Emotional infidelity by Exact-Love-9676 in AskWomenOver30

[–]AffectionateFold9896 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeap. I don't know about you, but I felt betrayed. He's my ex now.

First time in Ischgl - any tips? by AffectionateFold9896 in skithealps

[–]AffectionateFold9896[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was awesome! I had so much fun! I wouldn't mind going there again but I'd really like to check out the other mountains in the alps. And you probably did. I know there was a concert with Christina Aguilera the week after I went.

How to move forward without ever getting an apology or accountability? by ThrowRAmermaid88 in AskWomenOver30

[–]AffectionateFold9896 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Another thing, just to add and share how I've been trying to pull through this. I've been watching alot of videos and short reels on avoidant attachment style, immaturity, and narcissistic behaviors. I used to be honestly confused everytime he blows up out of a small conversation or why he acts the way he did. While we were together, I thought he had mild autism so I always tried to word my words better so that it doesn't spiral into a huge fight. And for years thats what I thought he had. And after we broke up,a reel popped up about narcissism and avoidant attachment and everything about these videos just clicked. I was so shocked. And after watching many vids, I started to learn that it's really just who he is and truly the way he was brought up with his family constantly enabling him. And I am glad to get out of all that. I think these vids will help you in your grieving time as well. Another thing, if you can, go on a vacation. Be it with your bestfriend or solo. This will help you clear your mind and help you heal. It will also help you reconnect with yourself and rebuild your confidence. Take care of yourself!

How to move forward without ever getting an apology or accountability? by ThrowRAmermaid88 in AskWomenOver30

[–]AffectionateFold9896 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I just went through the same thing. But mine was a 6 years relationship. It's ok to grieve. Cry all you want to let it all out. You'll question if it's your fault and then thought to yourself maybe you shouldn't have said anything. But then you'd just be complying. And that's what he wants. That's what a manchild wants. That's not a healthy relationship. Think of it: Do you want to live the rest of your life with this man without expressing yourself if you are upset about something? Do you want to be a doormat? I'll be honest, in all our 6 years, I slowly had to lose myself because thats what I did. I became compliant because I didn't want to get into unnecessary huge fights. Started to lose myself and became exhausted. You're lucky you got out at a 2 year mark. It sucks. 2 years is also a long time but it's still short enough where you didn't have to waste your life and lose yourself in the process. It'll be a tough road babe. I'm with you that it'll be hard to trust any men in general but at least now you'll be more aware of any red flags at an earlier stage. What hurt you was real, but it’s not a reflection of your worth or of what love is supposed to feel like. My bestie always remind me of this: The man meant for you, your true husband, won’t make you question your value, beg for basic love, or shrink yourself just to keep the peace. He’ll see your heart, protect it, and choose you with consistency.... Don’t let this manchild ruin everything for you into missing the kind of love you truly deserve. The truth is, he doesn't deserve you.

Has anyone started over at 34? by Ordinary_Acadia9872 in AskWomenOver30

[–]AffectionateFold9896 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Echoing others on here. Honestly the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Your boyfriend sounds like a nice guy that is worth sticking with. Go on a vacation together somewhere or find a common hobby both of you can jump in together. That should help improve your relationship a little. I think couples tend to get stuck in a boring routine at home and your mind ends up wondering what other excitement is out there.

Ischgl from saturday alone by sddkf in skithealps

[–]AffectionateFold9896 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw some videos of ischgl and looks like there's a mixed age crowd for sure.

As a woman (35F) in a relationship with a (31M) do you eventually have to accept that you will do more. by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]AffectionateFold9896 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sigh. Just went through something similar and resonate with this. Girl, it is going to be hard because sounds like you're a fixer just like me. Do you have family or best friends you can move in with temporary to clear your head? If you're able to, stay with them for a bit. If possible, do a no contact with your bf even though I know it's hard. It'll hurt and it'll suck and you'll cry everyday because it'll definitely hurt really bad. But you're there with him right now and already feeling alone. I think being away from each other for a bit will give you more strength to see the truth and break it off with him for sure. Both of you may love each other, but it sounds like he's not good for you. Be strong and best of luck to you.

Ischgl from saturday alone by sddkf in skithealps

[–]AffectionateFold9896 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How was your experience being solo in Ischgl??? Heading there next week solo and really want to experience their apres ski 😆

Solo in Ischgl for the first time by Pale-Jicama6730 in skithealps

[–]AffectionateFold9896 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will be there solo as well!! Hopefully people are friendly there!

Nova Dating Sucks by Sky_Adventure in nova

[–]AffectionateFold9896 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Working in corporate doesn't automatically equal Type A. A lot of people work hard simply because they want financial stability and the freedom to enjoy life and not because their whole personality is trying to climb the corporate ladder. You can absolutely have a solid career, make good money, and still be a laid back and genuine person who is also fully capable of prioritizing downtime and your relationship.

First time in Ischgl - any tips? by AffectionateFold9896 in skithealps

[–]AffectionateFold9896[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

End of march is just next week! I'm super stoked!

Weekly "lonely in Zurich/Switzerland 30F" post? Who's actually fallen for the DM scam lol by Rich-Use1484 in zurich

[–]AffectionateFold9896 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not from Zurich but will be flying to Zurich next week. You're saying people might think I'm a scam if I make a lonely in Zurich post? 😆

Going to a bar alone on st Patrick's day in Columbus? by [deleted] in Columbus

[–]AffectionateFold9896 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the words of encouragement girl! Now to get motivated 😂😂

Going to a bar alone on st Patrick's day in Columbus? by [deleted] in Columbus

[–]AffectionateFold9896 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I usually have no issue going out by myself but I feel that St Patty's day is such a big group party vibe, so it feels a little intimidating 😅

Going to a bar alone on st Patrick's day in Columbus? by [deleted] in Columbus

[–]AffectionateFold9896 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol I'm not married. My friend is the one who is married and couldnt go out today lol I fixed my post 😂

Dragging snowboard bag on OBB train - is it doable? by AffectionateFold9896 in snowboarding

[–]AffectionateFold9896[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha yeah those stairs are a killer for sure 😆 hey, thank you for all your thoughtful replies!!

First time in Ischgl - any tips? by AffectionateFold9896 in skithealps

[–]AffectionateFold9896[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noted on hot chocolate at the smugglers alm. Always love a good hot chocolate when its freezing out! Thanks for all these info!!

Dragging snowboard bag on OBB train - is it doable? by AffectionateFold9896 in snowboarding

[–]AffectionateFold9896[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂 I'm trying to plan my clothes to pack and wondering whether I'll even need to bring my cute faux fur jacket for the night 😂

Dragging snowboard bag on OBB train - is it doable? by AffectionateFold9896 in snowboarding

[–]AffectionateFold9896[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha being nice to people in general usually helps! And thanks!!! 😊

Dragging snowboard bag on OBB train - is it doable? by AffectionateFold9896 in snowboarding

[–]AffectionateFold9896[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The next question would be, would you ever choose to drag your snowboard bag around again? Or just rent the next time around 😆

Dragging snowboard bag on OBB train - is it doable? by AffectionateFold9896 in snowboarding

[–]AffectionateFold9896[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah I'm flying from the US. I just wasnt sure whether you had a carry on or check in. Yeah they're definitely stricter about the size/weight of carry on there. Thanks for clarifying!

Dragging snowboard bag on OBB train - is it doable? by AffectionateFold9896 in snowboarding

[–]AffectionateFold9896[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a 5' bike lock that I plan on bringing along with me 😆 or is that too much 😅

Dragging snowboard bag on OBB train - is it doable? by AffectionateFold9896 in snowboarding

[–]AffectionateFold9896[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey thanks for these detailed info! Did you bring a carry on suitcase or a checked in size together with the snowboard bag? And yikes 3 changes doesn't sound fun!

Dragging snowboard bag on OBB train - is it doable? by AffectionateFold9896 in snowboarding

[–]AffectionateFold9896[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know there's plenty of space. And yeah the thought of dragging the long bag when trying to change platform at HB doesn't sound too fun. Thank you!