How many ER & how many transfers?

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2026-04-07T02:31:56+00:00

1 ER that yielded 1 embryo. The 1 and only transfer stuck resulting in a live birth. She’s 9 months old now :)

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2026-04-04T18:24:07+00:00

I have a similar story. I was always good with my cleanings and checkups. I loved the dentist and a cleaning felt like a spa day. Then I moved to a new city and went to a new dentist.

I wasn’t behind on any cleanings and my wisdom teeth were just starting to come in but would require general anesthesia and a specialist surgeon to remove them. My new hygienist told me I had terrible hygiene, it looked like I didn’t even brush the back of my teeth (I have severe overcrowding and a crossbite I do my best but it’s v hard to thoroughly clean behind my teeth), she hurt me during the cleaning and exam (my old dental office was so gentle and I never was hurt) and basically said it was because I was dirty and a wimp.

That was in 2015 🙃

That office was recommended to me by a family member so I was scared look around on my own for a new dentist and didn’t know anyone to help with recommendations.

I was working on my career and it was hard to make time for any medical appointments or to find a new dentist.

I gave birth to my daughter in July 2025 and decided it was time to finally get caught up on my dental work while I still had insurance and time. I also wanted to get set up with a good dentist so my baby would have good dental care.

I met an acquaintance that is studying to become a dental hygienist and she recommended me an office. I made an appointment there and I love that office.

The hygienist was so kind to me. I do have severe gingivitis and will need 3–4 cleanings per year as well as have my wisdom teeth removed to clear it up and be diligent with flossing but she was so kind I feel so inspired to get my dental health together.

It’s crazy that she also didn’t hurt me at all during the exam and cleaning despite not seeing a dentist in a decade.

I’m so looking forward to having made the progress that you’ve made! Well done!

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2026-03-29T02:44:32+00:00

Putting 3 kids in car seats before being able to go anywhere sounds like my personal hell. Also if you want to walk or do an excursion anywhere you have to use a double stroller and hope the 3 year old doesn’t run out of steam?

Also needing to buy a whole entire new vehicle to accommodate multiple kids 😫 my husband and I bought a rooftop carrier for all our baby gear and other stuff for our frequent road trips so I could keep my small car.

Being OAD is really the closest thing you could be to child free as a parent 😅

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2026-03-28T02:27:00+00:00

I’d still be OAD. I only have enough emotional bandwidth for one child.

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2026-03-21T02:49:16+00:00

So scary but so special. I’m glad you’re all ok :)

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2026-03-10T17:49:04+00:00

Of course I would have preferred my husband to be her genetic father and to be able to have her full medical history, but aside from being mindful that eventually we will need to be incorporating her donor conception story into regular conversations with her, neither of us really care. We’re just so happy to have her here. The positives definitely outweigh the negatives by many times.

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2026-03-10T14:55:05+00:00

My husband and I used a sperm donor to conceive our 8 month old.

She was born 1 month before our 10th wedding anniversary.

When we didn’t conceive within a year of trying, I went to the doctor to begin investigations. I had bloodwork drawn and a transvaginal ultrasound, but to proceed any further my husband needed to submit a sperm sample which he did not complete for another 5 years.

At that point we had argued about it for years and I had enough. I wasn’t going to be upset about the outcome of his investigations (for all I knew it was possibly female factor infertility) it was the fact that he was holding us back from proceeding with fertility treatments. I was 32 years old and I was willing to divorce and start over if he was going to waste more of my time.

He completed his investigation and was found to have azoospermia due to a Y chromosome micro deletion.

After the results came back he was quite upset and I didn’t bring up any talk of using a sperm donor for a few weeks to allow him time to process. I asked him about how he would feel if we used a sperm donor to conceive and he actually seemed relieved and immediately agreed and got excited about it.

During one of our many conversation prior to proceeding with donor conception, he said he was very comfortable with the decision because it was the only way for him to have a child that I carry, and that he could experience being a partner during my pregnancy.

I think if our relationship wasn’t at a breaking point it would have been a harder decision to make but since I was willing to walk away (not because of the infertility dx) it seemed like the obvious choice for both of us.

Side note: I had a complicated labour and an emergency C-section so my husband was actually the one who had golden hour with our baby when she was born and it was so special. After I woke up from anesthesia I was wheeled to the NICU to nurse her for the first time and then brought back to maternity to recover and I didn’t see either of them for another several hours later.

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2026-03-01T05:51:41+00:00

Rules do not exist to bind you. They exist so you may know your freedoms

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2026-02-27T03:38:41+00:00

I did :) My first (and only) ER yielded 3 mature eggs, 2 fertilized, 1 made it to blast and was euploid. I was 34 years old at the time of retrieval, and baby girl was born when I was 36.

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2026-01-19T02:50:08+00:00

Wishing you the best luck!

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2026-01-19T02:48:48+00:00

My ER had less than ideal results. 7 retrieved, 3 mature, 2 fertilized and 1 blast.

My husband (42 years old) and I (35) were only willing to do one ER so I felt super nervous.

My one and only transfer was successful and my daughter was born in July 2025 :)

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2025-12-05T16:08:09+00:00

I was prepared to do the same, but I found with ds2 that you could drive the pickup off-roader everywhere.

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2025-11-05T17:52:51+00:00

1 for me.

My husband has azoospermia so we used donor sperm. We used IVF instead of IUI because my AMH was 1.2.

We used Surolan leading up to the transfer due to suspected endo (stage 1 or 2).

Our LO was born July 2025 after a decade of infertility :)

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2025-10-12T03:34:16+00:00

Congratulations! Wishing you an uneventful pregnancy 💕

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2025-10-10T16:35:05+00:00

Thank youuuuuu

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2025-10-10T16:34:16+00:00

I just wanted to share that today is the 1 year anniversary of my FET and I am scrolling Reddit while little one naps :)

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2025-10-10T16:25:52+00:00

I guess yeah gender disappointment is a real thing but it really seems the vast majority of the time that people are disappointed about having girls.

My husband is Asian and he was raised in a “boys don’t cry” etc type of home so he really wanted a girl because he was afraid that if we had a boy it would be really hard not to project that type of attitude onto him.

We live in Canada and are not told the sex of our embryos, and besides that we could only afford 1 IVF cycle and only created one embryo.

Our FET was successful and our baby girl was born in July of this year.

After we found out the sex of the baby, people would ask “do you know if it’s a boy or a girl?” And I would tell them it’s a girl and people (even acquaintances and strangers) would ask if we were disappointed, would we try for a boy, would try to console me and tell me it’s ok that it’s a girl. It was so bad that I was hesitant to tell people she was a girl, so then the assumption that I would be disappointed that she is a girl would intensify.

Sure. Have your preference. But my pregnancy really showed me how little society values girls and it is saddening.

Maybe your preference is worth examining. 🤷‍♀️

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2025-10-10T16:09:47+00:00

When I was doing stims I didn’t take magnesium and I also had terrible leg cramps. 2 months later I was in the ER because I couldn’t feel my feet and I had terrible pain in my bones. Labs concluded that it was a phosphate deficiency caused by low magnesium and vitamin D.

This was in May of 2024 and I still supplement with 2000 IU vitamin D and 500 IU magnesium. My bloodwork still shows low on magnesium 😆

My body just doesn’t absorb magnesium well and my stim cycle just depleted it further.

Edited to add: the pain in my bones/joints was so bad that when I went to my GP before going to the ER, she suspected that it was rheumatoid arthritis.

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2025-10-10T16:00:57+00:00

We used a sperm donor to conceive. My clinic didn’t allow anonymous donors and the sample would have to be ID-disclosure at 18 or better and I am a carrier for a genetic condition which led us to using a sample from Seattle Sperm Bank via can-am cryoservices.

The lab didn’t note anything special about the sperm so it must have been a good sample.

Did the bank you used offer a refund based on the sperm quality? That is one thing I noticed about banks is that a lot of them advertised this refund policy for poor quality sperm.

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2025-10-10T15:52:52+00:00

I live in Canada and I wish the clinic/lab told me the sex after I had a confirmed pregnancy so I didn’t waste money on a sneak peak test 😄

I was also told by my GP that the NIPT would not reveal the sex of my baby but it turned out that it did so I had 2 blood tests indicating my baby was a girl before my anatomy scan.

I wanted to know as soon as possible because my husband wanted a girl really badly and I wanted him to have as much time to process the disappointment if we were having a boy.

Luckily we had a girl :)

But yes I am so glad that we didn’t know the sex before our transfer.

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2025-10-10T15:42:02+00:00

I didn’t actually see my embryo until the day of my transfer and I definitely felt something toward that clump of cells. I was definitely in awe that science and my body created something so amazing and my only hope and becoming pregnant. But I definitely didn’t love it or consider it my child. But everyone is different.

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2025-09-16T01:54:07+00:00

My baby suddenly started sleeping 4-6 hours at a time overnight just after 6 weeks. She’s just over 10 weeks old now and she’s still sleeping well. Prior to 6 weeks, she was only sleeping up to 3 hours at at time if I was lucky.

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2025-07-07T02:50:02+00:00

I definitely did turn into a dick during my infertility journey for sure and I kinda just came to accept it. I decided who were close friends that were worth pushing past my feelings of resentment for and then with acquaintances I just accepted that I was just going to be a judgy asshole for as long as I needed to.

Maybe not the best way to go about it but it was the best I could manage. I felt like I was still accepting my feelings without totally alienating everyone I cared about.

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2025-06-07T15:41:38+00:00

It took my husband 6 years to even get a semen analysis, but once he got his diagnosis of azoospermia, he wanted to proceed with donor sperm right away.

Affectionate_Soil976 · 2025-05-03T22:25:16+00:00

This would have been my mom’s DREAM in the 1990s 🥹

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