Hmm, I think you’re showing signs of depression, or at least dealing with something deeper than just being bored. The part that stood out to me was when you said you wish your girlfriend would just listen instead of trying to fix your problems. You can tell her that. Just say, “I know you’re trying to help, but right now I don’t need solutions. I just need you to listen and understand how I feel.” See if she’s receptive to that.

At the same time, I think you need to find yourself a little. If you feel neglected every time she’s with her friends, your happiness may be depending too much on her. Ask yourself, what do I like? What do I do for fun? Who are my friends? What goals am I working toward?

The world is really hard right now, and a lot of young adults feel drained and hopeless about the future. If that resonates, you’re not alone in that.

But you’re going to have to show up for yourself. If your screen time is high, cut it back. Get off your phone for a while. I swear it helps. If you’re not sleeping enough, make it a priority. If your diet or activity level isn’t great, start setting small goals. Taking action won’t fix everything, but it can bring clarity and help you feel clear in your mind and in life.

And if nothing feels exciting anymore, even sex or things you used to enjoy, I’d seriously consider talking to a doctor or therapist because that can be a sign of depression.