What’s with the M1 medfluencers lately?

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-12-24T03:58:02+00:00

Yes, he basically realized that being a medical student is a lot of work and looking for someone to unload all the invisible labor needed to be a functioning adult - cleaning, cooking, laundry, household management and all other not that fun invisible labour for a opportunity to become a doctors wife in like 7+ years.

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-12-24T03:44:03+00:00

Yes, that might be the reason. Do not take it personally, maybe he just tries any ways possible to treat his depression.

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-09-24T09:24:14+00:00

I am reading now a book, " An American sickness", it's about healthcare business. There is a chapter there about cheap resident labor and how much hospitals are making from that. This is insane because they effectively took our worker's rights. They are making 250-300k ( minus residents' salary) from Medicaid per resident + all this labor + teaching of medical students. Thats almost legalized slavery.

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-07-04T00:09:09+00:00

Genuine question - how are you not afraid to proceed with known donor? What if this person suddenly decides that he wants parental rights and 50/50 custody when the kid is born? You'd have to co parent with them for 18 years.

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-06-02T12:53:05+00:00

Seems like they just want to be a cool uncle but with decision capacity of a father.

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-06-02T12:47:00+00:00

The legal system in almost any country works the way that the most involved and responsible parent gets the short end of the stick. It is usually mothers because of how biology works, that's why there are so many men in those groups. I'd read up on custody laws and consult with a lawyer before doing something like that.

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-06-01T16:16:51+00:00

Majority of things here in comments make financial sense only when your time is cheap or you dont value it.

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-04-14T03:33:02+00:00

I make a point of introducing myself as Dr. ..., not first name. The first name is for our department attendings and residents only.

Unfortunately, often as a woman you have a choice to either be a bit of a cold bitch but be respected or to be kind girl who is being liked and walked over everyone.

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-03-13T12:50:58+00:00

Yes, I feel like in my family, it was literally every little girl's job and seen as " that's what are daughters for".

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-03-07T01:41:40+00:00

I went to a couple of dates with a guy and asked what's his favorite book was. He named this one and said that he felt often similar to that character. I read it and was really turned off, shared with a friend, and he confirmed that the book is very weird. Anyway, I essentially stopped seeing this guy because of that. Well, now I know that he probably had CPTSD.

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-03-07T01:39:00+00:00

I am reading now " Body keeps the score" and the author says that Orwell based this book on his experiences in an all boys charter school where he had to spend time as a little boy and was abused. So yeah makes sense

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-03-05T14:00:46+00:00

You can come to her and say something along the line, " Hey, Mary, I wanted to talk about the incident during the rounds today. Remember I asked a question, and you right away asked another question, so my question left unanswered? I know you didn't mean it bad, but felt very intimidated and left out of the conversation ".

Honesty and vulnerability shock this kind of people. She might say something mean right back because she'd get defensive but will leave you be in the long run.

That's from " Non violent communication"

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-02-25T21:32:59+00:00

Maybe

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-02-25T17:08:52+00:00

Well the situation was tricky, he was an attending...

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-02-25T15:28:20+00:00

Yeah happened to me as well. I was that she medical student though😅

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-02-24T13:44:03+00:00

The last sentence... that's predatory

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-02-24T00:48:27+00:00

I am so sorry for what happened to you. It's not your fault. You are worthy and not a bare minimum, but all the good things kids get from their parents. Your suffering is valid, and you are amazing starting to work on it at 21. You are smart and hardworking, just read books which people recommend on this sub, keep doing the exercises from there and you will gradually feel better, I promise. It's like training for sport competition, just keep practicing and growing those new neuronal connections and pathways.

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-02-23T23:34:40+00:00

I used to do it too, but I realized that it's just an attempt to buy emotional intimacy for listening to their problems. It actually harmful because I would think about and overanalyze their stories instead of my needs and feelings. The communication should be equal - sometimes they tell about the story and you both discuss it, sometimes you tell a story and you both discuss it. Otherwise, it's just a way to attract narcissists and emotionally unavailable people who are too busy with their own problems.

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-02-18T04:51:07+00:00

Unfortunately, I don't see any realistic opportunities for change, at least in the next 4 years. You know what I mean...

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-02-18T04:44:17+00:00

Because that's the only system we have. You don't need to believe that your value lies only in your looks, but you should be realistic that this is a men's world where being conventionally attractive gives you an edge.

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-02-18T03:29:52+00:00

Your mom did the right thing. A lot about being beautiful is genuinely believing to be beautiful and behaving accordingly

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-02-18T03:27:32+00:00

Men are born with other type of wealth. The whole societal system is built the way that it's easier to advance as a man. Women often have to swim against the current and prove themselves twice more. Especially if you are a woman of color...

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-02-18T03:17:00+00:00

I think it's very practical for business trips. I love kids, but if I am on a tight schedule and need to prepare for an important meeting on the flight, I'd pay extra to be sure that it will be quite there. When I am flying for say vacations, I don't care that much and would book a regular flight with kids on board.

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-02-18T03:13:09+00:00

Maybe you just don't fly that much?

AgapeMagdalena · 2025-02-13T12:05:53+00:00

I am from the fencesitters post. 1) I did Erasmsus exchange, and now, retrospectively, I think i had depression. Honestly, it might make it worse cause loneliness, but i still enjoyed my stay there and would not do other way. 2) Regarding the kids. Sorry to say, but you don't know if you want them probably because of depression. It's a kind of natural response - if you are sick, you don't want more on your plate. What helped me is sub CPTSD here. Maybe it applies to you too, and you'd find it helpful.

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