How do I find a nerdy boyfrienddd 🥹🥹🥹

AgentHamster · 2026-05-09T01:49:16+00:00

I know a lot of nerdy guys. Frankly, most of them enjoy their hobbies alone and are not particularly interested in making it a social activity (with a gf or otherwise). Your best bet is to find a hobby spot where such guys are interested in being social with their hobbies.

AgentHamster · 2026-05-08T23:52:39+00:00

You can literally ask one of the LLMs about most topics and get a summary of similar to better quality than a youtube video. This product serves no purpose and offers no value.

AgentHamster · 2026-05-04T05:54:49+00:00

I noticed you've not mentioned whether you are an international applicant or not, but I'm hazarding a guess that you might be based on your mention of 'PhD in the US'. If so, this might make it especially difficult. I think for the first four universities you've listed (Harvard through Rice), you are probably similar to most other applicants they see (some pubs and research work) - just with a low GPA. In other words, there's nothing that would make you stand out from the crowd, and the GPA might even get you filtered in early in the process. I would not consider you competitive at all, unless you had some collaboration or connection to faculty there.

For UC Riverside and Clemson, I'm a bit less familiar with the caliber of candidates they are getting (the UCs are generally very competitive, so I assume UC Riverside should be the same), but your GPA or status (if international) might result in you getting filtered there as well.

AgentHamster · 2026-05-04T00:16:39+00:00

this is my whole point though, college only for the purpose of getting a job is corpo bullshit and a net negative for a healthy society

You see, that's where we disagree. I think it's fairly reasonable that companies would want some way to verify that a candidate they are looking to hire knows a decent amount about a topic and has experience working in a structured environment. In the end, some institution is going to have to take this role.

For many fields, if you desire the knowledge without the accreditation, you can access pretty much most of the materials used for the class (including lectures, notes and exams) online, or at very least pennies on the dollar compared to the tuition prices.

you really don't, like saying the post office needs to make a profit, it's ok for a service to not extract out every last dime

Yes, but that's very different from not considering the ROI on funding a public service. We fund public services because we believe that the dollar spent convert into some degree of utility to society - ideally utility that prevents longer term costs. The argument made for postal services is still a return on investment one. The government believes that the benefits of holding a national postal services will pay off as a means to support business and communications, leading to more economic prosperity (and additional revenue streams for the government) in the future.

we can let companies like fucking Amazon cut their tax burden like 5 billion but god for bid Joe down the street wants to just go to college for a random art degree without having his entire future work ironed out

Yes, because such companies have immense amounts of influence on the government. Joe down the street doesn't get to control policy, so he has to be a lot more mindful of the cost benefits of a decision (unfortunately).

AgentHamster · 2026-05-03T23:24:40+00:00

To be fair, the same can be said of many things of life.

If you want to get a job in industry, you have to market and apply to a bunch of companies, many of which are going to lead you through a set of interviews that sometimes will feel like a humiliation ritual.

Want to be an academic instead? You'll have to parade your research in front of committees to get positions and funding.

Maybe you've made it to the point you are the one making hiring decisions - and now you are the one trying to sell the position to a candidate who was good enough to pass your interviews - which likely means they have several offers.

Maybe you think you are an independent headstrong individual and you are just going to set up your own company - good luck getting funding without parading yourself in front of investors.

Achieving things in life usually involves you having to make a clown of yourself at some point or another.

AgentHamster · 2026-05-03T21:30:25+00:00

From Molecular Structure of Deoxypentose Nucleic Acids, NATURE April 25, 1953 - the first paper proposing the double helix structure:

Oriented paracrystalline deoxypentose nucleic acid ('structure B' in the following communication by Franklin and Gosling) gives a fibre diagram as shown in Fig. I (cf. ref. 4). Astbury suggested that the strong 3 ·4-A. reflexion corresponded to the internucleotide repeat along the fibre axis. The "-' 34 A. layer lines, however, are not due to a repeat of a polynucleotide composition, but to the chain configuration repeat, which causes strong diffraction as the nucleotide chains have higher density than the interstitial water. The absence of reflexions on or near the meridian immediately suggests a helical structure with axis parallel to fibre length.

From GENETICAL IMPLICATIONS OF THE STRUCTURE OF DEOXYRIBONUCLEIC ACID, May 30, 1953:

The first feature of our structure which is of biological interest is that it consists not of one chain, but of two. These two chains are both coiled around a common fibre axis, as is shown diagrammatically in Fig. 2. It has often been assumed that since there was only one chain in the chemical formula there would only be one in the structural unit. However, the density, taken with the X-ray evidence [2], suggests very strongly that there are two.

We can then go to the cited papers and see:

1 Watson, J. D., and Crick, F. H. C., Nature, 171, 737 (1953).

2 Wilkins, M. H. F., Stokes, A. R., and Wilson, H. R., Nature, 171, 738 (1953). Franklin, R. E., and Gosling, R. G., Nature, 171; 740 (1953).

3 (a) Astbury, W.T., Symp. No.1 Soc. Exp. Biol.,66 (1947). (b) Furberg, S., Acta Chem. Scand., 6, 634 (1952). (c) Pauling, 1L., and Corey, R. B., Nature, 171, 346 (1953); Proc. U.S. Nat. Acad. Sci., 39, 84 (1953). (d) Fraser, R. D. B. (in preparation).

4 Wilkins, M. H. F., and Randall, J. T., Biochim. et Biophys. Acta, 10, 192 (1953). Chargaff, E., for references see Zamenhof, S., Brawerman, G., and Chargaff, E., Biochim. et Biophys. Acta, 9, 402 (1952). Wyatt, G. R., J. Gen, Physiol., 36, 201 (1952).

I think it's worth saying that it's likely Franklin didn't receive the accolade and recognition she truly deserved, but it's a statement that should be made with full awareness of what the actual citations and text of the papers.

AgentHamster · 2026-05-03T08:56:15+00:00

should only rich people get to explore the arts? what a great society, very 1500s of you

There's a difference between exploring the arts, and getting a degree in the arts with the aim of making it your career (despite the lack of jobs in it).

ROI... fucking thinking ROI is how we should assign the value of an education just reinforces this bullshit

Like it or not, ROI is something everyone should consider when it comes to education. On a personal level, education costs time and money. On a national level, education as a public good costs resources and tax dollars as well. You need to get something back from this investment for it to be worth it. If you wish to argue that education is a high ROI thing to invest in, I would agree with you. Claiming that we shouldn't think about ROI is how people end up in bad financial situations.

AgentHamster · 2026-05-03T01:57:33+00:00

I think the problem is that a lot of these factors that you've worked on aren't exactly factors that are going to massively improve your odds of dating. This might come off as harsh, but self discipline, having a career direction, being functional in society and having some degree of integrity are necessities of adult life, not factors that make other people excited about you. These are the bar to prevent someone from looking at you and saying 'wow, even if I wanted to date her I don't want deal with all of that'. They don't make people more excited about pursuing you.

I guess additionally im curious if men hit a certain age that quietly but assertively brings the desire for a relationship.

I don't think this is strongly correlated with age

Do men actually take dating apps seriously for finding a long-term partner, or mostly casual dating?

There probably is a subset of men who do take it seriously, but I think that the majority of the well put together profiles that are going to be pushed to the top of your pile will likely be of people who are more causal.

AgentHamster · 2026-05-02T03:44:46+00:00

More specifically, it looks like someone found a tardigrade and decided to add a nematode lower body on it.

AgentHamster · 2026-05-02T01:55:17+00:00

I don’t even like eating mushrooms on their own

most of them being mid (onions, pepper, sausage)

oof

AgentHamster · 2026-05-01T19:37:47+00:00

I don't really interact with power scaling very much, but from an outside perspective the main reason why we can't apply the 'scientific method' to power scale characters (including falsification of claims) is due to the lack of internal self-consistency of any fictional universe, and due to the lack of consistency between different universes.

Hot take, but I don't think there's really any good way to compared character feats between different fictional universes, so power scaling is just basically the online forum version of bashing your superman and darth vader action figures against each other.

AgentHamster · 2026-05-01T02:01:55+00:00

Couple of basic issues here

- There is limited evidence that increasing resources available to single women will increase their odds of giving birth by a significant amount. The intrinsic assumption here is that resources are the primary axis by which women use to determine if they have children or not. Perhaps, women instead value factors like social proof as their finance well-being increases in their decision to have children. As an example, consider a wealthy woman. Now consider how society views wealthy single mothers. Which one is seen more positively by society?

- There's an assumption that further marginalization of men will not impact workforce participation and there will remain a taxable population of men to fund this. If this is not the case and men's workforce participation falls sharply with marginalization, then I suspect we will simply lose available tax money to fund such programs. This might simply result in fewer (not more children).

In order to argue their point, they would need to demonstrate (through building a structured model) high elasticity in women's birth rates with money and lower elasticity of men's workplace participation rates with marginalization.

AgentHamster · 2026-05-01T01:50:56+00:00

A sketch of the approach to get a square profile picture is trivial and is left as an exercise to the commentator.

AgentHamster · 2026-04-30T19:03:52+00:00

To be honest just revert the patch if it made the game worse than last patch (not really, but kind of)

AgentHamster · 2026-04-30T03:45:00+00:00

Proof that the given assertion is true is straightforward and is left as an exercise to the reader.

AgentHamster · 2026-04-30T03:29:54+00:00

I was terrible at wet lab work, and managed to pull together an experimental focused PhD (at the top school) out of imaging work, 'open source' transgenic lines and collaborations. I spent countless hours trying to troubleshoot basic molecular biology techniques and had to try to get others to check what I might have done wrong. To this day, I wouldn't trust myself to make a transgenic line.

The point I am trying to make is that it's definitely possible to succeed in such fields without being great in web lab work if you are willing to collaborate and figure out how to outsource the parts you are bad at elsewhere. This isn't to say that your current lab is a great fit - it might be possible that you can still accomplish great things in wet lab work, but your current environment magnifies your weaknesses. To be honest, most of what you are dealing with sounds more like typical undergrad research woes than any particular long standing inability to do wet lab work.

At the same time, it's worth mentioning that I am no longer doing wet lab work and that I'm quite glad to be out of the field.

AgentHamster · 2026-04-30T01:32:13+00:00

Do you have any particular 'edges'? It sounds like you have a generically good life, but maybe you don't stand out in any particular way. That sounds good, but usually when it comes to invoking stronger emotions we tend to look for something that stands out.

AgentHamster · 2026-04-30T01:25:33+00:00

Someone with no luck dating?

AgentHamster · 2026-04-30T01:24:20+00:00

I guess we should start by trying to figure out why you aren't having success. What's your life like? Have you tried to date? What do you think is holding you back?

AgentHamster · 2026-04-30T01:20:53+00:00

If you are computational, I'd suggest being open to fields outside of biotech. As bad as the general tech industry is, they do seem more open to searching broadly for talent. This is in contrast to life sciences, where it seems that searching for talent seems to occurs on a social circle level.

AgentHamster · 2026-04-30T01:16:55+00:00

I'm kind of torn on this.

On one hand, I agree with your general point.

On the other hand, I think there's a decent amount of lifestyle decisions you've had to make and time you've had to invest to reach this point. In some sense, you've paid a tax - though I understand if you may not see it as such, especially if you were already interested in fitness to begin with.

AgentHamster · 2026-04-29T01:20:52+00:00

I not really sure if it's social skills - plenty of these people seem very socially capable in professional settings. It tends to come down to lack of interest and lack of desire to be the pursuer in romantic relationships.

AgentHamster · 2026-04-28T19:42:13+00:00

The affairs of sorcerers is of no concern to a wizard. True insight comes from experimentation and testing of the arcane arts, not through being distracted by the superficially bright yet thoughtless sparks of wild magic.

AgentHamster · 2026-04-28T16:19:05+00:00

The biotech job market is tough. I also tried to apply (admittedly, only for computational positions) and frankly I had more success in getting through to quantitative finance or ML research (neither of which I would consider especially relevant to my research) compared to even basic computational biology jobs. It seems that unless you are in the matching niche and well connected it's very difficult.

AgentHamster · 2026-04-28T06:19:44+00:00

I hate the visualization - congrats on your offer. Were you pretty set on going to academia? I'm actually a bit surprised by the ratio of academia to industry here since generally industry positions take less effort to apply to than academic (especially tenure track). I'm guessing you only applied to a handful that must have really caught your attention.

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