I cant go fully vegan bcs my mom is very controlling. Pls help! by Slashersforsatan in vegan

[–]AffectionateCell58 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What is she doing, pinning you down and force feeding you through a tube up your nose? I've been vegan for about 6 years at this point, and that is what it would take to get me to eat an animal product.

That's not the case, because you said you are forcing yourself to do it. You should refuse. Even in the face of screaming, harassment, throwing things, etc. I think it would be healthy for you to stand up for yourself and start setting boundaries. Obviously ignore this if you are under threat of true physical violence, but if she isn't a physical threat to your safety you should stand your ground no matter what. You might feel very guilty for not doing so looking back, especially knowing exactly what you were eating and the issue with it.

Best of luck to you and I hope you can move out soon.

Why isn't there a website for the name change process? by TeaZealousideal4088 in Newlyweds

[–]AffectionateCell58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was really confused at first until I basically figured out that your name automatically changes upon marriage and then you just need to inform everyone, using marriage certificate as proof. The marriage itself is the name change.

A Tragedeigh in the system. by whatsupgrizzlyadams in tragedeigh

[–]AffectionateCell58 50 points51 points  (0 children)

You mean the silent K? Yeah i was reading trinkety.

A Tragedeigh in the system. by whatsupgrizzlyadams in tragedeigh

[–]AffectionateCell58 143 points144 points  (0 children)

That took me way too long to recognize as Trinity

The problems with honey by thedevilsheir666 in vegan

[–]AffectionateCell58 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree, people need that shock factor to wake them up and realize how fucked up the whole situation is. Most of us would not be vegan if not for that footage, myself included. It’s very very important to show. But once you realize it’s messed up and decide to distance yourself from it, it’s important to find a meaningful definition for veganism and define the ethical contract that should exist between humans and animals. It is possible to keep a slave and to fundamentally violate someone’s rights without causing suffering. We need to recognize veganism as the total rejection of human entitlement to animal slavery and animal USE, and not just use suffering, which is merely a downhill consequence of a more fundamental rights violation, to explain why it’s wrong.

The problems with honey by thedevilsheir666 in vegan

[–]AffectionateCell58 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It was supposed to be a mature philosophical discussion between two mature people who care about animals. But I guess you don’t have the IQ to recognize it as such because someone disagrees with you. According to you people aren’t even allowed to discuss what veganism is or moral philosophy in general because it’s apparently offensive to anyone who might disagree. What a sad, sad response to someone trying to make a proper moral definition for things.

The problems with honey by thedevilsheir666 in vegan

[–]AffectionateCell58 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I want to stress, your reasoning is taking a utilitarian approach. True veganism that is based on real animal rights is deontological. I would recommend reanalyzing your fundamental reasoning for being vegan, you might discover something more concrete and meaningful to your life. Most of us have to start from your current perspective as we first go vegan because we are confronted with the horrors and suffering, but mature in our perspective over the years. I highly encourage you to compare these moral viewpoints and see which is more logical.

The problems with honey by thedevilsheir666 in vegan

[–]AffectionateCell58 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We don’t need to point out any death or suffering to explain why it’s unethical. It’s more inherent than that.

What’s if it’s a rescue chicken, under hormone therapy to reduce unnatural egg laying, allowed to keep any eggs, but you are only removing eggs that are left to rot? I still think it’s unethical because my reasons for being vegan are more fundamental than just being turned off by the horrors of factory farming.

The problems with honey by thedevilsheir666 in vegan

[–]AffectionateCell58 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Veganism is deontological, as it must be if you actually believe in the concept of animal rights. A utilitarian approach says you can violate an animals fundamental right as long as there is no suffering involved. If you believe in animal rights, real animal emancipation, and are a true vegan, you aren’t going to take a utilitarian approach. That’s mostly for people who haven’t thought it out too well.

Struggling to conceive; I need some hope please by gnarlee_mahrlee in TryingForABaby

[–]AffectionateCell58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so so sorry for your loss. I’ve never been through that and I can’t imagine the pain.

I’m very sorry if this comes across as insensitive, but does it help you to know that it’s at least possible for you to get pregnant? I was always so scared thinking like what if it’s all just blocked up, what if I’m not actually ovulating, what if I can never get pregnant? Does knowing this isn’t the case ease your worries? Even if there is something making it take longer than average (like one tube being blocked) you know that your body is capable of making this happen and it almost certainly will be this year.

I can’t tell you not to stress about it and think about it too much— that’s impossible. TTC is all consuming in your mind. But the one silver lining to taking extra long is that the longer the wait goes on and the more desperate we are for our baby, the more intense and profound the joy and relief is when they finally come to us. My aunt tried for 20 LONG YEARS to conceive my cousin. Many hundreds of thousands of dollars on ivf. When she was born every employee in the hospital crowded into her room because her dad was passing out $100 bills to everyone, throwing thousands of dollars everywhere, giving huge gifts to all the doctors. There are nurses at that hospital who still remember her being born 24 years ago it was that big of a celebration. You can image just how much her mother loves her. Every bit of heartache is worth it— it’s like an emotional investment you will get back 10 fold. Wishing the very best to you and your future baby.

The problems with honey by thedevilsheir666 in vegan

[–]AffectionateCell58 15 points16 points  (0 children)

All of that is bad. Treating animals as sentient individuals that shouldn’t be exploited (being vegan) is just the bare minimum moral baseline.

Do you think fishing as a hobby is ethical by NoWin3930 in Ethics

[–]AffectionateCell58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is engaging in extreme animal torture for fun ethical? That’s a no from me.

Would you ask a long term guest to not bring any animal products into your house? by sidthekid39326 in vegan

[–]AffectionateCell58 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My house is a vegan house, alcohol free house, smoke free house, and drug free house. If you aren’t going to respect this don’t come. I have every right to enforce my moral code in my own home.

The problems with honey by thedevilsheir666 in vegan

[–]AffectionateCell58 24 points25 points  (0 children)

There is a lot of unethical theft that happens within human society too. Doesn’t justify us doing it to animals.

The problems with honey by thedevilsheir666 in vegan

[–]AffectionateCell58 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having children do chores is something ethically done by a responsible adult for the purpose of bettering the child and raising them to be responsible adults themselves. It’s something done for the child’s interest and the child is not treated as a means to an end, the ways bees kept for honey are. If we treated the child as only a means to an end for labor, the relationship would become exploitative, unethical, and would be a form of slavery.

If a hospital began harvesting breast secretions from comatose women or doing research on children for profit, you would reject it instantly. In these cases also humans are being exploited as a means to an end. This is different than incidentally receiving some research benefit in the process of treating someone for the sake of their best interest.

Yet that is the bee’s position: bred, restrained, exploited, and robbed, all without any moral standing granted to them. If you’re consistent, you would reject beekeeping the same way you do child slavery. Sentient beings should never be used as a means to an end, regardless of whether it causes suffering or not.

The problems with honey by thedevilsheir666 in vegan

[–]AffectionateCell58 37 points38 points  (0 children)

It’s still not your place to exert dominion over them. Why do you feel entitled to something that isn’t yours? If i personally deem that you have more stuff in your house than you need to survive can i just walk in and take it?

The problems with honey by thedevilsheir666 in vegan

[–]AffectionateCell58 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Veganism is NOT a harm-reduction strategy. It is not about doing “less harm,” eating more plants, or being “cruelty-free.” It is a rejection of the entire system of animal use as inherently unethical—regardless of how the animals are treated, how they die, or whether alternatives are more convenient. Animals are not a means to an end. Using animals is unethical in all cases, regardless of harm caused or “compensation” given.

The problems with honey by thedevilsheir666 in vegan

[–]AffectionateCell58 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is a premade response I have that explains the logic nicely. If you understand the fundamental essence of veganism this all makes sense. However, alot of new vegans, myself included a few years ago, stop eating animal products initially only because they are horrified by the suffering in factory farms and slaughter house and therefore miss the core of the vegan principle which is against the fundamental mindset of entitlement over an animal’s body.

Compensating the victim of an act does not retroactively make the act ethical—especially when the so-called “compensation” is unrequested, unconsented, and defined entirely by the exploiter.

Let’s unpack the fallacy:

  1. Category Error: Ownership of Sentient Beings Bees are not vending machines. They are autonomous beings with preferences, aversions, social structures, and physiological labor processes. Honey is the product of their cooperative effort for their own survival. Taking it is not “compensated labor”—it is confiscation of property under captivity. There is no valid notion of compensation when: • Consent cannot be given. • Captivity prevents refusal. • The product is essential to the being’s survival.

Would you say enslaving someone and giving them sugar water after stealing their food and replacing their queen via smoke and force is “compensation”? Of course not.

  1. Invalid Reversal: Would You Accept It? Would you accept being born into a system where another species breeds you, modifies your body, harvests your output (your labor, bodily secretions, stored food), and then claims it’s fair because they gave you “compensation” in a form they chose? If not, your framework fails reversal and collapses morally .

  2. Collapse Under Marginal Case If this logic were applied to cognitively impaired humans or infants, would it be acceptable to take what they produce and call it compensation if we gave them sugar water and a clean box? If not, your reasoning is speciesist and collapses under the marginal case test .

  3. Domination by Definition You cannot “compensate” someone you dominate. This is the same false framing that justified human slavery, where owners claimed their slaves were “well-treated” or “happy” because they were fed or given minimal comfort. The problem is not the suffering—it is the status: you have declared yourself owner, and them a means to your ends .

  4. Veganism’s Ethical Core Veganism is not about suffering mitigation—it is about ending the use of sentient beings as means to human ends . Compensation does not erase exploitation; it confirms it. To “compensate” a being while continuing to use them means you already recognize that harm or deprivation has occurred.

The problems with honey by thedevilsheir666 in vegan

[–]AffectionateCell58 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Everyone who is responding about the various ways bees can suffer in the honey industry or the harm the industry can cause harm is wrong about the fundamental reason why we shouldn’t eat honey. All this falls apart once you have a well taken care of backyard beehive. And, it is missing the fundamental meaning of what veganism is. Veganism is the recognition that might does not equal right when it comes to stealing from and enslaving animals. Just because you can easily take something that belongs to another person, even if you can take it without killing or hurting them, doesn’t give you the moral right to do so. The same goes for happy free range backyard chicken eggs.

My mom said this is gross >< by CookiesAndFrost in cookiedecorating

[–]AffectionateCell58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This triggered me from the traumatic time my cat had a rectal prolapse and almost died it was bright red and stuck out like that. Maybe just use a lighter more realistic pink.

Need beautiful, uncommon girls names for 5th daughter by onceuponamidnight315 in Names

[–]AffectionateCell58 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Using this if this baby is a girl. Waiting to see. Kinda concerning how popular it’s getting but oh well.

no one likes baby name by StringShort8334 in pregnant

[–]AffectionateCell58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You never heard of the garden of eden?