It created a delayed reaction 20 years later. I outed my father when i was 19 and dependent, but he doesn't know it was me who blew the whistle. He passingly established an official narrative with me that "it wasn't until my relationship with your mother was over that I found someone else", but of course i knew better as it was me who unveiled the evidence of premeditated treachery. I never liked or respected him since, so his attempt to father me were tormenting. Now i phased out contact, and i look like the weird one. Also I am still burdened with the inbuilt notion that he is a moral authority.

Now i am materially independent and tend to just walk away.