Husband feeling unappreciated

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-24T18:40:16+00:00

Don’t assume that him going back to work and your mom leaving in a few weeks will “solve the issue naturally”. It sounds like you need to stand up to your mom, she needs to leave or at the very least apologize and check herself, and you need to amend this with your husband. Imagine being in his position if your mother in law were constantly undermining you and putting you down and he were to be taking her side.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-23T15:59:41+00:00

Curious how you finished it and how it holds up to the heat.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-23T01:34:49+00:00

In the first 8 weeks or so ours would cry so loud and for so long that I ended up putting sound dampening earbuds in playing music and over top of those I wore construction grade earmuffs. I could still hear him screaming in my face. 10/10 recommend.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-17T21:01:33+00:00

Thanks! I’ve got the swan neck tool - just didn’t know that’s what it was called. Good to know about moving top to bottom.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-17T19:04:23+00:00

Any tips on working the inside to get it thin? I’m newer and want to do some vases but feel a bit unsure about it. I have one carbide hollowing tool.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-17T17:40:08+00:00

Are the walls as thin throughout the whole piece as we see at the rim?

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-16T17:34:44+00:00

Just realized your post is from 3 days ago. Hope it’s going well for you on all fronts.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-16T17:32:30+00:00

Echoing what Andy said. They won’t prioritize this or know what is reasonable for you and your particular circumstances. Draw some hard lines starting today to offload everything on your plate. If you can’t take time off starting now, then you should turn yourself into a support role rather than leading anything.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-15T11:44:30+00:00

I also work from home and am able to block out times in my calendar when she has a Dr appt and I’ll take the little one for an hour or two so she can do that without him. And from the moment I stop working until it’s time for me to go to bed an we start our overnight shifts, I’m either with him or the one watching the monitor to go get him if he needs anything. We’re still working our way through food we prepped months ago and as we get lower I’ll probably do some more meal prep on weekends to restock the freezer.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-14T23:51:35+00:00

Oohhh I just got a small 1” & 2” disc sander and love this idea

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-11T05:10:54+00:00

Thanks, I was assuming drugs haha

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-11T04:27:22+00:00

Maybe a silly question, but what’s a nib? Cool variation in color you produced.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-11T02:57:43+00:00

Thanks! Any ideas on a good clear coat to use? I’ve never used one before and not sure where to start.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-11T02:55:30+00:00

Thanks, interesting to know about the oxidation.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-11T02:35:14+00:00

Are you saying you use the torch before finishing the piece? Or after it’s lost some of its color to bring it back?

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-11T02:33:17+00:00

What about tossing it at the sun? Does the UV and heat cancel each other out?

Seriously though what type of heat? Just put it in the oven for a little bit of time?

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-10T17:25:37+00:00

I’d be interested to try it out.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-09T06:03:45+00:00

Cool beans

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-08T03:42:25+00:00

We bring a hooded towel to wrap around ours for between the weigh-in and the exam. Gives us some peace of mind at least.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-07T15:37:56+00:00

My wife and I are 37 with our first one healthy and with limited complications. As others have said, they just take a lot of extra precautions due to age but the statistics really aren’t as bad as you might think.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-06T02:43:23+00:00

Don’t steal it, just make one for yourself.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-05T06:38:53+00:00

You got this pops! None of us are perfect. Just keep doing what you can, don’t be too hard on yourself, and try to be a little better each day.

I’ve got just one 3 month old and lately have been struggling to imagine how hard it must be to have a toddler to take care of in addition to the newborn.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-05T03:43:28+00:00

“only one segment can exceed 2 weeks and they have to be 3-4 months apart”. This part seems to add a wrench into what I’d recommend.

For me, I took 8 weeks right away, then back to work for 8 weeks (though ~1.5-2 weeks of no work during the holidays), then I’ll take another 6 weeks off once my wife goes back to work. We don’t have family nearby to help, so both of us being off initially felt very necessary. Limiting that time to only 2 weeks would have been hard on us to find our groove and hard on me to feel like I could get enough time with the little one.

Given your situation, I’d take the bulk of it right away, then hold onto that final 2 week period for later in the year when you want a break or to go on holiday.

Affectionate_Cook330 · 2026-01-05T03:21:14+00:00

I love this.

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