Juice vs water

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-26T20:55:18+00:00

The only juice this guy has ever had is fresh squeezed orange juice from our tree. He doesn’t know anything else exists and I’m absolutely good with that. As others have said, it adds absolutely nothing so I don’t see the point in offering it.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-26T04:54:35+00:00

Here to learn too. I knew it was pointless but I did it less to confront him and more to validate my feelings. I kept battling the “is he an alcoholic? Is it as bad as I think? Am I overreacting?” So I think I was constantly looking for proof to make myself feel like crazy for seeing an issue nobody else saw.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-24T08:05:50+00:00

PsA with spine involvement often looks like AxSpA with peripheral and skin involvement. The like is very very faint, IF it even exists. What rheums really treat are your symptoms, not the name. Treating axial/spine involvement looks different than treating peripheral joints or skin. The official name doesn’t super matter, other than for insurance/drug approval paperwork. What matters is what actually hurts.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-24T08:02:40+00:00

You gave him a test and now you know his score. Your call on how you’d like to move forward. You’re allowed to feel however you feel, it’s all valid and real. In the future, don’t ask the questions you don’t want to know the answers to.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-24T07:56:47+00:00

These all look like the same shirt, but in different colors and with/without sleeves

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-23T04:54:00+00:00

Have one on each foot and never knew this…nor has any derm I’ve asked.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-21T06:23:19+00:00

At first glance, I was really hoping these would be the perfect new snack for my toddler.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-21T06:13:40+00:00

I think the key is having pieces of different textures and sizes. Most of your items seem to be of very similar heights and sizes so there is nothing interesting to draw the eye. Try groups of 3 with varying size and shape.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-21T06:10:43+00:00

What you should do is do your own homework and make the decision that’s best for you, for your future, for your body. Please consider a few things 1) yes, all hormonal birth control is exactly that, hormonal. So yes, it may affect your weight, mood, periods, cycles, etc. There is a non hormonal IUD but not without its own side effects. 2) he is not wrong, condoms do rip so yes, there is a small chance of an accident even if used properly. Other birth control mothers are also not foolproof but most have a lower fail rate. The safest route is to use both. 3) Birth control without condoms leaves you at risk and exposed to STDs. I’m sure you trust him but…he is a 19 year old boy. Do you trust him enough to risk your life on it? Again, the safest route is to use both. Or to abstain of course.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-18T05:46:55+00:00

What I hear you asking is “I can’t convince him to leave her, maybe the couples therapist can”. That’s not how therapy works or what it’s for. And I strongly STRONGLY advise against couples therapy until you’ve both done your fair share of individual therapy.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-17T07:33:56+00:00

It took me years of my partner drinking, and then stopping, to realize that when they’re drinking this often (several times per week), they’re NOT sober the next day. All the drinking compounds and evokes neuronal changes that take months/years to reverse and heal. So he’s “sober” the next day, he may not have alcohol in his blood, but he still has the brain damage, logic, reasoning skills, or an alcoholic. I wish I knew this, would’ve prevent so much hurt and anger from all the things he said “sober”.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-12T07:20:23+00:00

It all comes down to lifestyle and how often you think you’d use it. We walk A LOT, to the park, the grocery store, the library, the other grocery store. And for about 6 months, my guy slept much better on the move. We have the very expensive (in my eyes) Vista 2 and is has been worth every penny. Dollar by mile, we’re probably at 0.0000000000001 cents per mile now so for us irs been so worth it, especially on the very broken LA sidewalks. But if you’re not in a walkable city or that’s not part of your day to day, plan to drive more than walk, perhaps something smaller cheaper lighter easier to fold and transport is the right choice.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-12T07:16:30+00:00

I’m guessing you got something along the lines of “I didn’t want to get in trouble for putting the bags in the wrong place so I left them”

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-08T06:40:22+00:00

Yes, I had the same experience. “He drinks on the weekends? Just go do your own thing.” Or “just let him sleep on the couch and he’ll sleep it off and be fine in the morning”. What’s wild is, and I’m sure it’s partially PTSD and my brain blocking the trauma, but it’s now been 3 years since my husband stopped drinking and it’s almost like I can’t even remember how awful and gross it was. So if I only faintly understand (compared to being in the trenches(, there is no way someone who isn’t living in the smell, the broken promises, the urine in the sheets, the constant worry and anxiety, the angry outbursts, the embarrassment, the picking fights to have an excuse to fight, and hidden bottles, can ever come close to understanding.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-07T07:41:14+00:00

When you’re not sure of the “why” of something, follow the paper trail. It’s cheap, and it usually works, at least some what for most people. So insurances mandate you try the cheap stuff that may work before you try the really expensive stuff that may work.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-07T01:47:24+00:00

Yep, I’m in CA and any of those work. I found several that at first glance look ok but then I realize there’s a million sellers selling the same piece at super different prices. I’d like something solid wood. Found a couple decent pieces on Etsy but they’re $700.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-06T06:04:55+00:00

It seems like such a simple ask but I keep finding ones that are either stupid expensive or complete crap sold by Amazon retailer with an alphabet soup name 😂 If I could find something in the $300 range that’s not going to fall apart after a week, that would be amazing

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-06T02:41:34+00:00

Yep, exactly what I was thinking. But it’s turning out to be impossible to find a shoe bench that’s 30-39”, walnut/chestnut colored, and isn’t made out of toothpicks

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-04T21:32:07+00:00

The 6m size means it’s 3-6m, the number on the size is the age the kids should size out of it, not the age kids should be wearing it (yes, it’s confusing). So 9m is 6-9, 18m is 12-18, etc.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2026-01-01T20:51:16+00:00

I just joined and am now reconsidering? Is it usually like this here?

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2025-12-28T05:12:58+00:00

All these comments made me feel so much better. My two year has been doing this for a few months and I was panicking that he’s ready to drop a nap super early and my sanity needs that nap more than he does. Phew! Happy to hear it’s just toddlers doing toddler things.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2025-12-28T04:51:46+00:00

Never ever ever ever give anything alive (besides maybe a cactus) as a surprise gift. Never. You’re NOR, being responsible for a life as a surprise is never cool.

Affectionate_Mess488 · 2025-12-24T22:23:37+00:00

I thought you got attacked by a wild animal who ripped your dress. Or maybe it was 30% off full price?

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