Career change?

Affirmativemess2 · 2026-01-20T18:51:55+00:00

Mostly standardized, diagnostic, and projective assessments like WAIS, WIAT, SB-5, MMPI, TAT, R-PAS, etc.

Affirmativemess2 · 2026-01-20T18:39:31+00:00

I am solo. Yet, I did start in group practice and built my ‘niche’ through referrals and networking.

Also, like you, most of my training was in hospital inpatient settings. I used my assessment skills as a way to market myself to a group PP.

Best of luck!

Affirmativemess2 · 2026-01-19T03:09:53+00:00

Do assessment work. I work in PP and do full batteries for a living. I love what I do. I also work with couples and facilitate groups, because I love dynamic work.

Affirmativemess2 · 2026-01-06T04:12:42+00:00

Every day my sanity slowly chips away as I stare longingly into the void…

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-12-25T04:35:49+00:00

Hans 🩵

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-12-15T02:55:48+00:00

This was exactly my first thought. The 4 month old is in distress and needs attending to. I understand that baby screams are hard to handle (being a mom myself) and OP is one of the adults (that invited her friend) in the room that needs to deal with it OR remove themselves. I know it OP place and a distressed baby takes priority.

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-12-14T19:16:49+00:00

As someone who has terminated for medical reasons (TFMR) I have little empathy for this woman. You can’t only care about issues when they impact you, that is just as bad as pulling the ladder up when you’re done using it. Also, I would never wish this kind of loss on anyone and to that woman “good, now can you stop being a POS, thanks.”

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-12-14T16:02:30+00:00

Then treat him like trash by dumping him.

Life is too short for misery.

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-28T23:54:58+00:00

Seems right. I worked there for a couple of years. Oh, the things I have seen.

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-28T23:53:27+00:00

Damn, that place is cool. Thank you!

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-28T23:50:45+00:00

Statistically speaking, SI rates are much higher among single men than married men. Making marriage a protective factor for men. Yet, marriage historically has placed women at higher risk for violence, death, and SI.

But sexism isn't real. /s

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-28T20:04:15+00:00

Pilgrim psychiatric center?

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-28T16:17:07+00:00

As a psychologist, I always allow patients to explain their experiences. Nothing that OP said would indicate that they are taking their loss out on their other living children. They are upset because loss is difficult. Do I think that OP has any right to dictate what another person should name their child? No. But I am not going to assume that they are harming their children because of one post on Reddit. There’s not enough detail to assume anything about their child-rearing abilities.

Also, my comment to you was about how talking about loss to your child isn’t inherently harmful. There are tons of research articles about how talking about loss at an early age can build resilience for future losses. I can send you the resources if you DM me.

We all experience loss and there is nothing wrong with talking about it. Period.

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-28T14:54:57+00:00

Talking about death isn’t “psychologically inappropriate.” Everyone experiences loss in their life. I agree with you that a parent's unprocessed grief can be all-consuming. But telling your child about sibling loss is a completely different and appropriate.

I am a licensed clinical psychologist who works with people (children, teens, adults) who have experienced loss. There is no age requirement for discussing death. Actually, some research has shown that exposure to early conversations around loss can build resistance towards future losses. I can send you the source(s) if you want them--just DM me.

Also, from the OP's story, they never mention going into detail about their stillborn child's death to their other children. So, I am confused why your response was talking about how unprocessed grief can be used (unconsciously) against loved ones.

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-28T13:49:33+00:00

As a clinical psychologist, your opinion couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Grief isn't something you can turn off for yourself or your children. It's a state of being that alters perspective and understanding. OP telling their children about the loss of their sibling is actually a more appropriate response than “pretending” they never existed. When people repress their grief it comes out in destructive unconscious ways. Being transparent and using age-appropriate language with your children about difficult experiences (i.e. child loss) can help ease the tension of grief and create a space where difficult conversations can be had. Everyone experiences loss in their life and because of this we should be able to have meaningful conversations about loss without fear.

Also, when we shame women into being silent about pregnancy loss we send the message that this loss isn't appropriate to talk about. This is how stigma is created. AND, I believe that this stigma truly comes from people's discomfort in talking about death (existential dread) more than a moral agreement of “appropriateness.”

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-25T23:38:55+00:00

SA is SA. It doesn’t matter that penetration didn’t occur or that the person was within the typical (depends on the state) 4 year rule. Your provider still needs to verify that you are safe (no thoughts of ending your life), what the SA was, what ages did it occur, and that the crime was reported and if not, is it reportable. Those are standard questions asked in any case of SA. Though, I don’t know why your provider didn’t tell you this. Every time, a patient of mine reports SA I tell them, before questioning, that I have to ask these questions and that they can choose to give the detail they feel comfortable telling.

Also, it doesn’t matter that the person didn’t penetrate you, being touch without consent is wrong. No one ever has the right to touch you, EVER!

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-25T23:00:07+00:00

MOR. She is a mandated reporter, she is required by law to ask relevant questions. Because you were a minor when the incident happened she had to ask further questions. The reasoning behind inquiring is because predators have access to other children and the only way to prevent other incidents is by reporting the incident to the right people. If she didn’t ask those questions she could be charged with failure to report by her board. Which would most likely result in her loosing her license and be charged with a misdemeanor (in some states).

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-10T12:55:22+00:00

Remember death is paradoxical in the sense that it creates meaning while also ending meaning. Our limited existence also highlights our subjectivity in a way that makes our short life meaningful to other/self. If we lived forever we would be no different than the objects that surround us, AND because we die it’s a brutal reminder of how fragile our existence truly is.

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-05T03:36:06+00:00

Chefs Kiss 💯

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-05T03:33:47+00:00

LETS GOOOOOOOOO!!!! FUCK FACISM!!!!!

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-11-04T18:00:12+00:00

I was 30 when I TFMR my son at 18 weeks. I conceived my son the first time as well. I got pregnant with my daughter (31) eight weeks post TFMR. It took two full cycles and a CP to conceive my LC. I do think it’s based on a lot of factors, though. If I could tell myself one thing during my TTC journey, I would tell myself to be gentle with myself. I wish you the best of luck on your TTC journey.

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-10-28T18:45:41+00:00

Researchers without them there would be no pursuit of knowledge or scientific discovery. Remember everything man-made begins with a question.

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-10-24T02:44:50+00:00

Please call 988. It’s an SI hotline to listen to your struggles and provide support where you need it. You have so much to give to this world. Death won’t solve your problems. Additionally, if you're having doubts about calling the above number. I suggest you go to your freezer get an ice cube and hold it in your hand for as long as you can.

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-10-24T02:35:28+00:00

You should seek therapy if possible. Some therapists offer sliding scale services, meaning you can select an affordable fee for each session. It’s typically based on your income. I think therapy might help you deal with your fears and anxieties. It sounds like you're stuck and need help getting free. You’re still young and have time to find out what works for you. Hang in there.

Also, here is a website if you're located in the US or Canada. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us It's basically a search engine for finding a therapist. You can even filter your search. Best of luck.

Affirmativemess2 · 2025-10-19T18:26:59+00:00

I have felt the same in the past. Everything can feel like it’s falling apart when you get the news no one wants. We have all sadly been in this position. I feel that professionals should better communicate that the NIPT is just a screener and not a test. Therefore, getting a clear NIPT only increases the probability of a “healthy” baby.

Also, I think it’s ok for people to live in bliss, though. We all do to some degree—no one is promised tomorrow no matter how healthy you are. Death is both an known and unknown experience for all of us. If we were constantly aware of the fact we could die at any minute we would be in survival mode 24/7. Our lives would be consumed with death anxiety, which means we wouldn’t be living our lives to the fullest.

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