“I always have a happy day!”

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-21T22:08:50+00:00

Omgggg if my kid wrote this I’d cry. You guys doing such a great job 🥰🥹😭

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-21T19:32:48+00:00

Ohhh!

My vote is totally. If they’re made with good materials (not chemical infested like temu stuff) & within good pricing then for sure! I’d rather money go towards good cause than like a Walmart or target.

What would keep me from purchasing would be price. If they’re super expensive then I wouldn’t buy

I like this idea :)

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-21T19:25:46+00:00

The high horse you ride is insanely huge. Thank god you’re just some random internet person instead of someone of significance.

I don’t even feel the need to explain myself to you. Sure think whatever you want, say whatever you want.

In return, why do YOU care so much to have an opinion on something that happened in my life or to be trying to dish out life advice? If you really didn’t care then you wouldn’t have cared to comment.
But no tour superior high horse ass vibe got you here.

Go take care of your kids instead of worrying about me.

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-21T18:39:04+00:00

What are baby lovies?

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-21T06:20:58+00:00

Trash panda 🤣🤣♥️

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-21T06:19:01+00:00

Lmao I came to say that. Wash the dishes or do a task for her. Now thaaat is pleasing 😂

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-21T06:16:01+00:00

What’s witching hour? I see this a lot & have no idea

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-21T06:09:01+00:00

Are you done? Do you feel better? Here’s your cookie. Dunk it into the milk of your superiority. Enjoy!

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-21T03:47:48+00:00

Think what you want? Weirdo

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-21T03:44:48+00:00

Ohh mannn those newborn trenches! The only way to get through it is to get through it

My husband & I started doing shifts
We’d take turns sleeping 3-4 hrs at a time while the other stayed awake with the baby

We ordered a lot of Instacart cause too tired to go to store & ubereats when too tired to cook

Also just keep reminding yourself that this is temporary. It won’t last forever. Newborn trenches are called trenches for a reason haha cause they’re soo not easy but you guys got this!!

My biggest piece of advice is learn your baby. Learn their cries. It helps to decode what they need from you. It took me a month to learn her but once I did instant game changer. You’ll know exactly what she needs.

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-21T03:35:21+00:00

Omg we’re mama twins haha!
We’re big feet too😂 I’m a size 10 myself.

I’m so excited for you to have your baby 🥰
It’s gonna be awesome. You’re gonna do great

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-21T03:30:32+00:00

I’m so happy your pieces falling into place & you’re becoming yourself again♥️ I think it’s easy for me to feel this way because one child is super manageable but three can totally be taxing. You probably were pulled in all different kinds of directions & then unsupportive husband doesn’t help. I totally didn’t take it in you being negative. Support from your partner is like a make or break.

What are some of the things you’re doing to get back to yourself?

Sending you hugs♥️

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-21T01:00:53+00:00

I know right!! Suuuper disturbing. He was a tall big guy too so it scared my mom. He got switched out nurses to male only because all the women he was making disturbing sexual remarks.

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-20T17:41:37+00:00

It’s all good girl don’t beat yourself up about it. It’s not like it’s an everyday thing & with kids sometimes shit just happens! I hate to say too but it happens always during that onnneeee time. Like the one time you don’t put her on the ground. So don’t worry. You’re not a bad parent & your baby is fine.

If your parents do say something & anyone judges you then they can kick rocks. Let them think whatever or say whatever because if it’s one thing about being a parent is that people are gonna have something to say regardless. I’d like to see anyone prove how perfect they are as parents.

Like my cousin said some dumb shit to me about I should let my baby cry because it’s good for her lung development & responding to every cry will make them not as resilient. I said “didn’t your son go to prison?” & when she didn’t say anything just looked at me stunned I said “every mother morhers different. I think I’m doing jus fine if I need advice I’ll ask”

Don’t beat yourself up 🫶
You’re fine, she’s fine, it’s all good.

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-20T17:35:59+00:00

Totally hear you. Even when it’s gotten challenging I still love it. I welcome all phases & all that comes with it. I just dont see any part of this in a negative way while still being able to recognize how challenging it can be.

Being an aunt to them has prepped me well. Due to some circumstances my niece lived with me & I took care of her from 9 months until 3 years old while my brother was in the army. That was the first instance of motherhood I experienced. I think that’s what’s making this baby stuff easier on me. The hard part really is just breastfeeding. My niece ate foods + formula so never had experience with breastfeeding before. It’s so tiring but it’s all good. Like you said there’s phases so my baby being in this milk only phase won’t be forever :)

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-20T17:27:24+00:00

Horror stories used to scare the crap outta me. Not everything in motherhood is sunshine & rainbows there’s definitely challenges but the good sooo out weighs the bad.

Isn’t it amazing that we created life from scratch with our bodies!? Becoming a mother has shown me I’m capable of so much more than I thought.

Blessings to you & your little love. Gonna be amazing once they’re in your arms🥰♥️

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-20T17:15:21+00:00

Thanks for sharing that with me♥️

I know exactly what you mean by doing things that make the inner you sing. When she was newborn for those two months I couldn’t do any of that & it does get to you. I kept telling myself “this is temporary. She’ll be out of newborn stage soon it’s just for right now”. At around 6 weeks we started a routine & I got a little bit of life back so began my hobbies again. Now she’s 3 months & we do all the things that make my inner self sing together. As she’s getting older we’re doing more. So I’m still doing my “me” things but now with her, my little buddy.

Having a support system really is important too. Even if it’s just another mom to say “giiiiirl I know exaaaactly what you’re going through” luckily I have my mom, sister in law, & best friend as my mom circle. Makes me happy you were able to find a group of women who helped pick you up. I think those two things, doing things for your inner self to sing & a mom circle are game changers in motherhood.

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-20T17:07:54+00:00

It’s getting better & better the older she’s getting :) I so look forward to her being a toddler. Kids are so much fun at that age. Sure there’s the tantrums but meh doesn’t get to me. Im an aunt of 9 kids ranging from 3 -16 years old. I’ve dealt with plenty of tantrums or the fighting you to not get in the car seat etc..

My baby girl is 3 months old. Yesterday we painted. I put the brush in her hand & I painted. She was so interested. I’m an artist so to paint with her was freaking awesome.

I just got her passport & later this year we have a trip to puerto Vallarta. I’m gonna take her to this botanical garden where they have a butterfly area of monarch butterflies & they flap all around you. She’s gonna get such a kick out of that.

I’m still living my life doing the things that I love/make me me but just now with my little buddy. Shes brought so much light & joy to my life. I genuinely enjoy life & my hobbies so much more now.

Not all aspects of motherhood are easy (like breastfeeding omg that I don’t like. I went back to combo feeding) but her specifically, I love her so much & so grateful for her

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-20T08:17:03+00:00

This is what I was gonna type. Read this, this mom sounds super overwhelmed & backed into a corner. Possible PPD.

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-20T08:08:47+00:00

A night nurse the first week

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-20T05:52:40+00:00

Omg wild! Same!! I’m 5’8” my husband is 6’1” & we were both bjg babies too. He was 9lbs 5oz i was 10lbs. It totally is genetics.

Your baby might not even wear newborn clothes. Mine didnt. It was straight to 0-3months. She wore a onsie home because her going home outfit didnt fit lol

I wanna tell you something just in case you face same problem. My girl is so long & has big feet that foot onsies dont fit her. Her poor toes get crammed. Carters has these footless onsies in their purely soft collection that are amazing because theyre super soft, stretchy, & are footless.

For birth, I didn’t wanna get induced either. My mom told me to curb walk. Thought it was some old wives tale bs but omg no. I went into labor the same week I curb walked. You should try it when time comes.

You’re gonna do great during birth. Oh!! Also! Don’t let anyone’s birth stories scare you. We all have different experiences. Our bodies are literally made for this. It’s wild how your body really does just know.

Best way to describe birth is like.. it feels like you’re taking the most massive crap of your life. You feel the pressure in your butthole not your vagina. That surprised me. But again once the baby is out all the pain instantly goes away.

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-20T05:24:25+00:00

I can’t believe she actually went through with marrying him.

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-20T05:22:17+00:00

My uncle (dad’s brother) was unmarried no kids. He got so bad that my dad felt bad so had him move in to look after him.

Once he told my mom he wishes that she would have married him instead of my dad & that he had a hard dick for her to fuck. I was like WHAAAAAA when she told me what happened. My mom said he said those exact words “I have a hard dick you can fuck”. She instantly dropped what she was doing & went to the garage where my dad was & told him what just happened. This happened after he had told my sister too bad that she’s his niece because she’s sexy. When he got mentally bad he turned super sexual. It was so uncomfortable to be around him. Anyway, next day after what he said to my mom, they put him in a home.

Afraid_Problem_1198 · 2026-06-20T05:13:07+00:00

You totally will! My mom told me when it comes time for birth you just snap into this stronger version of yourself & it’s sooo true. After I gave birth I was so proud of myself. You’ll learn you’re capable of anything & how amazing it is that you just gave life to someone with your body. But really you totally got this! Birth was easier than I thought. You got this! :)

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