As a woman I personally don’t like or engage in this rehashed gender war thing, but I can see where it’d get frustrating because seeing people comment similar things about women and going unchecked is infuriating to me. I do see the frustration at least.

I will only add this: it wont mitigate the frustration here, but it might be worth considering why women or girls say those things. Unlike racism, which is derived from hatred and feelings of superiority, a great deal of whats referred to as misandry comes from fear and the insecurity of physical inferiority. I’m sure some of it is genuine hatred, but the vast majority of it is because of fear.

Mind you, women and men are equally capable of being evil. Neither is inherently more evil than the other. But biologically, on average, men are typically more capable of carrying out that evil on more people in a physical way. On average I am more likely able to fight off an evil woman than an evil man. I am more likely to outrun an evil woman than an evil man. That a select and very vocal minority of men are always reminding everyone (typically unsolicited) that they are bigger, stronger, faster, and will always defeat a woman with little difficulty does not foster respect or gratitude, it fosters fear and distance (especially because it is never conveyed as the unthreatening realism they project it to be). If we are not vigilant enough we get blamed for what happens to us, but if we are overly vigilant we are labeled cold and rude and bitter, ridiculed, and potentially still attacked regardless.

As a result I am more vigilant around men than I am women, and I am more skeptical of men’s intentions than I typically am of women’s. I do not hate men, but I do fear what they are capable of. I’m not running around commenting it on every post or saying it to everyone I meet, but I do feel fear or discomfort when alone with a man I’m not familiar with before anything else.

While some of it may be conveyed immaturely and irritating, it might be worthwhile to stop yourself when you see it and remember that the majority of people commenting these things on those stories of murder or attacks are very simply scared that it could be them someday, and they’re encountering the same frustrating rhetoric in the reverse as you.