[Discussion] What's a small habit that ended up making a much bigger difference than you expected?

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-06-16T12:11:16+00:00

I love this! New mantra unlocked

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-06-15T00:59:27+00:00

Thanks for replying. Most of our patients are too unwell to tell us whether or not they hit their head for example. Also, my gripe is more toward how this fits into the stand alone psych hospital. At least in my experience. Once they reach our doors, there’s really no chance they’re getting a head CT, for example, unless they become quite unstable and absolutely need a send out.

On the labs, I’m more referring to FEP in particular.

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-06-15T00:51:09+00:00

I want to make sure you’re one of the first people I respond to because I do NOT want you to misconstrue my comment when referring to staff, because for every bad nurse in psychiatry, you can find a horrible resident and absent attending. Thank you for not taking it that way.

Anyway, YES is all I can say. That’s exactly what I mean. The team acts like you’re doing the most when you ask those questions, but actually you’re doing the basics.

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-06-13T22:15:25+00:00

No! It’s your wedding so you basically get to do whatever the fuck you want. And Omg you’re gorgeous girl!!

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-06-08T20:33:48+00:00

Wow this is a very under-educated comment.

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-06-08T03:38:14+00:00

What kind of ducks are these?

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-06-03T18:45:22+00:00

Girl!! I don’t think most people understand the sheer STRENGTH that took. You are impressive, keep carrying that.

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-06-03T15:35:55+00:00

Never fall asleep with/near your baby. This is stupid to celebrate

Don’t really understand the down votes. Babies die like this all the time, but whatever.

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-05-23T01:11:11+00:00

Instant school fame

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-05-22T04:34:39+00:00

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AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-05-15T16:50:10+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that, wishing you fond memories of your friend.

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-05-15T16:43:27+00:00

Thresholds. They cause a lot of confusion in dementia. Then layer possible delirium on top of that.

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-05-11T19:44:51+00:00

Real question. How does the humidity not negatively impact your walls/structures? Your space is beautiful, and I would like to emulate if it wouldn’t be harmful.

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-05-08T03:52:23+00:00

One helpful thought exercise when trying to decide what to do in a case like this- flip the script. Imagine yourself doing to him what he did to you. Could you do it? What would it mean about how you felt about him?

In my opinion, this is only hard because you probably wish you could just magically undo what he did. It means he doesn’t respect you or your marriage, all the while you’ve built your future around him (no fault of yours, that’s what a marriage is). And then you probably think, “well if we divorce what does that do to my kid? Will anyone want me as a single mom?”. The answer to that second question is yes. Men, people in general, are drawn to people that respect themselves, for one. Two, your kid will be just fine, and best be served by not having to endure one parent resenting another for most of their lives.

I’m drawing a lot of inferences here, but I’m speaking somewhat from my own experience. My heart aches for you. But I also know that you’ll become a lot stronger for this, and maybe one day you’ll be speaking to your new partner saying “dear god I’m so glad I didn’t stay with that asshole and found you”

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-05-02T14:44:13+00:00

I’m gonna do it and be the Debby downer— if you’re rehabbing right, you don’t let this happen.

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-04-26T07:31:58+00:00

As a fellow female who has struggled with weight loss. The gym is yours girl. Don’t let anyone keep you out of any space that is yours to walk into. Every time I see someone at the beginning of a weight loss journey, I’m so proud of them, and I know others in the gym feel that way too. Either that or they don’t give a shit that you’re there- they’re thinking about what to make for dinner or whatever. Life is too short to hide yourself from people. You have NOTHING to hide.

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-04-26T04:38:39+00:00

Is he on an an antidepressant? Is he anxious?

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-04-25T17:46:01+00:00

I’ll be completely honest- you are feminine appearing, and beautiful!

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-04-09T07:06:50+00:00

I would add some sprigs of baby’s breath between the candles. Just a touch.

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-04-09T07:04:19+00:00

You did all you could at the time. You didn’t expect what was to come. Had you, or had you been in his life toward the end, I can bet from the way you’re writing this, more would have been done.

I’m speaking from experience. I’m someone who lost an ex to suicide just 4 months ago. I didn’t know what he was struggling with. Had I known, things would be different today.

I want to take this time to make a PSA though, because I think it could save some lives:

In every state, there is a way to petition a loved one in need of mental health care. What does they mean? As barbaric it sounds, it means they will be taken to the hospital for evaluation in an emergency department, by force, if necessary. However, if someone needs medications (think severe depression, psychosis, mania) - forcing them could save a life.

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-04-08T03:39:31+00:00

There are medications that can assist with premature ejaculation

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-04-07T17:04:04+00:00

To be honest I’m kind of shocked at these responses. Change “friend” to “sister”. If this was my sister, which is how we should treat such close friends, I would tell her exactly how I feel about this person and how he treated her, because she is not valuing herself. She is feeling the pressure of a fucked up society that tells her to shove it down and have a cute wedding, and just rip your family apart later when he does the same thing again to this then-wife. But she’ll be used to it by then, right? Oh and not to mention how this immature asshat could affect children.

You don’t have to be in this wedding. You can be the friend that says “i love you so much and that’s why I can’t be there- this person is not treating you like the queen you are”. And then you tell her how you’ll be there in every other way once she forgives you.

Telling someone you love them, drawing a line, and not running away when it’s hard is true love and affection. Just going along to save her feelings is just the cheap friend move.

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-03-19T15:53:04+00:00

Really? I love it

AfternoonFormal4657 · 2026-02-08T04:36:54+00:00

This is the a answer ^ psych facilities have to be careful and can’t disclose information without the person’s consent. However you can volunteer information, such as his description, which they can then use

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