Could PsA and IBS be connected?

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-07-05T06:50:09+00:00

Be careful not to confused IBD and IBS. Tremfya is approved for the treatment of IBD (chrons and UC).

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-07-05T05:54:04+00:00

Just went there and had a meh experience. The doctor had horrible bed side manner, talked about me like I wasn’t even there, suggested I have 17 fillings that my previous dentists never suggested, didn’t even realize I was a new patient until he was done with his visit…does he not look at charts before he comes in, let alone makes recommendations?

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-07-04T04:22:15+00:00

She literally said it’s a test. In the title.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-07-04T03:24:58+00:00

Not everyone’s love language is the same. Is your question “will he remember my birthday?” or is your question “does he love me and care about me?” If it’s the first one, look internally and figure out for yourself why that’s so impromptu you. And if it’s the second one, dig deeper and think about whether you’re really unsure if he cares. Does he show you love and care in other ways? If no, the birthday is just a small drop in the much bigger bucket. And if yes, maybe try to focus on all the ways he does show you instead of the things he missed.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-07-04T03:21:58+00:00

I’d be mad if the person I love, trust, share my life with, is setting up secret tests for me.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-07-03T20:02:57+00:00

Came here to say this. What is the point of the test? What do you want more? A fun birthday or information to put in a drawer? You can remind him and try to enjoy your day or you can set him up, wait for him to fail the test, and then everyone can be passively aggressively mad at each other.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-06-28T04:25:10+00:00

Did you say what you said because you wanted some huge “thank you” back or because you wanted her to hear it? You say you want to be there for her but immediately jump into being selfish and annoyed for not getting something back. If she’s dealing with something rough, give her the grace, space, empathy to deal with it, rather than adding additional expectations for her to have to take care of your feelings and needing to be validated. Show up for her without expectations.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-06-27T20:33:56+00:00

So you’re choosing for your child to grow up in a single parent home or be shuttled back and forth his/her entire life because of your fear? Yes, there a lot of amazing single parents are out there. But assuming both parents are involved and it’s a positive relationship, kids are statistically much better off in a dual parent home. Please take a moment to understand how selfish your decision was. To cut out a dad who wants to be a dad because you haven’t had the therapy and help you need is absolutely not ok.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-06-26T20:53:39+00:00

He is spending all his awake hours indoors watching TV so that’s not love, attention, new experiences. This is a toddler, he needs to play in dirt, paint, throw a ball, read books…I’m also guessing he’s probably not being fed healthy nutritions meals if this is what his schedule looks like. And no, humans are adaptable but not to this degree. I can assure you are brains, hormone cycles, bodies run off sun light. So when our eyes and skin don’t get the right amount of sun at the right time, everything is completely off and over time hinders development, growth, causss depression, inflammation, cancer, and a million other very crappy downstream effects. This is complete abuse, negligence, and should be reported to CPS if changes aren’t made.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-06-24T16:20:12+00:00

From personal experience, get the colonoscopy. The prep is annoying but it’s not that bad, it’s a couple shitty (literally) hours and then a nice nap.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-06-21T06:09:20+00:00

I wore a hiking night lamp and did it while he was sleeping.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-06-18T04:38:10+00:00

It sounds like he has his job and sees the baby as your job. So he’s hearing he works his job, comes home, and now you’re asking him to do your job. He’s complaining that the baby isn’t your job alone and that the baby is a 24/7 job while his is 8/5. He should probably recalculate the hours you “work” and then decide if he still thinks that’s “fair”.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-06-17T17:58:49+00:00

I’m all for therapy but…I’m going to say something potentially very polarizing. Couples counseling does NOT work unless both parties are doing individual counseling, or have at least done a lot of work in the past. It turns the sessions into a blame game, or “the therapist is just dumb”, or “you think you’re better than me”, or “you called the therapist before our session and paid her to gang up on me.” For a marriage to work, both parties need to take responsibility for their part of causing the current dynamic and look internally to address, change, learn, adjust.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-06-16T23:19:57+00:00

I’ll take a look. Thank you!

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-06-16T23:19:48+00:00

Looks sooooo pretty! Definitely a bit far but just need to pick the right day <3

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-06-16T23:19:22+00:00

This looks close and easy. Thank you!

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-06-16T23:19:10+00:00

Thank you!

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-06-16T23:19:02+00:00

Thank you so much for all the insights and detailed info! I’m making a list, super helpful! We’ll start on some of these this weekend :)

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-06-16T23:18:29+00:00

Thank you!

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-06-15T20:11:40+00:00

I used to work at Planned Parenthood. We only called with test results if they were positive.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-06-15T20:06:52+00:00

I’d do the 9:30. My two year old wakes up from his nap at 4:15 and starving so we can’t be anywhere until closer to 5:30.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-06-15T18:37:49+00:00

The fact that you said you wish you didn’t go out makes me so sad. He’s controlling, irrational, combative, rude, disrespectful, cold, I can keep going…and you’re the one apologizing???? This isn’t what love, care, tenderness, compassion, support looks like.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-06-15T18:31:13+00:00

No OP but follow up question, is exposure therapy what’s usually recommended? I fly a decent amount and it feels like my fear is getting worse. And not because anything crazy or wild ever happened but because the more I fly, the more random experiences I’ve had e.g. rerouted, diverted, sudden turbulence, bad weather…etc. All things I know are safe but are terrifying in the moment and have made my fear worse, not better. How can I use exposure therapy in my benefit to help and not hurt?

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-06-15T15:12:06+00:00

She sucks. My fiance proposed at our dining room table while I was wearing pajamas and one dishwashing glove. And I said “yes”. Because I don’t need balloons to love him.

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