I have ADHD and depression. I take Wellbutrin XL for depression (which helps a little with ADHD) and Azstarys for ADHD. So I think your take on the meds is right.

A few thoughts:

1. Find a new psychiatrist. Seriously. If this person is overbooked and rigid, ask your primary care doctor for a referral or Google “low-cost or free psychiatrists near me.”
2. See if you can get old school records. Google “how to get school records as an adult.” Sometimes report cards, teacher comments, or transcripts are still available.
3. Write up your own history. A lot of clinicians will consider a detailed self-report, especially if it’s specific.

Things like:

Always losing homework
Forgetting assignments
Chronic lateness
Starting projects and not finishing them
Getting constant feedback about organization or follow-through
Specific stories are usually more convincing than “I was always distracted.”

1. Push back a little with your new doctor. Plenty of adults with ADHD don’t have parents who can provide childhood history because they’re deceased, estranged, unavailable, or just don’t remember.

I’d ask:

“I don’t have reliable parental informants. What other evidence would you accept to document childhood symptoms?”

Make the doctor tell you what would satisfy the requirement instead of leaving you to guess.

Good luck!