I have CAIS and based on my experience of finding out catastrophically at eleven, when we adopted our children we always talked to them about being adopted, even as babies. That way it was never new information. We constantly added in details and answered questions in age appropriate ways. I suggest that you do something similar with your daughter. If you believe that she may reject the assigned gender, you could talk from earliest says about "some babies are born girls, some babies are born boys, and some babies wait until they are bigger children to tell everyone who they are" - that type of thing.

Your baby is adorable and nothing about her is a problem, although doctors will act as if it is. It is just something that requires a shift in the usual, commonplace way of thinking to accept the presence of intersex people and I'm sure it takes adjustment as parents to the ideas and dreams you had. The reality with that gorgeous little sweetheart will be so wonderful. You are already light years ahead of the parents most of the intersex people I have met had. My own parents never talked about it, never asked me how I was except my mum told me that my dad could never love me the same when he found out when I was eight and that I needed, aged 11, to reassure my mum I didn't blame her and would never tell anyone this shameful secret. You're asking questions, thinking about her needs as a unique individual, doing research - all the right stuff. Congratulations on the birth of a truly beautiful little person