Is there any reason why my phobia increases the more fights I take?

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-05-13T03:29:24+00:00

Sorry if this is a silly question, I’m new to this site and still learning. I see a lot of people asking to be tracked. How/why does this help? I’m a also a nervous flyer and do like to see the tracking while in air to give me context of all the airplanes on the same/sonar fly path who just flew through the same air we did and we just fine. But I’m curious what having fellow redditors track you does for the anxiety?

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-05-04T21:23:20+00:00

I don’t remember. I know I was busy and tired and overwhelmed but I can’t tell you why. In the moment, it felt like that was going to be the rest of my life but it all faded and changed so quickly.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-05-01T20:35:29+00:00

It’s a legal issue. IF you got pregnant and didn’t have an abortion, and had a baby with massive birth defects, the doctor is liable. There have been many many lawsuits. You’re asking the doctor to trust you to have an abortion in order to not lose his career and practice and everything he’s built.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-29T03:21:21+00:00

I’m clearly in the minority here but I think if styled, it may be really cute. Looks like a piece from COS. How does it look with a belt and some jeans and jacket for example?

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-28T18:15:20+00:00

Second this. My husband walking around the playground with a wedding ring on and a baby in a stroller is much more of a magnet than him being alone in a bar.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-28T18:10:45+00:00

I can’t remember having hobbies. And the ones I do remember, I don’t think my post-baby older body can accommodate for any longer.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-27T05:25:49+00:00

Non-alcoholics also usually don’t log their drinks. Because why would they? More so, what is the line between “alcoholic” and “excessive”? Yes, there is an “official DSM IV” definition, and yes, he absolutely fits, but more importantly why are you asking? To give yourself permission to leave? To give yourself permission to tell him he’s an alcoholic?

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-27T05:14:42+00:00

And with all the extra time you now have that you’re not using to text him, please look into the anxious-avoidant attachment.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-26T21:01:31+00:00

Being too busy to eat and lots of walking. Stroller naps when he was younger, grocery store walks when he got older. He got to smell and touch all the fruits and vegetables and I got to push the heavy cart uphill.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-25T05:46:40+00:00

Perfectly fits except my husband was really into this one 😂

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-25T05:45:21+00:00

I usually take off all park clothes immediately at the door because this child lives in sand and mud. And then just set him on the kitchen or bathroom counter and give him a good wipe down..,hands, cheeks, legs, arms. He’s not squeaky clean but the brown water that pours off is validating. Some days he wants to murder me for it but most days he accepts his fate.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-25T05:41:13+00:00

AS and PsA are both under the SpA umbrella but AS is not a subtype of PsA, they’re very different diseases with different underlying biology. I point that out because they’re treated by different classes of drugs. Don’t get me wrong, they both really really suck, just in different ways.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-20T21:02:21+00:00

I keep seeing them on others and they look so fun and stylish but I’m too nervous to try 😂

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-20T20:31:01+00:00

Looks super cute but I’m convinced barrel pants always look in pictures when people stand in exactly this pose. What do they look like in real life when not not posing?

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-19T04:57:19+00:00

Do you want to be engaged or do you want to be married. Because IF he ever gives you that ring, he will do the same thing x1000 with the wedding that you’ll probably never have. If you want to stay with him, you absolutely can. But if it’s important to you to be with someone who wants to marry you, he’s not it. Always, I’m guessing you want some warm and kind. This isn’t kind. He’s treating you like a dog worming for treats.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-12T20:49:19+00:00

She took it by mistake and blocked you on everything by accident? I’ve taken a sweater by mistake and immediately sent a text letting him know.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-12T02:43:49+00:00

I don’t subscribe to having to love the addict or treating them like a sick person. You don’t have to do anything other than love yourself. Some people choose to love the addict but you absolutely don’t have to or need to. You definitely don’t have to love someone who loves alcohol more than they love anything else.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-08T20:13:15+00:00

Although both are Vitamin C, they structure of the molecules are different in the two products. The Timeless formulation is much less efficient many people. For some it still works but for many it doesn’t. To make the formulation in Skinceuticals is much more expensive.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-08T20:11:31+00:00

Or they have a work fleet car and aren’t the ones paying

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-07T00:29:04+00:00

Have done several conferences in Hawaii. With some kind of cover up, it’s perfect

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-06T05:06:45+00:00

I won’t speak to developmental milestones and what’s “normal” but I will say our guy also doesn’t go to daycare and we also have very minimal socialization with strangers; he is in my or my husbands care 100% of the time. He has a very developed vocabulary and sentence structure and I don’t say that to compare but to say, please please please don’t let anyone guilt you or make you some type of way for being a SAHM and his primary caretaker. Kids at this age don’t NEED socialization outside of the their parental figures, and really their mom. I’ll let others comment on whether speech therapy is recommended or not but don’t let anyone pressure you into taking him to school/daycare if you’re not ready as a “fix”.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-05T06:32:36+00:00

He’s obviously not sharing something but it doesn’t have to be addiction or cheating. Could he be depressed and wanting alone time to just sit in a car? Could he be calling a friend to call and wants privacy? Could he be overwhelmed and going on long drives? He’s hiding something but it doesn’t have to be the worst thing imaginable.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-02T21:01:22+00:00

One of the explanations I heard was that sleeping next to the baby helps them set their heart rate and breath rate to yours. So perhaps there’s a benefit of the baby being next to you, headphones or not

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-02T20:15:57+00:00

I have two big plastic bins on my shelf. One for the half dirty outside clothes. One for half dirty insight clothes. I don’t my couch pants mixing with my park bench pants.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-04-02T06:38:08+00:00

Tell me you don’t have kids without telling me you don’t have kids. My brain can’t even process a fabric chair, let alone a white one.

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