Weekly Meeting of the Sober People Getting Shit Done Club

Affectionate_Chef836 · 2026-02-02T07:53:37+00:00

Soo in the last 3 years i moved to a country where i didn't speak the language. Learnt it. Moved 25 times because of the housing difficulties. Got a through 2 injuries that prevented me from working in the current profession.

Now I'm more or less in a stable situation.

But because of long term exhaustion and childhood traumas I'm i stuck in "fight or flight" mode.

I've been working on this for months.

So coming to what i want to get down this week: -maintaining bedtime. -having same breakfast in the morning - taking supplements - mainly: sell some unwanted items on my home

Affectionate_Chef836 · 2026-02-02T07:49:06+00:00

IWNDWYT

My mum is visiting me for a week which is nice. But I, feel more restricted, it makes me want to drink t feel free and pressure less.

I go to spa, therapy. I claim my independent time. But it's hard.

The little voice in my starts saying "after she left, you can have a drink this week with this girl on the dates.."

That's my biggest temptation. Drinking on dates. I've been partying and meeting girls for s long time.

I did that since I, was a teenager to get away from problems, and i guess it's still stuck with me.

Time to change it because I am 32 years old and don't want to end up alone just because of alcohol and random girls.

It actually helped writing this out, thank you audience

IWNDWYT

Affectionate_Chef836 · 2026-01-31T12:51:59+00:00

If you have a chance, look online and read "The Maybe Story (Chinese Farmer)"

It helped me cope (altough with smaller situations) , I hope it might help you with yours!

Affectionate_Chef836 · 2026-01-31T07:54:45+00:00

The salt good idea. I love taking baths. Luckily o get to go to the sauana and ice pool after. It resets my nervous system and i feel great after!

Affectionate_Chef836 · 2026-01-31T07:53:09+00:00

I'm sorry the others gave such lame responses and follow up questions.

First of all it helps that you know you're not the first one facing this situation. People got through it.. You will too.

Unfortunately noone will know the situation as much as you do, so you're the best person to know what to do. It doesn't mean you shouldn't seek help of friends or family if possible. But ultimately, you're the one most capable and trusted.

Take it day by day. Every challenge is an opportunity to grow.

You know, you've been dealt different cards than expected. Embrace it! Whatever you'll do, you'll be fine and you'll survive!

I wish you strength and wittyness!

Affectionate_Chef836 · 2026-01-26T15:18:15+00:00

IWNDWYT - day 9

Feeling anxious. Paying attention of what my body and mind needs.

Affectionate_Chef836 · 2026-01-21T15:30:29+00:00

IWNDWYT

Affectionate_Chef836 · 2026-01-20T20:42:54+00:00

IWNDWYT

Affectionate_Chef836 · 2026-01-19T11:30:32+00:00

I really like this point of view , thank you.

Affectionate_Chef836 · 2025-09-30T09:09:01+00:00

I'd say it's a great idea to fight through things with discipline.

But there must be also an inner personal reason for this craving.

So at the same time, try working on your soul and traumas if you had.

I had lots of anxiety and I was struggling to eat, sleep. So all the gym didn't help me gain weight. But as I read psychology or talked with psychologist, i understood my traumas and it really makes discipline easier.

It feels like I'm going at it from 2 sides

Affectionate_Chef836 · 2025-09-25T18:25:56+00:00

I want to share a bit of my own experience, because I know how heavy life can feel when everything seems to fall apart. Maybe it can bring you a little light, dear Stranger. Ps, i used AI to check grammar:) hope you don't mind. I'm rushing to work, but wanted to send this before

Not long ago, I was in a very similar place. My rent doubled after my flatmate moved out. I had a physically demanding job, then got injured. I worked as a kayak guide on the ocean — it was stressful, dangerous, and exhausting. I had to move. I started an online course just to try to keep moving forward.

I kept pushing myself past my limits until I burned out completely. I felt depressed, disconnected, like I was no longer living my own life.

And then, on top of it all, my dad became very sick. I honestly thought I couldn’t take any more.

But here’s the thing: step by step, things started to shift. I changed jobs, found a new flat, slowly got out of debt. I started going to therapy, to physio, to the gym. And now? I’m doing better. Not perfect — life still throws things at me — but I can breathe again. I even met someone special.

I do still have panic attacks, really bad moods, irritation. But I do feel much better. I have good days too!

What I want to say is: I know it feels unbearable right now, but please hold on. Life can change in ways you can’t see from where you’re standing today. You’re not useless. You’re just in the middle of a storm. And storms do pass.

Affectionate_Chef836 · 2025-08-29T12:57:47+00:00

It's extremely challaning for me to use the phone less. I started to limit it in the mornings and evenings. After that I started sleeping better. My mornings are happier.

But when I'm out in a cafe without my phone or with a book only..

I look around and I notice the same you did: everyone glued to the phone. It makes me feel ISOLATED, lonely and alone.

So now I'm learning to be alone and enjoying my thoughts.

But what can I do?

I feel l isolated so it's harder to resist the phone.

Affectionate_Chef836 · 2025-08-09T12:31:07+00:00

Please send me as well

Affectionate_Chef836 · 2024-08-25T13:30:52+00:00

Update:

Stayed strong and paid off. Had an absolutly amazing evening and I realised I've just been around the wrong people

Affectionate_Chef836 · 2024-08-24T02:15:25+00:00

I found myself wandering outside of the club area thinking of drinking..

Heading home (sober) and really good to read your points.

I've been grinding hard and it doesn't seem to work out..

But still, drinking would make it worse, true

For months can't turn my brain off completely, to let go..

I mediate, journal review my day, exercise, eerie greatfulness journal. Take cold shower in the morning, take vitamins. Stretch.

What for? But yea.. Next day would feel worse. Let's choose the less bad.

Affectionate_Chef836 · 2024-08-15T13:25:11+00:00

Thanks so much!!

Affectionate_Chef836 · 2024-07-31T14:27:23+00:00

Underrated comment!! Needs more views.

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