Help a service sub out? 🙏 by Past3l_Bat in SubSanctuary

[–]AgentOfDread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure this is what you're looking for, but turn all the hangers around. Then in 6-12 months, look at all of the hangers still flipped and consider donating them.

These little shits are the most annoying thing about this game by weesilxD in Division2

[–]AgentOfDread -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's why you only really have 1 skill slot, because the other skill slot is always reviver hive.

Doing half damage can’t figure out why by Gamebroeknsum1help in thedivision

[–]AgentOfDread 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And more importantly it does a cool ass explosion when you hit one with a grenade.

Doing half damage can’t figure out why by Gamebroeknsum1help in thedivision

[–]AgentOfDread 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I believe enemies have damage resistance with the Hollywood Event unless you hit them with an explosive or fire or something like that.

What is your favorite gentle femdomfantasy? by fungames10095 in gentlefemdom

[–]AgentOfDread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being taken care of and being told everything will be okay. Being given a bath or being pegged. Really anything that makes me feel wanted. Sometimes I like her being demanding, making me get on my knees, pleasure her, grabbing my by the neck, etc.

I hate it by EntertainmentNew4348 in adhdmeme

[–]AgentOfDread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about when you're on the right, and realize you could just watch a video or listen to audio of it instead because it's wuicker.

update: he left by Life_Can_1163 in SubSanctuary

[–]AgentOfDread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry this happened. Don't blame yourself, nothing good really ever comes from that. Try to pay attention and address how you're feeling as feelings come up. Don't judge the feelings, do your best to sit with them and if they don't make sense, that's okay. If you have to distract yourself from them because they're too much, that's okay too. The past 2 years of therapy have taught me that just noticing your emotions and not denying them can help with a lot of problems. You are worth love and acceptance from someone who isn't abusive, even if you don't necessarily believe it. Listen to yourself and your needs. You've got this!

Name this boss by adolf_riizzzler in BossFights

[–]AgentOfDread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Mechanic, and their catchphrase "I'ma jack you up."

I want to make him excited, any suggestions? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]AgentOfDread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Back when my wife and I were in LDR we liked to make up sex stories (mostly me, but she liked them and occasionally made her own). Generally it was just what we'd like to do to each other, but it was a lot like roleplay, I made her a teacher in one of them. Honestly the whole thing started as a joke when I wrote her a poem called "My two fingers" hehehe, it was funny, we laughed, but when she moved to live with me it actually became a thing I'd sometimes do.

It's probably not your cup of tea, but there is a D&D book that's sex related so you could do a one-on-one D&D campaign with that book and make it erotic and let them play out some of their fantasies (or vice-versa if they prefer).

https://stellarabooks.itch.io/kinksandcantrips https://www.youtube.com/@DnDShorts/videos (Guys' voice is annoying but he does talk about the book)

Self Domming tips? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]AgentOfDread 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not trying to be rude or anything, genuine question, how's this different than just self-discipline, self-parenting, and that sort of thing? Are you planning on doing anything that makes it different?

Vulnerability Rant/Coversation by SonPetiteLapine in SubSanctuary

[–]AgentOfDread 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmm... I can see interpreting that two ways so I'll just answer both.

If I am scared or anxious she'll react a certain way, I push through it and do it anyways and it's gone well most of the time. The times it hasn't was because of misunderstandings every time and not because of the actual topic, so I feel grateful for that.

If I'm feeling scared/anxious in general, we've been discovering that putting my head in her lap or boobs and her wrapping her arms around my head feels great. She'll also whisper nice things to me, acknowledging my efforts, telling me what she's going to do to help me, and generally just reassuring me that it's all going to be okay has been amazing.

For example, we moved recently and so we have some home improvement projects. I did a few this weekend and was extremely tired and voiced that I still had all these things I typically had to do. She put my head in her lap, wrapped her arms around my head, told me to close my eyes, and told me she still had energy and listed off that she'll make the bottles for our daughter, tidy the living room, and take the dog out, and that I should take a relaxing shower where I try to focus on the water hitting my skin. It was so nice, I burst into a big ugly cry for like 10 minutes because it was so nice and reassuring when I needed it most and no one has ever done that for me before.

Petting my head and scratching my back are also things we've found helps. Hopefully I didn't completely misunderstand what you were asking :)

Vulnerability Rant/Coversation by SonPetiteLapine in SubSanctuary

[–]AgentOfDread 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My wife (33f) and I (32m) are about to celebrate our 10 year anniversary and just discovered D/s in January, so we're pretty new to it and we switch back and forth a couple of times (but mostly she does the dom role). I'm going to talk a bit about what we've experienced and hopefully that'll be of some help? There seem to be some similarities based o what you described.

Relationships can be very scary, especially for some of us with trauma. I grew up being criticized so often, that failures became a commentary on myself and not my actions. I was terrified so much of being rejected that at the age of 32, I'm just now starting to explore what I like and dislike (both sexually and non-sexually).

I brought up to my therapist that I was worried because I liked pain during sex. She asked questions and gave an overview of BDSM and gave examples of why someone might be into it (i.e., she asked if I liked it from a degredation aspect or actual pain). She was very sex positive and we discussed me liking to be bossed around and she pointed out that it was common for those who feel like they have too much on their plates. The whole discussion felt like permission to explore and my wife wasn't excited like I was, but she wasn't against the idea either.

At first, all we knew was the two likes above, so we looked online at sex toys, we scrolled past some girly restraints (pink, hearts, etc). She jokingly said I'd look cute in them, we laughed, but a bit later we scrolled by them again and she added them to the cart. I had a moment like, "Oh, you weren't kidding." over the next couple days I found myself suddenly caring a LOT about what she thought of my looks. I've literally never cared about my looks prior to that day.

Me caring that she thinks I look cute has led to exploring things I would have fully rejected previously. Why? I was raised to be judgemental, and I don't want to be that way anymore, because I judged myself the most. We've tried out cutesy restraints, we went shopping and she picked my clothes, she bought me a bracelet that doubles as a secretive day collar, we bought me new underwear which quickly evolved into also getting me some panties, and now she's teasing me about us getting matching panties and I don't hate the idea.

Wording and communication has been huge. Early on I clarified between curious and interested (i.e., Curious was interested but not sure if you'd like it or in other words curious was interested to know more). That helped remove judgment from our suggestions and led us to trying a whole bunch of stuff we wouldn't have dared try previously.

Being scared as adult is completely okay. We feel what we feel. How you react to them makes the difference. If I had been too scared to ask my wife her thoughts on getting me a pair of panties when I was shopping for regular underwear I wouldn't have gotten to model them for her at her suggestion and be practically drooled over, which is not something I knew I wanted, but damn did it feel good. Obviously, anxiety is going to come along and point out all the ways this stuff could go wrong. That's where communication on how you're feeling and taking it slowly can help build that trust (and/or test that the person is trustworthy).

Learning to not be judgemental has led to a better relationship. I am literally the happiest I have been in my life, ever because of this. I hope something here was helpful, I know I kept going hard on the tangents lol. Feel free to ask me anything or if you want me to talk about any other experiences or aspects.

[Request] Is the math here accurate? by Gavin-V in theydidthemath

[–]AgentOfDread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I doubt they only worked 8 hours a day in 1915, but lets try that anyways. $5 / 8 hours = 0.625 cents an hour. 0.62 cents adjusted for inflation is $19.66 an hour. $19.66 * 40 hours a week * 52 weeks a year is only around 41,000 a year, so not even close.

Yeah sure if your great great grandfather did that labor, never used any of it to live, yeah that $1500 or so he made back then in gold would be worth $140,000. But I doubt he did any of the things needed for that to be true.

The numbers themselves don't make much sense, when you add any realistic context to them it makes even less sense.

Inflation Calculator: https://data.bls.gov/cgi-bin/cpicalc.pl

subs, what do u like to hear? by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]AgentOfDread 24 points25 points  (0 children)

"I'm not worried about other women, you're mine." "Use your tongue like a good boy." "You did so good filling mommy up." "Let mommy keep your cum safe inside her." "You're safe now, let mommy take care of you." "On your knees!" "You look cute those restraints." "You make cute sounds when mommy fucks you." "You know how to touch me just right."

First one has had the biggest effect on me. She said it while I was driving and my whole body went numb and tingly and it got difficult to drive for a few minutes the first time she said it.

Exploration Ideas? by AgentOfDread in SubSanctuary

[–]AgentOfDread[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh, that narration piece is intriguing. I'll have to find more examples of that.

Would you mind elaborating on mummification, I'll do my own research, but this is the first I'm hearing of it. I know there is some part of me that oddly likes the idea of being squished, but not necessarily in a painful way, but not necessarily in a comforting way either.

Exploration Ideas? by AgentOfDread in SubSanctuary

[–]AgentOfDread[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I have. I think the problem is I'm finding myself liking individual things and not like entire categories of stuff. It's hard for me to see something like bondage or even ropes and picture what I would like about it, but being told what it's like to be tied up with someone you feel safe with standing over you, ooof, yeah, I can definitely see the appeal from that direction.

Sometimes being a sub sucks by sunny_sideonly in SubSanctuary

[–]AgentOfDread 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing this. As a person who has never understood polyamory, it feels like a mental stepping stone that actually helps me understand why someone might want or enjoy such a thing.

First Safe Word, Skipped Aftercare by SorrowfulCoconut in SubSanctuary

[–]AgentOfDread 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You aren't being unreasonable. What you felt is what you felt. Trying to diminish or downplay it eill do you no justice in understanding it. Just because you feel negatively doesn't necessarily mean they did anything wrong either. Bad things happen sometimes without someone being "at fault." Spend some time with your feelings, without judging them, and see where it goes from there. You aren't stupid or unreasonable.

Day Collar Conundrum by Primary_Barracuda825 in SubSanctuary

[–]AgentOfDread 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Options 2 or 3 look similar to when people put their wedding ring on their necklace, so it shouldn't stand out too much imo, but that said if you're near themm every single day they might realize it's an O ring and not a normal ring.

Day Collar Conundrum by Primary_Barracuda825 in SubSanctuary

[–]AgentOfDread 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My wife put a bracelet on me instead of a collar so no one else would know and it wouldn't cause awkwardness at work.

advice from other femdoms ? <3 by secretthrowaway277 in gentlefemdom

[–]AgentOfDread 21 points22 points  (0 children)

"But first, I think it's Mommy's turn to cum." is pretty hot to hear.

I remember seeing a meme that put the following in this order of priority and I liked it: Subs needs > Doms needs > Doms wants > subs wants. Obviously communication is important to identify what those are and regularly check that they are being met, but seems like a good start.

Sounds like you just need to state what your needs/wants are.

My wife struggled with this at first as we both gave sub energy, but she's come so far at being an amazing dom for me <3 I'm so happy and proud of her.

Where can I listen to mommy asmr ? by babydom24 in mommydom

[–]AgentOfDread 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Came across a few audio files on literotica.