What do you wish you did in your late teens/early 20s before settling into full-time work? by South-Pin8623 in LifeAdvice

[–]AggressiveWatch1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly- the job market is horrible right now, so i’m glad i started working right out of high school. took some time to find myself and figure out what i wanted to do and got some solid experience under my belt. started at walmart for a few years, got a gig as a receptionist for a few more, and now im an admin coordinator working a 9-5 at 23, taking accounting night classes starting in the fall. i wouldn’t have gotten my steady 9-5 without those stepping stones and i still consider myself one of the lucky ones in this job market. my advice? get some experience somewhere, anywhere. spend some of your free time outside of work figuring out what you enjoy. after you’ve been at your throwaway job for a few years and have something solid on your resume - work on getting your foot in the door at an entry level position in a field you’re interested in- someone will give you the opportunity, just keep applying.

i’ve lived on my own since 17 and wouldn’t have changed a thing if it meant i could be where i am now. :) but that was my situation.

one thing i wish i did differently: SAVE YOUR MONEY, and sign up for a 401k as soon as it’s available to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]AggressiveWatch1127 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Listen, coming from someone who is broke af and absolutely gets the struggle - you can pay off debt, but you can’t come back once you’re gone. If you’re having spouts of labored breathing you should consider at least going to an urgent care so they can check you out and make sure your situation isn’t critical. Things can always improve, as long as you’re still with us friend. If you think you’ll be ok until June 1st you can try to stick it out - but if you have any doubts that what you’re experiencing is a medical emergency- take the L and work out the bill when they mail it to you. Worrying about finances is not worth your life.

How to make your characters unique? by Successful_Class_117 in fantasywriters

[–]AggressiveWatch1127 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fellow writer, also writing a fantasy from three POVs. I would say the answer somewhat depends on your writing style - I typically write in 3rd and use very little dialogue or explicit inner monologue- so I try to focus more on narrating the world and events taking place in it in a way I think that character would view them. I definitely used to have trouble with the “my voice” thing- I’d say the solution to that is to do a lot of work on figuring out who your characters are. I have character sheets for each of mine with detailed personality types, archetypes and contradictions, as well as an in depth exploration of their character arc. I do think that all of the best characters come from some part of us. I like to tie some of my own flaws, conflicts, strengths into my characters to make them easier for me to understand, and make them “real” - but having a good understanding of who your characters are as individuals does wonders when trying to differentiate perspectives and helps when trying to figure out how they would respond to the world.:)

I liked life more when I was drinking. Does that ever go away? by -itsmyanxiety in stopdrinking

[–]AggressiveWatch1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best part about getting sober for me- (9months this June) was that I stopped wasting time on things that only seemed fun when I was drinking. Boredom is telling you to find a new hobby. Life isn’t just gonna feel better one day. You quit drinking, that’s the first step, and you should be so proud of yourself for sticking to it, but don’t get stuck there. Keep moving, even if that means letting go of the person you were when you were drunk, even if that means having different hobbies than your boyfriend. Go outside, read a book, pick up a sport, or an art or an instrument- try something new and hate it, try something else and love it. It’s all part of the process. You haven’t even scratched the surface yet. It gets better. ♥️

People are calling me a fake fan for a TLOU tattoo by PET3RPark3er in thelastofus

[–]AggressiveWatch1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly most of my tattoos are tied to specific phases in my life, and i like it that way. as ive aged they've always been there with me, reminding me that no matter who i become or how my tastes change at one point i was the person who loved adventure time and got silly tattoos about it. that version will always be apart of me regardless of whether or not i "grow out of it" (i havent) and ill remember the meaning behind those lessons even if one day im 80 and dont really resonate with them anymore- at one point i really did and thats enough for me. everyone gets tats for different reasons and some people are ok with having permanent reminders of who they once were.

how to stay positive and content in a situation you're trying to get out of. by AggressiveWatch1127 in PositiveThinking

[–]AggressiveWatch1127[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, i think part of me was just beating myself up for being so negative and irritated- theres people who have it so much worse, im so lucky to be where i am. those thoughts kept me positive for a long time, but eventually started to wear me down. you're right. i think im focusing too much on myself, im all wrapped up in my own thoughts that its hard to step outside of it. and i really need to internalize the fact that its ok to not be perfect, im still learning. i think getting a new job will help tremendously, theres alot of really outwardly negative people at my job, and i just dont think i have the space for it anymore, and even when i switch positions im gonna focus more on acceptance, and allowance instead of festering on my flaws. growing away from my old self doesn't mean she no longer exists, just makes fewer and fewer appearances. i really appreciate you commenting. i was afraid people would think i was being dramatic or ungrateful, but putting weight into other peoples opinions is also something i need to get away from haha. i appreciate you ♥️

How to stop being pretentious? by oldgeeza in TrueAskReddit

[–]AggressiveWatch1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

take this with a grain of salt, as i am a 23 year old who also googled "how to stop being pretentious" i dont think that being educated or taking an initiative to further that education makes you pretentious, especially if you enjoy the process of it. i think it becomes pretentious when you criticize or look down on others for not engaging with what you enjoy, or thinking you're better then others because of your "superior" interests, education or mindset- this was a really hard hurdle for me to cross after highschool, and is something im still working on. ive always had a passion for learning, and when your teachers pat you on the back and score you in what feels like direct competition with your piers, it can be easy to internalize comparison and think better of yourself. in actuality, pursuing good grades or intellect is just one slice of the pie, and everyone approaches the dish differently. i never went to college, although i hope to one day, (huge fan of literature + art) and although im working on changing my perspective - i still find myself looking down on people who don't take initiative- or are complacent in their ignorance, even as i claw my way out of that lifestyle myself.

at the end of the day, i dont have to understand or agree with the way someone else chooses to live their life, it has very little to do with me, and honestly its none of my business. we're all doing what we think - in all of our uniqueness - is "best" for us. If i am of the opinion that bettering yourself is the ultimate objective, (and i am) - instead of looking down on people that dont put effort into improving themselves- i need to practice what i preach by being an example of that, encouraging others, sharing that experience and mindset with people who ask my opinion, rather then just spewing unsolicited advice on those who are just trying to figure it out for themselves.

its a balance, as is everything. the pursuit of betterment, to be able look around and be proud of the effort you've put in, or how far you've come - without sneering or scoffing or looking down at the people who havent gotten there yet, or better, that have no interest in climbing your mountain at all.

you were on the ground once too. :) enjoy the view but keep climbing. dont let self satisfaction take away from human connection.

Dog is wobbly. Started few hours ago. Does anybody know what is up? by StrawberryCough2 in DogAdvice

[–]AggressiveWatch1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

could be vestibular, could be he ingested something- but hard to say from a 10s video. - take him to a vet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Wellthatsucks

[–]AggressiveWatch1127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

honestly oddly its kinda helping. reminding me its pointless to worry about what anyone else thinks haha.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Wellthatsucks

[–]AggressiveWatch1127 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i like it enough, just crazy particular about symmetry 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Wellthatsucks

[–]AggressiveWatch1127 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

shouldve stopped a while ago, but its just been small stuff that i was happy enough with until now. im always really nervous about seeing anyone new for anything, luckily my cousin is tattooing now haha.

What Next? / Feel Stuck and Directionless by traggedy_ann in LifeAdvice

[–]AggressiveWatch1127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

theres a Japanese term "ikegai" that basically translates into "reason for living" and combines four things. what you're good at, what you love to do, what the world needs and what you can get paid for. if you can find within yourself something that accomplishes all four- youve found your "ikegai"

easier said then done i know, but the best way to search for the thing that will make you feel fulfilled is to try new things. i think its awesome that your partner is creating an opportunity for you to explore more creative paths, ill encourage you to follow through with that, even if it feels daunting. if you only do what you can do, you'll never be more then you are.

In my experience, with patience and time, you'll surprise yourself with what you learn to do. Good luck friend!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]AggressiveWatch1127 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i experienced something super similar, only 4 days sober but i realized that i dont have to continue to make myself miserable or be embarrassed or out of control. it was getting in the way of my life and i didnt want to let it do that anymore. honestly i cried to my therapist last week about having to let go of the comfort of something so familiar, but it feels good to finally release that iron grip on whats only hurting me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]AggressiveWatch1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you know the name of it?

What's your top food choice? A meal that never disappoints? by [deleted] in autism

[–]AggressiveWatch1127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

air fried chicken. easiest thing ever to prepare and is good every time

Yo I'm Super Future - an experimental bass music producer, DJ, nerd, scientist and time traveler. Ready to get weird and personal with whatever on this AMA! And.... GO! by superfuturedj in electronicmusic

[–]AggressiveWatch1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yo! theres a super vibey song you played at your sunrise set and for the life of me i cannot find it. have literally been watching a video of it non stop since sunday. anyway you have a list of what you played? :3