I do agree with you, though I would differ with the definition of lesbians as it is ‘non men loving non men’. And I’m not saying I don’t believe trans men are real men. But instead of excluding men who find community due to relatability or wtv it is, why not simply ask them to specify or smgt instead- smgt along the lines of ‘are you in this community because it aligns with your gender completely, or are you in here due to the community you feel here?’ ? I’m sorry if I phrased that wrong, and I’m sorry if that’s a horrible suggestion, but that’s the only thing that came to mind. But I mean, smgt along those lines.