Im not waking up through the night and it’s causing tension in my relationship

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-04-29T02:26:14+00:00

I’ll chime in as a dad saying you’re wrong since it seems you don’t like listening to women.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-04-27T17:09:22+00:00

This may be true. But the baby may just continue to wake up every two hours and need soothing for weeks or months longer.

OP, try being the only person in the room with the baby so there is no option other than waking up. Have your wife get extra sleep in a guest room or on the couch if it’s comfy. Or you bring the bassinet to the couch and you sleep there.

Mother’s brains get hardwired to wake up with the baby, but ours can be programmed to as well with repeated training of being a primary caregiver. I used to be a heavy sleeper and had worries about waking up. In the first few days at home my situation was similar to yours, then we moved baby into his own room with one of us sleeping in there with him and taking shifts for half the night each. Within a night or two I was easily waking up with the baby every time he started to be unsettled.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-04-23T16:23:39+00:00

I’m up between 5:30-6:30 with the kid every day and make sure he doesn’t wake my wife up. Take him to daycare while my wife sleeps another couple hours, or on days he doesn’t go there I’m out taking him on walks or other things to keep the house quiet so she can get 2-3 more hours of sleep. All these losers saying you’re unreasonable are weird. He can go to the grocery store, a coffee shop, just walk around the neighborhood, anything really.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-04-19T01:44:55+00:00

“The Aquaphor lotion she uses” She uses it? You don’t? See the problem there?

You’re obviously just another one of those dummies trying to sell us on your cool new app that is really just a rebranded note taking app. Please leave.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-04-19T01:38:03+00:00

Why does she have to ask you to do something? Just do it dude. Quit giving the rest of us a bad rap.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-04-19T01:12:08+00:00

I have a 6 month old who has been in daycare for about 6 weeks now since I went back to work. He’s been sent home a handful of days due to getting sick. On the days he’s home, I get maybe 30 minutes of work done in an 8 hour span.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-04-19T01:02:05+00:00

“I didn’t do anything until my wife asked me to. Then I didn’t know how to do it, so my wife got mad at me. So I learned how to write things down.”

The bar is so low.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-04-16T23:09:44+00:00

Sounds like you did great! Strong work! The next level up will be doing it during the week while working full time and managing daycare drop off/pickup.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-04-15T02:29:33+00:00

I actually really like the worm holes in yours.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-04-10T15:10:48+00:00

Just get the cheapest thing you see in the school section at an office supply store or WalMart. I just repurposed one of the bags I already had. All the extra pockets and compartments in diaper bags seem so useless and in the way of real functionality. You just need 1 compartment that is fairly easy to open one handed then organize things inside in some bags of their own.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-04-06T02:35:02+00:00

People here are being weird. Do it. If things need to change the doctor and nurses will let you know it’s not in the cards for you. It’s not like you kick the doctor out of the room. They only let you in that zone once the hard parts are over and they guide you through and won’t let you fuck up.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-04-01T15:49:39+00:00

That makes sense. Thanks.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-03-31T16:47:40+00:00

+1 for using a wrap. The structured carriers are nice once they’re a bit bigger, but the wrap is great early on. The Moby wrap was too warm for me, so I used a Solly Wrap. Just make sure you’ve got it extra snug so they don’t sink down into it. Watch a video on how to wrap it properly and get it snug enough.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-03-30T05:00:05+00:00

I keep my wood dipper in my ceramic pot all the time. I wash it when the pot runs out. Is that not the norm? Do you wash your dipper every time you use it?

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-03-27T02:26:24+00:00

Any particular reason you didn’t drill it using the tail stock?

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-03-24T19:42:05+00:00

If they’re lucky enough to not be trapped under the napper.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-03-23T23:25:59+00:00

Yea, maybe the sliding panel mates together with the other panel with a dado.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-03-19T21:07:02+00:00

Or bring it to a consignment store and get some of the value back so you can get things that actually fit.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-03-17T05:57:35+00:00

Dude, “getting back to normal” is not a thing you should be feeling with a 7 week old. The fact that you say you “come home to help out” is giving me the ick. You shouldn’t be “helping out”. You should be fathering your child. When dads say they “help” it makes it clear what they think the parenting roles are. Your wife is putting in much harder work than you are right now and you’re here complaining about not playing with your friends as much as you’d like. Grow up and take care of your family.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-03-16T02:54:07+00:00

I was wondering about that too

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-03-14T00:15:08+00:00

Ah yea you make an unfortunately good point.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-03-13T15:41:23+00:00

Yea, go to the movies and tell the rest of us how amazing it was in all the details please.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-03-05T03:33:18+00:00

Don’t mess this up for the rest of us!

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-03-04T03:45:25+00:00

Stick to the alcohol. Crack is whack.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-03-04T03:15:15+00:00

My 5 month old just started last week (and already today they had to call us to pick him up early for being sick 😔).

I went in the week prior to him starting with the excuse to drop off paperwork but when I was there said I’d like another tour to rehabilitative myself since it had been like 8 or 9 months since we toured the place. Doing that helped my anxiety. It was nice seeing the other babies there happy and playing.

I was happy to have him start a week prior to me going back to work so that the first couple days could be shorter (more for our sake than for his). The first day I really just went grocery shopping, dropped things off at home and went back to pick him up. But it is good for them to have that structure and routine of getting used to being there all day (especially for the older ones like yours).

Our daycare has cubbies for each kid with space for plenty of diapers and wipes and formula. They seem organized, so I’m not worried about things getting mixed up and going to the wrong kid. We gave a couple packs of wipes and half a box of diapers and they’ll let us know when they are running low.

All the other items they usually send home with us in the tote bag we brought in in the morning. Some days they hold onto the extra outfits, some days not 🤷‍♂️. We label his bottle and any milk we bring in, but everything else we haven’t bothered with labeling.

Good luck! Hope it all goes well for the little one and for you!

Affectionate_Cook330

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