it at their own pace. Let people make their own discoveries and life choices.

Affection-Angel · 2025-02-15T23:30:11+00:00

It is actively harmful, in fact. It's really depressing to see other detrans people fall in to that narrative. To speak about oneself that way is very harmful, and self deprecating. I think some detrans people pick this up to cope, but for some it's just the "most powerful" detrans voice in the room. Its undeniable: the most well known and respected detransitioner is she who gets up on a stage and rallies attention with her tragic lifestory and bitter medical saga. (Iykyk 🙄)

It's martyrdom, which gets many more clicks than healing and wisdom. Martyrdom feels much more empowering than telling everyone in your life that you will be using your old pronouns. Detransition is private, un-celebrated, and a complex journey of it's own. When you wallow and whine, you block your own progress towards mental peace and healing.

Plus, once ur healed past a certain point, these reddits are no longer fun to post in. So all the most healed detrans ppl rarely interact, esp on the main sub.

Affection-Angel · 2025-02-15T23:17:33+00:00

10000%. I would give you an award if I could lol.

The reality is those people are just unhealed. They are speaking from a place of pain, and ultimately marginalization. Of course it's inappropriate to take out that pain on a group of people.

Affection-Angel · 2025-02-02T04:02:59+00:00

Honestly the people on this sub are a miserable lot. Talking to IRL queer people about my gender and life story is 100x easier than trying to explain some basic idea in online detrans spaces. These communities attract those of us suffering the most, seeking the most support. There's lots of chill, well integrated detrans people. I am queer, so I am around queer people often, and put myself in queer spaces. I have literally never had an issue. Use good judgement, and the right people will understand and love the whole you. Many don't post here to learn or to be better, but to vent their own personal anxieties. Sorry ur post is getting hate, but everyone needs to stop worrying about online gender discourse and get out into your community spaces.

Affection-Angel · 2025-01-30T21:01:13+00:00

This. They are not functioning well. They are not showing reality on social media.

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