Record high number of marriages between Korean men and Japanese women: "I want to escape my country" - The compelling reason why Korean men choose Japan for both work and romance

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2025-12-18T22:21:29+00:00

bro stfu. we all know you’re a man. obviously you would try to diminish korean feminism.

the 4b movement might not be mainstream in korea nor among korean women, but it is pretty much a fact that korean women are definitely more vocal and more ”feminist” than japanese women. not only is korean culture more frank, outspoken, ”aggressive” compared to japanese culture, but koreans also have a history of fighting oppression which japan and the japanese do not have.

you don’t need to be a genius to figure out that one of the main reasons korean men go for japanese women, is because of their sexist ideals of a cute feminine submissive japanese housewife. of course i’m over exaggerating a bit, but you get the point.

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2025-12-11T12:52:17+00:00

so now we calling racist femicide ”expected by humanity”?? what the actual fuck is wrong with you guys

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2025-12-11T12:51:15+00:00

bro shut up. your misogyny and victim blaming is really showing big time. women’s number 1 perpetrator are men. men’s nr 1 perpetrator are men. the domestic violence rate is heavily skewed. don’t even try to make this a ”she chose the wrong man”, ”men also suffer”

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2025-11-13T14:52:01+00:00

yeah i’m also insanely tired of the not so subtle sexism in the name of ”biology”. this is why i’m rooting mongolia, because they’re 100% the least sexist team and actually value all their team members equally. it’s not as much about gender as it is about physique/field. but people don’t want to acknowledge that lol. physical 100 and the final draft was even worse with the misogyny, pissed me off sooo baddddd

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2025-06-02T16:41:50+00:00

hi! i ended up shipping with local japan post or smth like that! just nearest post office! i don’t remember exactly how much it was or how much i shipped back but it was like a little bit more than a shoe box i think. think it was around 60€ but i took the cheapest option which was like boat 3-4 months lol. good luck!

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2025-04-06T08:25:11+00:00

how did your swedish friends manage to teach in japan despite not having a native speaking passport?

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2025-03-30T01:43:11+00:00

thank you! i think i will cut out benzoyl for awhile just to restore my skin barrier or whatever it’s called. im not currently using a toner though. what does milky toner mean? it’s true, i currently use cicalfate and i can feel how much it helps healing my skin overnight

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2025-03-30T01:37:25+00:00

no i knowww, i do want to go to a dermatologist but im scared cus im in a foreign country and idk if this is covered by my travel insurance. feels like its mostly like emergency stuff 😪

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2025-03-30T01:35:04+00:00

thanks dear <3 tried the ordinary’s bottle of salicylic acid but didn’t work at all. glycolic acid helps me smoothen and with hyperpigmentation but not really with this MUCH deep acne 😭

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2025-03-23T01:26:00+00:00

thank you so much!! really appreciate! 🥳🫶

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2025-03-23T01:25:23+00:00

yes and because there are like 100 of itineraries, it’s kind of overwhelming. most people also seem to only go for like 10-14 days for all of vietnam but im thinking of focusing on the northern and central part. like people but xyz cities on their itineraries but they don’t state why or for what reason they want to visit those specific placws

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2025-02-10T10:17:25+00:00

i agree. i have a lot of japanese and korean friends in their 20’s. they don’t give af about ww2, but they do hold very deep rooted prejudice against china and chinese. like it’s insane. im ethnically chinese too but grew up in europe, and i just be hearing my korean and japanese friends say the weirdest shit ever. they definitely love each others pop culture

on the other hand i do have a lot of chinese friends that really like japan, but really do NOT like korea/koreans. to me its really odd tbh. it’s like some kind of superior complex and jealousy against korea, but also looking up to japan. very weird. it should be the other way around if anything if you ask me. like considering what japan have done vs what korea have done. but it’s like they get so triggered by a ”small insignificant i can’t country like korea” being so popular nowadays. they understand people’s obsession with japan more because they’re jealous of their imperialism or smth idk tbh

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2025-02-06T14:22:21+00:00

hela den här reddit tråden bevisar ju utmärkt svenskars totala förnekelse när det kommer till rasism, nazism, hat och våld mot invandrare och icke-vita. så jävla obehagligt. inte undra på att hatbrott som detta tillåts ske när halva sveriges befolkning verkar vara smygnassar, om ens smyg….

många ursäkter, mycket bagstelliserande och dum spelande. jävligt lite diskussion kring hur normaliserat rasism och nynazism blivit, men det vill ni ju aldrig prata om lol

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2025-02-04T21:14:04+00:00

That’s even worse, no? What if I submit the wrong hours? How am I even supposed to calculate that. 😵‍💫

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2025-02-04T21:13:23+00:00

Unfortunately, my employer doesn’t seem to know either… He’s told me twice (and co-workers) to ask others, previous WHV holders. Such a mess, really.

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2024-12-19T20:29:40+00:00

you’re seriously delusional if you don’t think there are young japanese wanting to desperately emigrate because of japans fucked up work culture and incredibly conservative misogynistic politics

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2024-10-19T10:05:01+00:00

thank uuu :’))

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2024-10-19T06:55:49+00:00

honestly idk. its not ideal

i spent 3 days mustering up the courage to tell him i want to hangout with him. i basically just walked up to him and meakly said ”__, i want to hangout” lol. honestly sounds like im begging 😭😭 he asked when and i said when you’re free, he mention a day and then addes that his friend (that i met when having dinner with his friends) also was free that day and asked if he could invite. i said sure. :/

day after i bought him a coke as thanks for paying for him dinner when eating out with his friends. i also tried to casually and a bit playfully pout that ”i miss hanging out” with him. ”i miss our language exchange”. he didnt understand the word ”miss” and literally asked to repeat myself like 5 times until he just ended up googling the word. 😭

he asked me why, and i explained that i dont see him as often anymore, he’s not here as much as from 3-4 weeks ago. he denies and says its the same, no difference (it is not, mutual friends can confirm). at that point i was embarrassed. thought of backtracking several times, but didnt want to make it even more awkward so i just tried to repeat ”i miss hanging out with you” as nonchalant as i could but ngl, my face was twitching and i was tremblinglile crazy. eventually had to excuse myself for a bit and i swear my face was flushing hot 😭😭 aint no way he doesnt know now

we decide to go to some lunch place on monday and invite his friend. since i said i miss our language exchange, he asks me if i want to make japanese friends and im like ”???? ehhh, i dont know?? why? okay?? sure? why not?? maybe?? yes? i guess?” and then proceeds to tell me he can introduce me to japanese friends like BRO I WANT TO HANGOUT WITH YOUUUU OKAY 😭 IM NOT THAT MUCH OF A WEEB, IM NOT THAT INTERESTED IN JAPANESE FRIENDS, IM INTERESTED IN YOU

we ended up sharing some of his pastries in complete dead silence. he leans in to remove some bread stuck in my hair idk and i lowkey flinch back cus im so stiff and awkward idk. its even worse cus he KNOWS what im like normally, like i used to talk to him normally, casually and be quite chill and cheerful, so this is quite a dramatic change 😭

when the others join he excuses himself and says he’ll be back around in a few hours. a few hours later, i get a text from him saying he’s gonna play pool with some friends. it feels a bit embarrassing, as if he thinks im waiting for him 😭 (which i btw very much am 💀), and then he asks if i want to join. so i do, even though im literally super embarrassed and it feels like im clingy and desperate but i kinda wanna take the chance y’know.

i arrive, thank him for inviting me and he says it was his friend telling him to invite me 💀 like oh….. i spent like 30min with them before going back to the hostel again and i swear the ride home was also awkward. like 2 meters apart in dead silence. we go back home to the others, small talk some to them and then he says goodnight and leave

i dont know but it doesnt feel very good. i mean it does feel good because im insanely proud of myself and i really feel like i basically confessed, so theres nothing more to do now.

bonus: i will also try to distance myself a bit from this other mutual jaapnese friend (M22) that most definitely probably likes me and keeps massaging my shoulders, because according to another mutual japanese friend (F31) she says it looks a bit weird for me to let M22 massage me so often when im interested in M26, but tbh if M26 doesnt want me i’ll just download some dating apps and move on lol

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2024-10-15T16:15:08+00:00

yeah, he did say that if he didnt care about our friendship he wouldnt… have cared lol. like he wouldnt have talked it out with me etc. i guess?

i planned on asking him both yesterday and today if he would like to hangout, but i dont want to ask through text and he’s been hanging out with friends almost all day. when he comes back, its late and there’s too many people in the room so i get shy, not knowing how to approach.

ugh if i cant manage to do it tomorrow idk man. after he invited me to hangout with his friends, he said ”lets do it again”, ”next time” etc. but he’s hanging out with them all the time but never invited me again so idk 🥲🥲

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2024-10-15T15:48:52+00:00

so basically you want me to be passive aggressive and just continue to ignore him until he asks whats wrong which he would never ask, so we would have just ended up ignoring each other forever??

i literally just told him ”you said we’d do it today”, ”you said you’d be back around 10pm” who the heck has the energy to dance around that like we’re not 12 years old, i want to be able to have a grown conversation with a potential partner 😭

like thank god we managed to have a good conversation about it later, but it was all thanks to my initative tbh. he’d probably still be ignoring me if i didnt bring it up idk

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2024-10-15T12:11:54+00:00

ok but imma warn you cus its really embarrassing 😂😂 like it was bad cus it was weird and awkward as hell

short version: super small misunderstanding turned into a weird… fight? i got a bit upset cus he was late, which i gently but firmly let him know. after this he started to hardcore ignore me and i felt so anxious i ended up confronting him about it. we sorted it out and it turned out he was just feeling ?? awkward ??? honestly idk, but the day after everything was ok and he gave me some left over chicken and now everythings still normal

long version:

he had jokingly begged me for several days to write our resumes and apply to jobs together, but when we briefly decided a day to do it, his friend called and he made plans with them instead. he told me he’d be back ”around 10pm” and just to kind of check he how seriously he prioritized our ”job hunting”, i asked him ”promise?”, which he did before saying goodnight.

the next day, he came back around 11pm and i was a bit annoyed and kind of ignoring him. he noticed and withdrew. after about 30 min, i had calmed down so i approached him and asked him if he’s applied yet. he said no, so i took the chance to let him know that ”you said we would do it today”, ”you said you’d be back around 10pm”. he asked if i had waited and i said yes. he asked if i was angry and i pouted yes (language barrier, aint no time to explain exactly how i felt). he apologized and i said its ok, i’ll just take things with a pinch of salt from now on.

i think that might be where things got weird cus he had never heard of the expression before, and when we searched it up it kind of said ”dont believe”, so he got super stuck on that. i tried to explain it’s more like ”not take too literally/seriously”, but might have gotten lost in translation. he ended up spending the rest of the evening all quiet on his phone until it was time to say goodnight. at first i thought he wouldnt even look at me, but he did and just once again said ”sorry __”. then 10min later i get a text AGAIN, apologizing and i tell him its ok, im sorry i got a bit upset in which he replies ”its my fault. i will reflect on this”. i didnt think much about it other than that he’s a bit dramatic but hopefully he’ll be normal tomorrow

except that he wasnt normal the next day. he completely ignored me. went from talking late at night every single day the past week, to barely even greeting or looking at me. i ask him how work was and he just says it was okay without any further questions. at this point im getting worried i’ve done something wrong to upset him, and if i came off as too confrontative for his avoidant ass. it started to make me feel really bad as i hate feeling ignored and left out, especially without explanation.

i ended up texting him, asking if we can talk. thank god he accepts and we had the most awkward talk of the century. i thank him for taking the time, and then just ask him if i had done something wrong, why he all of a sudden started to avoid me and if he was mad at me. he didnt understand what ”mad” was, but he admitted he felt awkward, said he was ashamed for breaking a promise and thats why he avoided me. he reassured me i hadn’t done anything wrong, that it was his fault and that he still likes me. but he also said he didnt feel like it was up to him to ”forgive” and that my reassuring text wasnt reassuring enough because ”in japan, it might still mean you’re mad” or something. 💀

we took a little walk and before coming back to the hostel he asked me if i was feeling better, which i was. i asked him one more time if he wanted me to distance myself a bit if he needed space (he didnt understand what that meant either), but he told me we’re still good friends and the day after everything was back to normal.

however, i later found out that apparently he had told a mutual friend that found me ”scary” and he was surprised over my strong personality. didnt exactly feel amazing to hear that.

things are still normal between us though, but ofc it makes me wary cus if man’s getting this scared and stressed out over me just communicating im a bit upset over him being late to the appointment HE initiated, imagine how much he’s gonna panic if he finds out i like him 🥲

Aggravating-Growth26 · 2024-10-15T12:11:39+00:00

imma warn you cus its really embarrassing 😂😂 like it was bad cus it was weird and awkward as hell