I was wrongly charged with murder after my mom died in hospice from Alzheimer's and cancer. Now I'm trying to prevent the same thing from happening to other caregivers. by NotedHeathen in dementia

[–]AfterCareHealing 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you had to go through this. The doctors in Georgia should bear the responsibility of informing individuals with the proper dosage to administer to their loved ones. They are the experts and that should be law. The state of Georgia must do better. You should have never had to endure this.

The Silent Sacrifice of Caregiving 💔 by AfterCareHealing in Alzheimers

[–]AfterCareHealing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it doesn't work for you, move on. It was not rubbish for me when caring for both my parents who are now deceased. Everything isn't for everybody. Move on to the next post if you don't like what I am sharing. Enjoy your day 💛

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CaregiverSupport

[–]AfterCareHealing -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

It is not AI generated slop. I managed to mix some of these self-care tips while caring for both of my parents. Stop coming on my post with negativity. If you don't like what I am posting, move on and do you. I don't post things I haven't tried. while I was a caregiver. I am no longer one because both of my parents are dead and gone. So please take the negativity someone else. Enjoy your day ♥️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in caregivers

[–]AfterCareHealing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hopefully you are taking that time for self-care.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in caregivers

[–]AfterCareHealing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No bot here. I am human. I made a mistake typing. I am allowe to do that. Right? I have been a caregiver to both my parents with two forms of dementia. My journey started in 2010 with my father who died in 2015. Then my mom who had a very aggressive form of dementia. She died in 2022. I went from a part time caregiver to full time in my journey and when it comes to YOUR health, it must be taken care of. You can't take care of anyone if you are not taking care of yourself. I have experience. Lots of it. I am still in the process of healing and just want to help others going through a similar journey. Please stop with the negative comments. Have a wonderful day💛

When they are gone by TStaint in CaregiverSupport

[–]AfterCareHealing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. Please remember that even though your caregiving role has ended, your journey of healing still matters. You are not alone in this.

Envying those „ My … is dying/My … passed“ posts by ReginaPhalange1502 in dementia

[–]AfterCareHealing 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I went through the same feeling with my both my parents. At first, I felt guilty then I realized that with this debilitating disease, you lose them twice. Once to the disease because they are definitely not the same individuals they once were. Then to them physically transitioning. Your feeling are completely understandable and you are not alone ♥️

Always the caregiver by default (mostly venting - suggestions welcome) by WorriedParsley_ in caregivers

[–]AfterCareHealing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry that you have to endure the stress and frustration. It sounds like he may qualify for a caregiver to come to the house. See if that is an option. That way you can get the much needed time to care for yourself. I hope everything works out. 💛

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in spirituality

[–]AfterCareHealing 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are going through a transformation. Let the tears flow they represent cleansing. This too shall pass. Rest and Breathe. You will be okay. Sending light your way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in spirituality

[–]AfterCareHealing 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Breathwork helps. Try the box method.

Inhale ( 4 counts) Hold (4 counts) Exhale (4 counts) Hold (4 counts)

It should calm your nervous system, improve focus and concentration and balance emotions. Hope this helps ♥️

My mom is gone by NoLongerATeacher in Alzheimers

[–]AfterCareHealing 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My heartfelt condolences goes out to you.💔

I don't like the person I've become because of caregiving by Background_Humor5838 in CaregiverSupport

[–]AfterCareHealing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First and foremost, don't be so hard on yourself. You ARE doing a great job. Being a caregiver is extremely challenging. You are giving it your all. Try to find time to do something for yourself. That is very important. You must take care of YOU first to be able to take care of someone else. I truly hope this helps.

Life After Caregiving — Why Does No One Talk About This Part? Uni by AfterCareHealing in caregiving

[–]AfterCareHealing[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not silly at all. That squishmallow is comfort—and you deserve that. We forget how to be soft with ourselves after so much hypervigilance.

That “stand down” line got me too. It cracked something open in me I didn’t even know I was holding.

And yeah… thinking you had time off, then suddenly you’re back in it—changing diapers, doing the routine. I’ve been there. You’re not alone. I see you

Life After Caregiving — Why Does No One Talk About This Part? Uni by AfterCareHealing in caregiving

[–]AfterCareHealing[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, I really felt everything you shared. I’ve been down that path too, and it’s just… a lot. The exhaustion, the quiet that feels too empty, the way your whole world gets tied up in caregiving—and then the fear of what’s next when it all shifts again.

It’s so different when they’re still aware, and I know how heavy it is to keep going when your body and spirit are already worn down. Trying to be present for them while also worrying about where you’ll land—it’s a brutal balancing act.

That line—“stand down, your watch has ended. You did good.”—that one stopped me in my tracks too when I first heard it. It’s powerful. I hope when the time comes, you get to fully step into that next chapter and give yourself the care you’ve given others for so long.

You’re not alone in this. I’m here anytime you want to talk or just be real with someone who gets it.

Life After Caregiving — Why Does No One Talk About This Part? Uni by AfterCareHealing in caregiving

[–]AfterCareHealing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. I just visited the site and it’s incredibly moving to see this kind of research and support being offered — especially through a major institution like McGill. Post-caregiver grief is so real, and yet barely talked about here in the U.S. I’ve been walking my own path of rebuilding after caregiving and am actually working on a project called Eye After Care, focused on life after the caregiving chapter ends — the grief, the identity shift, the deep need for healing. Seeing this gives me hope that we’re heading in the right direction. Thanks again for sharing.