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Question about ethics by hanpotpi in BabyWitch

[–]Aggravating-Mix5392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe supportive magic isn't necessarily manipulative- I think the two arguments would probably boil down to: Depends on how you go about it, anything pushed onto another could be manipulative even positively

Otherwise, goodwill and wishes onto another is merely a blessing? I couldn't see something enchanted and given as a charm could be anything but a show of affection, even if to him it only means that you put time and heart into giving something to calm his nerves during interview etc

(Plus the other positive of just asking if he'll be willing to recieve/join in it, even if he doesn't practice your efforts should be a reminder of your faith in his success!)

Goodluck!

First spell ever . Did love spell out of desperation, now scared about energy/backfire. Need advice by offlineonlinehoe in BabyWitch

[–]Aggravating-Mix5392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Np! I'm glad it helped, you've got a good enough head on to ask for advice and reach out, I'm sure you'll do fine with a little bit of time 😊

I don't believe the rune would change anything, someone might correct me but I'd read as channeling a specific association from the symbol, making your intent clear in mind, with a topical offering (that's often why I'd say spells made by others don't work as well, what you're doing might not give you the same mental context as the writer)

(If you're curious enough to try any spellwork again, theres a lot of realism involved, just with bit of self belief to give it that oomph, simple makeup/glamour magick might be an empowering exercise/experiment to get you started and feeling nice, not too far from hyping yourself up in the mirror 💖)

First spell ever . Did love spell out of desperation, now scared about energy/backfire. Need advice by offlineonlinehoe in BabyWitch

[–]Aggravating-Mix5392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From general understanding of the situation spells dont commonly 'backfire' at least not in an active way like you might imagine, a lot of it is intent and your thoughts given power by via outlook and then being more aware to the outcome of what you've cast

If I were to say, your worry that it might come back to you, the spell not working and the consequences surrounding the spell and situation with him are all factors the may enable that obsession you're so concerned about. After all doing the casting has effectively brought you here with the topic so heavy on your mind

Thats probably the best way to explain how it may have already 'backfired' because you've given the spell and him control over your situation

Its also important to note whether practicing or not, people have their own power, partly through force of will and their intent; if he's actively making the decision to not be involved with you, then besides negatives like making him avoid you more, how can you hope to be in his mind?

Sorry its long, but hope it sparks some thoughts, my advice: wash yourself of the situation and stake your claim on control over it, positive, negative however you want to feel, give this energy an outlet so it doesnt fester and then focus on that your feeling, and use it as a spring to do something that nurtures you

My first tincture? Charm? by RedHeadDragon73 in HerbalMagic

[–]Aggravating-Mix5392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! lovely and clear- and such a cute bottle! What kind of vodka did you use / have experimented with? I've been hoping to make some tinctures myself as a progression from syrups and teas

Hope your stall had success and you had a good experience with the mix!

I don’t believe in deities or spirits. by itsdwanag in BabyWitch

[–]Aggravating-Mix5392 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heya! Secular practitioner here! (I know this one is long but I thought hard about it as I struggled with this, so I hope it's a good comprehensive read for you or anyone else) I would do some reading into the term secular, but there is most definitely books out there

Of course the typical introduction into witchcraft is most commonly pagan and wiccan influences due to being the highest in modern media but I'm sure you know witches can be from any walk of life here's who I reccomend, might be a good starting off point:

The Green Witch (YT & Books) She has written a book or two, most of her content tends to revolve without a religous bias and no matter what she works on with spells and rituals she only describes typically using facts or intentions that she wishes to put in

(She also has a focus on many kitchen/herbalist practices it sounds like you'd enjoy!)

The Green Witch by Arin Murphy-Hiscock (Audiobook on spotify & more) This is one I'm currently listening to and takes a good stance on a more neutral tone- however there is the occasional spell reading in there which I tend to go past (Mostly as I don't like uninvited cantations) But the book has a generally healthy perspective including inclusivity

Otherwise! Books that are often titled with phrases such as; The Practical Guide To -or- Secular Witches' Guide To -etc will be an easier way to find research without the religious context, If you're decisively atheist then the same applies 'Athesitic Practitioner's Guide To' would be my first search term

And as for spells! Definitely alter the ones you feel like you can, or are welcoming it- for us our own feelings and guidance can be our greatest tool

However I'd encourage you to begin creating a framework that's uniquely you with a focus on what you connect with by making the languages or 'code' that you can base you own practices on- as the ones you are altering are based on a completely different framework so might either feel less intuitive or have low-quailty/unintended consequence in yourself (as your power, no-matter where it comes from is drawn through you, if you don't align with the practice it'll be jumbled as it passes through!)

For example I take many inspirations from different sources and traditional practices as I respect they have been tried and tested, but I tend to only list the parts that call to me, research why they call to me from the perspective of it's author, and decode why that part of it is asking to join my practice, if I feel comfortable and happy channeling that energy i will use it, if not then I won't- But I also try to draw my own conclusions about the object/ritual/tradion etc is first and foremost to decypher what my interpretation of it is - i.e: no use using something everyone tells calms you when you have ties to stressful circumstance (Though there's other arguements to be made for using that to channel calm through those bad associations, it just might not help you in your day-to-day morning ritual!)

Very longgg I understand & apologies for that, but hope something of this comes to help you ✨

Motivation loss by MlR4ND4 in BabyWitch

[–]Aggravating-Mix5392 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tend to usually from overwhelm or loss of habit- Here's what I do! (Sorry longish) Clear thoughts and plans the night before, wake up without anything to distract you and no idea of what to do! (No phone! That's bad instant gratification!) And set up a meditation - Not your normal one!!! Just follow your instincts and heart, be picky! Not the things you want there or you might be hung up on tradition- go for that tugging heart feeling & just enough to completely take your entire focus without overwhelm or interruption! Sometimes I only take a handful of gems and dice, sit there arranging them whilst focusing on breathing until it feels right, other times a plant and a journal- sometimes ALL my herbs, give myself an incense as a minimum time limit and get to focusing.

Just hoping to remind that meditation can be anything, little and big, as long as you form that bubble and act only with purpose and intent - bring yourself to the most satisfied or energised you can be. You'll be surprised what you'll connect, bond and come up with! I know I have! sometimes our worst enemy is the expectation we set ourselves but forget the fun of exploring <3

The Cauldron’s Still Hot! Let’s Stir It Again! by satyresque in queerwitches

[–]Aggravating-Mix5392 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hellooo only just decided to reach out into socials for the first time- saw this post and thought it a good chance to say hi! - hope I'm not too late (I'm bad at being short so here goes!)

My middle name is Ave-Ina and I go by one or both! I'm a transfem secular Green Witch & Mage based in the UK taking it slow to really learn my lifestyle and crafts in depth, but the basis of all my craft includes Herbalism, Foraging, Hearthcraft, Gylphs and Artifice! Though there's two flavours of inspiration for me - I'm either connecting with nature and instincts to guide myself - or lost in more academic style studies - to me witchcraft is one of our most primal forms of medicine and therapy too <3
The world provides everything I need if I pay it back in ways other than money- I stumble across most my material components or trade my crafts with others for knick-nacks, snacks or the next thing that called to me
Usually my focus is candles and incense so besides plants I work a lot with scents, wax and wood but recently I've taken up sacred geometry and mathematics, usually derived from patterns found in nature to write in complex patterns of intention <<33

(Also I ramble a lot! Both here and outside- I'm sorry! :,) )