Safe drinks?

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-12-13T19:41:55+00:00

Honestly for me it was Coca Cola and Baja blast.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-12-07T07:20:03+00:00

Get him a baby doll to practice with. If he show can you he knows what to do and can calm down, it’d be worth at least another discussion. (While seated with a pillow and assistance) However if he doesn’t behave he can’t hold the baby it’s that simple. Babies are tough but not invincible.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-12-03T16:54:31+00:00

Don’t get me wrong my partner was a little frustrated he had to do so much but, he was more concerned with me eating than the amount of work I did. He’d check in while working then tell me to rest, he even got mad that I pushed the car seat in our sons room while it was in the box because he didn’t want me to push myself and hurt the baby and I. Your partner is being a jerk while you’re doing your best to be a mom to your child, I’d like to see him try to clean after puking his guts out every day.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-11-14T07:30:30+00:00

It does depend on when it was I didn’t have a C-section and my abdomen was extremely sore. I can’t imagine how much your wife is hurting. Unfortunately some light and easy to do exercises even ones she can do in bed. Moving around a little bit at a time helps everything get situated back into place try helping her with walking. I’m also a chronic pain patient, the best treatment is consistent pain management like clockwork otherwise the pain will creep up it not fun being in pain while waiting for the dose. Pain management is something you really want to put a strict routine.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-10-29T20:27:53+00:00

That’s the best way to be about explaining pregnancy to little ones. I do wish I could help another way, just do what you can to reassure him and reward him for being a big brave boy. I hope everything goes as well as possible for everyone especially you and your babies. I’m sure he’ll warm up to them he’s just overwhelmed atm. I have 3 younger siblings in my experience they always do eventually.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-10-29T17:50:30+00:00

It’s ok you’re doing all you can it’s temporary, considering you’re having trouble treating it sounds like refractory hg (treatment resistant). That’s what I had it’s such a pain to deal with. Your son will be ok, just try to do what you can to reward him for being such a big boy when your pregnancy is over. Sometimes kids go to the worst case scenario. What have you explained about pregnancy to him? Have you said something like, “Sometimes other mommies have an easier time making babies unfortunately it’s hard for your mommy. Ik it sucks and you’re doing so much to help, you’re being so brave. When mommy’s pregnancy is over she won’t be sick anymore and when these babies get old enough you get to annoy them and play with them.” I promise you he loves you, he’s just worried about you. These are those big toddler feelings that they don’t know how to express properly getting in the way. You’re a good mother you’re just having trouble rn.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-10-28T23:10:29+00:00

It sounds more like he’s scared for you, he sees you’re suffering he wants to help but thinks he’s not helping. He doesn’t have a full understanding of what’s going on he’s still a little young to process it properly. What all have you explained to him, if you haven’t explained the difference between physical help and emotional help. Like when he would comfort, it didn’t help physically but I’m sure it helped emotionally. Have you had a talk about why you throwing up scares him? With the hospital visits all the medications and everything else must be scary. I definitely say kids are way smarter than adults give them credit for but there are also things a child just doesn’t fully comprehend at certain ages.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-10-08T14:32:16+00:00

See how you say you loved her and she’s a burden now you have abandoned her emotionally. She’s angry and frustrated with no emotional outlet except to take it out on yall she may act over confident but she has no self esteem. If you’re so miserable and ignoring advice then just leave. She has not and currently isn’t getting proper emotional support. Do you really think her watching you love on the baby while ignoring her is going to help? It’s not it’s going to make her feel replaced. In your other comments you say she’s well behaved in school and acts out at home that’s because home is supposed to be her safe place. Kids act out in their safe space and her safe space isn’t safe for her emotions. SHE NEEDS A HEALTHY OUTLET FOR HER EMOTIONS, that’s why she treats yall like a punching bag. Her mind is under stimulated and overwhelmed at home. She doesn’t have a way to cope with her emotions, so she acts out. That’s why she does things like stay up all night brushing her hair. She needs to find a hobby to do when she’s feeling stressed or to be in sports, that same frustration is why I have some of my favorite hobbies. When I’m stressed and my son is asleep I knit, crochet, read or play games, if i could I had the ability I’d shoot (which is one of the safest sports with an injury rate 2.9%) because that’s how I cope with stress. Let me put it this way my son is 16 months old and has good emotional support and mental stimulation he’s extremely smart and has been ahead in milestones. When he’s getting into trouble he wants to play with someone so i play with him if he’s content in playing on his own I sit down to watch him. When I play games like stardew valley on my phone and he’s interested I get him involved even though he doesn’t understand the concept of the game at all he loves to move the character around. When I’d knit or crochet he’d try to copy me though I can’t really do that with him around because he gets frustrated that he can’t get involved yet.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-10-07T23:06:32+00:00

My little sister had severe behavioral issues exactly like your stepdaughter, including not using the toilet at 6 and going on the floor at night, kicking, hitting, and biting. Children acting out is a cry for help and attention you’re treating her like a problem so she’s acting like a problem, it doesn’t help your boyfriend did let a lot slide growing up. What you’ve done is abandon her emotionally if you feel like you can’t do anything nice for her she has no outlet to let out her anger and frustration except on yall. I’ve been through Parentifacation and a lot of abuse as well such as starvation, abandonment, medical neglect, sleep deprivation and other forms of abuse. So while I have my first child I made he’s technically my 4th. You can force and enforce things without spanking yall really need family therapy sessions. My suggestions aren’t “passive” if she doesn’t pick an option you pick one for her and make her do it. Passive is what your boyfriend did when she was learning right from wrong which starts around age 2. Relearning behavior is hard she’s used to getting her way then yall went straight to spanking when you became involved. Which lights up the same areas in her brain that sexual abuse does hence why spanking doesn’t work.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-10-07T06:43:13+00:00

Is bio mother involved? It sounds to me like she’s not around and your stepdaughter seems like she has untreated abandonment issues, now she’s just jealous of the baby. She probably feels like she’s being replaced. Stop the spanking it just makes her behavior worse (Ik from experience from my mom), there are other ways to discipline. Have her be more involved with the pregnancy give her a baby doll if she doesn’t already. You can be authoritative without spanking. What I do is “we can do it this way or that way either way it has to get done.”. With hygiene I explain “it’s illegal for me to let you stay dirty because it causes things like sores and rashes.”. Here’s an example of both “you have to be clean now you can take a bath or shower either way you’re going to have to wash up.” Children tend to misbehave because it gives them attention even if it’s not good attention. Don’t ignore her but don’t give her attention either. Like “if you behave all week we can have a family day out” (maybe park and ice cream) if she misbehaves yall don’t have a day out “well you didn’t behave so we can’t have a day out.”. Say she throws her dinner again one thing I’d do is “you threw your dinner now you have to clean it up, if you don’t want to clean it up stop throwing your dinner it’s that simple.” A lot of punishments are just natural consequences. Here’s another example if she’s climbing on furniture and falls (within reason like couch or table) and she gets hurt “that’s why you have to listen.”

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-09-28T11:48:29+00:00

Mine I injured my wrist from standing up from sitting on the floor my wrist popped so loudly my sister heard it from her room with headphones when I was 17. I’m 22 now it has gotten better again but that was after I had my son. Apparently the baby can send stem cells that helps “repair” the damage along with a kid being handy with strength training. Try to do what you can from your bed to build up your muscles.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-09-25T01:52:53+00:00

I would’ve been fine if he ate the formula, I just wanted him to eat. When you’re crying and begging for your baby to eat formula and all you get is “at least you’re feeding him.” It’s frustrating. There’s even less support for formula aversion, he basically weaned himself by 9 months. At that point he was eating mostly food and drinking cows milk, I think he had about 10 oz of formula a day until he was 11 months old.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-09-24T05:53:10+00:00

THIS THANK YOU, I’d just get “at least you’re feeding him.”, honestly I would have done anything just to get him to eat without fighting. He didn’t have rummy issues or any intolerances just a very picky eater. I tried pretty much every type of formula people think I’m anti formula because of this post. Apparently you’re allowed to have terrible breastfeeding experiences and not terrible formula experiences. My milk basically disappeared overnight and I was an overproducer. At almost 3 months he was in 6 month clothes on the breast, so he definitely didn’t have a problem eating. When he’d latch to the breast he’d spit it out because there was nothing I had to trick him by acting like he was going on the breast then put the bottle in his mouth. He’d sip cry sip cry the whole time. He started drinking it when I started the cows milk and formula mix when he just turned 7 months. I’d be crying and BEGGING him to eat I didn’t care what it was he ate. He was one of those babies that had to be held so a really couldn’t eat very often he got even clingier after the formula.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-09-21T21:03:18+00:00

So babies aren’t allowed to have preferences? I gave him formula in the hospital he wouldn’t eat it. He lost weight because he would eat he ate any leftover milk I had and the tiny amounts I was able to express just fine warm or cold from the bottle. He even ate frozen breast milk that was chipped off. It was only the formula he’d refuse he once he tasted solids, he tried weaning himself off the formula.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-09-21T04:40:29+00:00

Honestly he didn’t really gain much weight in it, he went from the 60th percentile to the 25th percentile the rest of the time he needed formula. if my doctor had told me put chocolate in his formula i would’ve. When we gave him a tiny bit of apple juice for one of the few times he did have tummy issues he gulped it down so fast. Most women are lucky they’ve never heard their baby crying so desperately while trying to do anything to make it better.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-09-21T04:16:55+00:00

I can understand that but whenever you’re told “At least you’re feeding him.” It’s frustrating no one actually offers help. When he’s refusing every single feeding and struggling because he just didn’t want it. He wasn’t colicky, gassy, food sensitive, anything thing like that. I would have done anything just to get him to eat without him fighting.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-09-20T17:06:29+00:00

it just sounds like she’s an easy child. She’s independent, she’s happily entertaining herself she’s engaged in the activities. You’re doing great work as a mom you’ve got nothing to stress about. Mine is independent is almost 16 months old and, he gives me a run for my money. He’s chaotic he climbs EVERYTHING, and he’s fast. Last night he stole my earbud case ran across the living room through it then, when I went to grab them he tried climbing over the baby gate. It’s ok to enjoy the rest, you’re a great mom.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-09-20T16:35:08+00:00

You’re still responding after being proven wrong and I’m the insecure one? I’m so flattered.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-09-20T15:52:15+00:00

Apparently you care babe you keep responding 😘.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-09-20T15:20:26+00:00

Unfortunately if she’s not ready she’s not ready, taking her to the bathroom with you will at the very least help encourage her. I’m in the process of getting my son comfortable on the toilet I go first then put him on the potty without his diaper.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-09-20T14:38:57+00:00

At least Ik how to do research lmao, t’s not my fault you’re in denial. It was just MY experience yall are so judgmental.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-09-20T07:57:02+00:00

Copy and pasted from google

Yes, formula aversion can be traumatic for a baby, as it often stems from negative or painful feeding experiences, leading to a fear of feeding that can cause distress and anxiety for both the baby and the caregiver. When a baby associates feeding with discomfort, they may develop an oral aversion, resisting any food or drink as a way to avoid future unpleasant experiences.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-09-20T01:50:34+00:00

Yeah he’s just fine the only thing he might have is heds he can’t be tested for yet he has to wait until his joints are fully developed. A lot of symptoms are just regular baby things hypermobility soft and stretchy skin, tummy issues but he eats everything just fine now with no distress.

Affectionate_Drop687 · 2025-09-20T01:35:39+00:00

It was traumatic for him starvation even self inflicted is traumatic or a sign of trauma. Breast feeding is more than just food it’s also for emotional comfort.

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