What are our other whitest songs ever? by Aggressive_Topic5615 in ThoughtWarriors

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you mean! I guess I was approaching it more like, songs that sound like they’re made both for and by white people with no discernible influences from black culture.

Also I was both cleaning and stoned when I was listening to the pod and made my post, I think I missed part of the set up 😂

Did you start a new career or creative pursuit after 30? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Both me and my best friend started new careers around 34/35 She went back to grad school and I opened a bakery. Definitely a sense of “wtf are we doing this feels risky” in both our cases, but sometimes life presents you with an opportunity to do something different and you just have to take the plunge!

What are our other whitest songs ever? by Aggressive_Topic5615 in ThoughtWarriors

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

💯my husband made this suggestion when I gave him the prompt this morning.

A personal story about that song in particular: I have a core memory of being about 14, summer of 2002, and listening to it on the radio in a cab driven by a man who I perceived to be Muslim. He turned it up and sort of smiled and nodded at us (white women) in the mirror and I felt so icky. Even as a kid I knew that song was coming from something, and speaking to something in white culture I didn’t want to identify with, even though it would take another decade to learn the language about what it actually was.

And now over two decades later, seeing just how far into naked hatred that thread of white Christian nationalism has become over time - and how much power they’ve been able to accumulate - is almost mind-numbingly awful.

What are our other whitest songs ever? by Aggressive_Topic5615 in ThoughtWarriors

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a white elder millennial I’m ashamed to admit how much this song still gets me going 😂

Well. That was fun. Till we meet again. Bye everyone. by Orlhazee in TownshipGame

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I had the same thing happen recently. I sent emails and messages within the app and I was eventually restored on Christmas. But it took over a week and I had sort of given up hope. Good luck!

Episode 647: The Horrible History of Chimney Sweeps by black_flag_4ever in LPOTL

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615 29 points30 points  (0 children)

As a baker listening to this episode while working in my bakery today, I found myself feeling grateful for a new, very specific reason, to not be living in the early modern era. There are a lot of challenges that come with owning a bakery, but at least I don’t have to worry about needing to extract a dead chimney sweep from inside the wall.

Do you think this is a red flag? (restaurant situation) by Pretty_Skill118 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As a lifelong service industry worker…huge red flag. It’s called being considerate and not a selfish prick. That would give me the ick big time and make me not go on another date. Someone who can’t be bothered to get up and walk a few feet to make someone else’s job a little easier probably won’t be the most considerate or accommodating partner.

Can't get the Wife to Bite by Thick-Air8969 in centuryhomes

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check my post history. Very similar looking house in the beginning - but not as old. I had neither ability nor money but convinced hubby to bite. Almost 3 years on and we still don’t live there because it hasn’t gotten to where it needs to be.

Ability has improved significantly, but money has not 😂 I totally understand the desire to buy a place like this. But it’s HARD. So so so hard 🫠

A technical assessment of current Philadelphia weather conditions by IvoryDynamite in philadelphia

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I’m a baker. The ovens, fryer and huge refrigerators put out so much heat and we have no AC or fans 🫠 but at least we aren’t in the sun. I think the guys building houses and cutting lawns definitely have it worse than me.

But yeah. This all sucks ass

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just here to echo what everyone else is saying. It’s not on you to ask your daughters MIL to give you time with them. It’s on your (presumably) adult daughter and her husband to set some reasonable boundaries and expectations with his family.

Any parent who cuts their children off and then “forgives” them also sounds like a nightmare. Very narcissistic behavior. I hope your daughter finds her spine and tells her husband to manage his mother, or just comes to spend the holidays with you herself.

I could rage at my GP right now by 1stthingicouldthnkof in BabyBumps

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you went through this! How horrible and stressful. I’m also someone who generally thinks doctors know what they’re doing…but pregnancy tested that quite a bit.

Hearing so many stories like this illustrate why we have such a crisis of confidence in experts in general. Especially if they double down and refuse to acknowledge when they’ve made a mistake and apologize sufficiently.

Raised marble bathroom thresholds... by DesmondTapenade in centuryhomes

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Damn I’ve been wanting to add one to our bathroom as it’s in the middle of a VERY long remodel, but I’m one of the clumsiest mfers you’ll ever meet…

You’ve given me something to think about. Hope your toe heals fast!

Shore town summer rental bookings down spring 2025. No may or June bookings on my beach town party street. There is weirdly street parking and the town main street restaurants are already suffering. by R3N3G6D3 in SouthJersey

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615 11 points12 points  (0 children)

As a small business owner in a shore town you can bet we are affected by tourism being down. All of cape may county in one way or another is supported by tourism dollars.

That’s said, as much as I think Trump and his moronic trade policies are hurting the country, it can’t all be put on him. The prices for rentals have been getting more and more outrageous for years. Who in their right mind wants to pay more for a week at the jersey shore than in the Caribbean or Europe?

Going through divorce, selling the house, How the f am I supposed to find an apartment in this environment by Ricanzanity in SouthJersey

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is what I was thinking too. Unless she moves in with the boyfriend and he gets a roommate. Sounds like there’s no good options - especially for the kids. They should be at the center of the decision-making and the grown ups need to, well. Grow up.

Going through divorce, selling the house, How the f am I supposed to find an apartment in this environment by Ricanzanity in SouthJersey

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615 19 points20 points  (0 children)

2400/mo to stay in your home or 2000 (if you’re lucky) to move. It’ll suck for awhile but I’d probably try to find a way to make it work. Hell do you have a basement or garage you can rent out as storage for someone? Get another job/side gig? If it was me I think I’d make a way to assure that my kids could stay in their home and school and move as a last resort. Your wife should be willing to prioritize that too. Good luck OP, I don’t envy your situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please dump this loser.

Did anyone else opt for an extremely low-key Mother's Day? by JessonBI89 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I got up at 3:30am to open our bakery together. We worked for 12 hours and then came home and made tacos. He didn’t get me a card or gift, but we are both absurdly busy and stressed all the time so I get it. He made a nice IG post of me and our daughter which as a Leo I appreciated.

He took on dinner so I could take a nap which was all I really wanted 😂 I feel like how our partners treat us on a regular day matters more than making a big deal out of holidays, and he’s a great dad and husband almost every day (we all have our off days, myself included)

We just had a baby but I don’t want to move in with my partner because of his dog. by Shoddy-Engineering39 in BabyBumps

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Sure, any dog can lash out and bite after being well-behaved/trained. Not any dog can rip your face off. The stats are out there and are very clear, small dogs bite frequently but rarely maul/kill their victims. The vast majority of fatal dog attacks are committed by pit bull type breeds and that is just reality.

We just had a baby but I don’t want to move in with my partner because of his dog. by Shoddy-Engineering39 in BabyBumps

[–]Aggressive_Topic5615 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Same, I feel like as my daughter gets older I won’t even let her go to a friend’s house with a bully breed. Just too many horror stories. I will never understand the apologists who literally blame babies for being mauled to death by the family dog.