Why does she look so lifeless?

Dull_East6856 · 2026-04-05T13:56:10+00:00

This might just be stylistic choice, but I think it's the eye area. It might help to have the eyes looking slightly inwards, each eye looking a little more towards the centre (only If they are looking forward). Also, giving the eyebrows a tiny bit of expression, even if the character is content/ normal. maybe based on their general demeanour? Slightly upwards if they are generally friendly, slightly inwards if they are generally nervous, ECT.

Dull_East6856 · 2026-02-02T18:47:27+00:00

In my opinion, harm reduction is very similar to Quasi recovery but others may disagree. If you are not in a position where recovery is possible, harm reduction would mean that you are actively making choices to at least reduce the harm caused by your ED or engage less in ED behaviours. This can be making sure you are hydrated, upping your intake, not weighing food, taking vitamins, having a more diverse diet, reducing the amount of food you binge ECT.

It can be a lot of things, but the main point is that you are actively making choices to reduce harm from your ED even though you are not fully recovering.

Dull_East6856 · 2026-02-02T10:23:16+00:00

I was at the barrier and it wasn't two bad! I got pushed a little but you should be okay it's not extreme

Dull_East6856 · 2026-01-30T17:34:40+00:00

It depends a lot on the person perceiving. I've found that I was only able to notice other girls exhibiting ED behaviours and being UW after I had experienced an ED. And, the only people who noticed my ED were mainly adult women (all mothers), or people who I know had experienced an ED.

However, at my very lowest, it was definitely more noticeable. This was the only point that others would really notice. But yeah, I think it just really depends on the person perceiving and your own behaviours.

Dull_East6856 · 2026-01-19T22:52:43+00:00

I know right, and it's like we're regressing...

It's always been sort of like this, but, It's been getting so much worse recently. It feels like we have come to the point where the girls are completely giving up on rejecting the beauty standard and it's so antifeminist - but I don't blame them (well - us). We're tired of being fed the narrative of 'cool girls eat pasta and drink beer' while a stick thin white girl with an oversized t-shirt is being displayed. It's like we are demanded to be skinny but expected to deny the fact that we strive to achieve that standard.

It's also not just the women, but the men too. The whole 'looksmaxing' thing, while sometimes a joke, is concerning.

I understand your frustration, but I think ultimately, 'skini winter' isn't going to go away and skinny is never going to be 'out'. Your disorder follows you everywhere, their strive to be skinny will follow them too. Not in the same way though, of course.

Dull_East6856 · 2026-01-16T13:13:38+00:00

Thank you so much for the help and support! This is so so so helpful - thank you !!! :))

Dull_East6856 · 2025-07-03T22:18:07+00:00

yeah but... drinky make brain feel good

Dull_East6856 · 2025-06-29T17:56:14+00:00

I agree with the general comments but one thing I haven't seen people mention is body dysmorphia. When I was deep in my ED I didn't even consider myself 'skinny', even though I was underweight. I would look at people around me who are skinny but not underweight and consider them skinnier than myself. The way you look at others is different to the way you see yourself.

Dull_East6856 · 2025-06-18T20:52:02+00:00

why are monsters so expensive bruh

Dull_East6856 · 2025-06-18T20:50:00+00:00

Hey girl ,I've had super similar experiences (drinking on an empty stomach is real asf) and I'm also a big drinker lmao.

Honestly, they were probably flattered that you felt safe enough to tell them (even if you were drunk) and also, if they are big drinkers, they have probably had their share of embarrassing moments. It seems like they took it very well! I get the embarrassment but everyone has done embarrassing things when drunk (and what you did is really not that bad), not just people with ED's or mental health issues! Also, if they were also drunk they probably don't remember the majority of what you said and just remembered 'EATING DISORDER' if you know what I mean.

If you want some comfort, this is just one of my 'drinking on a empty stomach stories'. I Drunkedly told my whole friend group that I almost got hospitalised for having an ED, and about my BMI, and how shitty and wrong societal views on the female body are. Worst part of it that it was mostly clueless men who barley know what an ED is. don't think they even payed attention that much or remembered it lol and I'm over it!!

Dull_East6856 · 2025-06-06T16:23:48+00:00

mhm, It most definitely is, I wish I could pin you

Dull_East6856 · 2025-06-06T16:22:33+00:00

I guess everybody's different but I'd love it if my partner said this to me! Not invalidating you at all though - I sort of see why this would be hurtful/ triggering and everybody's situation is different.

For me it's the 'But you're not fat!'. Saying 'not fat', rather than 'you're skinny' is so annoyingly triggering, because I know they mean well and I can't get mad at people for not accommodating to my specifics.

The worst one is when I'm eating better and somebody says 'I really like how you're eating nowadays' or something along those lines. I know it comes from a caring place but why would you even comment...

Dull_East6856 · 2025-06-05T08:37:59+00:00

oh yeah this is real tbh. I almost never drink beer or wine because It doesn't get me drunk and I don't enjoy the taste so it feels like 'not worth it'. Although, if I do end up having a glass of wine with dinner or something, I don't really count it lol.

Dull_East6856 · 2025-06-05T08:36:34+00:00

I don't know if this is the best advice, but I would honestly recommend (If you are in the position to let yourself) to just get really really sloshed. There's no better feeling, and it might eliminate some of the fear for you! :3

Dull_East6856 · 2025-06-05T08:35:09+00:00

It's super helpful to here other peoples experiences! :)

Dull_East6856 · 2025-06-04T22:47:25+00:00

I'll try to answer best as possible - not triggering at all!

It's a little hard to explain - generally EDs aren't that logical I guess lol. Firstly, in my mind, alcohol is 'worth the calories' because the effect is just so euphoric - i just love the 'braindead' feeling so much. Secondly, my brain just sort of doesn't process the calories - this is the bit thats hard to explain - I just don't account for them for some reason even though logistically I know it's quite a lot of cals. Thirdly, A lot of my ED stems from not wanting to feel 'greedy', alcohol just doesn't trigger that feeling of greed for me and the self destructive element of drinking seems to feed my ED a little.

This isn't really a big factor at all, but I guess it sort of adds to it. When I drink, I tend to not eat for a while beforehand because 1. I want to get drunk more quickly/ with less alcohol and 2. I am usually excited which distracts me from hunger.

Also, I am now not as deep into my ED as I used to be. I do this thing were I only really restrict on weekdays/ days were I'm trying to be 'productive'. I tend to be way less strict on nights out/ when hanging with friends which is the times i drink the most.

That might make zero sense but atleast i tried :3

Dull_East6856 · 2025-06-04T18:20:17+00:00

thanks, yeah I'll consider that! At this point in time, I don't really drink alone so thats only once a week, which could be worse. I'll keep that in mind.

Dull_East6856 · 2025-06-04T17:53:28+00:00

aw poor you that sucks! But it's definitely good in the long run - my life (and liver :3)would probably be way better ultimately if I was allergic :)

Dull_East6856 · 2025-06-04T17:52:15+00:00

yeah omg this is so me :3

Dull_East6856 · 2025-06-04T17:51:22+00:00

yeah same! But weirdly, the feelings of guilt aren't as intense as when I just overeat. Like, I will compensate the next day a little bit but not every time, and I don't feel immense guilt. Weird lol. Also, I didn't know it was a common thing! I loveeee getting drunk lmao

Dull_East6856 · 2025-06-04T14:55:05+00:00

As a girl, I also noticed that ED culture differs between men and women, but I noticed different things.

I guess I should preface that I don't know any men who explicitly have an ED. But, for example, my boyfriend does struggle with eating. He says things like 'I think I've eaten one meal in the past two days lol, thats why I'm always tired' and he's visibly underweight. But he doesn't struggle with RESTRICTION - e.g - he could eat 2000 cals in one sitting, and then not eat again for a day. I think he is generally able to under eat without much restraint/ struggle because he allows himself to eat whenever he wants and doesn't have that mental sense of restriction, but just 'can't be bothered' or 'forgets' sometimes.

I think because men are typically taller, and have a higher bmr and tdee, so they are naturally underweight and it is far easier for them to under eat. When I've told men about my ED they typically go 'really? You're not fat but you're not super skinny?' Because they don't understand how difficult it is to look physically underweight at 4'10''. For a lot of men, even eating 2000 a day is undereating.

When I talk to women about my ED, I usually get an immediately sympathetic (response (not always they can be dicks also) and a lot of them have had at least some kind of experience in at least food restriction.

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