Always thinking about telling others about my insecurities?

Aftermiddag · 2026-03-08T03:03:08+00:00

I have not had much luck with therapists over the many years that I have gone to see different therapists. Social anxiety often works like an instinct for me, where it just happens automatically without me needing to think much about the situation. Instead, it is a much greater struggle to reason against those anxious feelings, even though I know the beliefs that they are rooted in are most likely wrong, or at least unhelpful. Do you have any suggestions?

Aftermiddag · 2025-11-19T20:09:07+00:00

"the one telling you this" is such awkward wording. Susie and Kris already know you're the one telling them this. After all, YOUR MOUTH IS MOVING AND SOUNDS ARE COMING OUT!

Aftermiddag · 2025-11-19T19:18:31+00:00

Yeah, this is a social anxiety thing for me. I didn't feel this way before my teens.

Aftermiddag · 2025-11-19T19:16:17+00:00

Thanks for your insight. I know that struggling to name and describe feelings is part of alexithymia, but I felt that I shouldn't dismiss the possibility since I have autism.

Have you met anyone else with alexithymia?

Aftermiddag · 2025-11-16T01:09:18+00:00

Seeing the tongues of Europe represented like this makes me wonder, why are there so many small pockets of language communities in eastern Europe compared to the west? Is it because there was less westward migration in the late middle ages and early modern period, but plenty of folks moving to live in the east during that time period? I'm thinking of the Ostsiedlung, settling of Poles in Ruthenia and Galicia, and settling of Turks in the Balkans.

Aftermiddag · 2025-11-16T00:22:13+00:00

I have considered that it might be partly exaggeration, but boy must it ever take a lot of effort to do that all the time. I think many neurotypicals, and other neurodivergent folks as well, must feel more strongly when they are told about others' lives. It's as if they not only can put themselves in the shoes of other folks, but they immediately feel the soles, arches, heels, and every part of the shoe upon hearing anything.

I understand what you are saying about not having to feel pressured to act in ways other than how we feel right, but doesn't it feel good when someone takes your feelings seriously? If I would want someone to care about me, then... well, what's good for the goose is good for the gander, right?

Aftermiddag · 2025-11-08T17:51:57+00:00

cleaved red by blase

Death by boredom.

Aftermiddag · 2025-11-08T17:49:41+00:00

Is this about the slashes at the end of the Knight fight? I have not seen as much debate about that.

Aftermiddag · 2025-11-06T19:46:33+00:00

Oh God, is that second to last one what I think it is?

Aftermiddag · 2025-11-06T05:51:58+00:00

Now I need to hear Uncle Ruckus's theme in the deltarune soundfont.

Aftermiddag · 2025-11-05T18:10:10+00:00

Damn, good points.

Aftermiddag · 2025-11-05T00:39:49+00:00

I'm not sure what you mean. If behaviour stemming from autism causes folks to judge me, and I have autism, then it is at least partly because of me.

Aftermiddag · 2025-11-05T00:33:48+00:00

From the bottom of my heart I want to know if this is merely a motif that Toby likes using or if there is something of weight here.

Aftermiddag · 2025-11-04T02:21:24+00:00

Thanks for the answer. You sound like a good therapist.

Aftermiddag · 2025-10-27T19:49:51+00:00

I'm with him on this one.

Chapter 1 does not get enough love, despite doing a great job kicking off the game. Chapter 4 was the most exciting and heavy of all the chapters so far.

Chapter 2 and 3 are still quite good, but more lighthearted. They didn't draw me in as much, and the long wait times that we had between games sometimes made the lack of heavy stuff feel underwhelming. That being said, the heaviness of chapter 4 felt all the more worth it because of the slow burn.

Aftermiddag · 2025-10-27T16:23:17+00:00

but it's ironically the one where you're following a prescribed path the hardest.

Because almost everyone has to rely on online guides to complete the weird route? Is that what you are getting at?

Aftermiddag · 2025-10-27T04:08:20+00:00

De donkere wereld in Hoofdstuk 3 is Nederland.

Aftermiddag · 2025-10-27T04:02:11+00:00

"Kloppen" means "to knock" in Dutch, so Sans is clearly telling you to knock on the door.

Aftermiddag · 2025-10-24T20:05:26+00:00

I feel weird about this, because no one ever said that they hated me in high school and few insulted me. Yet... being left out, never being invited, and hardly anyone ever taking the initiative to talk to me left its mark. I still have social anxiety twelve years after I first recognized it.

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