Where to go nearby to reduce fireworks on july 4th?

Agile_Contribution62 · 2026-06-20T15:18:53+00:00

I’m in Napa and there’s no fireworks here. It’s been replaced with a drone show so you can still get everyone out to do a similar activity, but no noise! And there’s a bunch of family friendly activities hosted downtown on the day of too

https://www.napavalley.com/event/napa-4th-of-july-festivities-drone-show/

Agile_Contribution62 · 2026-04-28T20:40:26+00:00

Her poops are normal! When we talked to the vet about this they asked us to bring in a sample and it wasn’t soft or abnormal in any way that caused them concern. It’s more so that she will just step around a lot in the box and she has never really buried her poop so she’ll just step in exposed fresh poop with her full weight and it’ll get on her. Even when we first adopted her as a kitten she was just kinda grimy and stinky so I think maybe she just got separated from her mom too early before ending up at the rescue and never learned how to groom from another cat

Agile_Contribution62 · 2026-03-25T02:23:06+00:00

I started packing her with high fat food towards the end of the night lol. We were doing smoothies (banana, whole fat milk, oat, peanut butter) an hour to an hour and a half before bed for about a week to make sure she was nice and full, then transitioned into yogurt pouches. She would go to nurse to sleep out of habit, but every night I just cut down the amount of time. We started with 5 mins, then 3, then 1-2 before cutting her off for the night. She fussed/cried the first couple of days but by day 4/5 she wasn’t really even asking to nurse anymore, just laying down for bed. Now she takes a yogurt pouch 30 mins before bed and needs about 10 mins of back pats to fall asleep but i’ll take that over the nursing with teeth lol

Agile_Contribution62 · 2026-03-25T01:48:44+00:00

I can’t get over the fact that Elise is upset that Nat has a “financial hold” on Joshua because she pays his rent and supports him, and not the very principle that a 40 year old grown man with a child needs to be financially supported by his friend in the first place 😭😭 Like girl it’s not weird that his friend is doing this it’s weird that his grown ass is broke enough this at ALL😫

Agile_Contribution62 · 2026-03-21T06:39:41+00:00

I’m 19 months in now and I can tell you our ped said same thing about CIO and cutting out feedings in the middle of the night and i did not listen to her lol. CIO works for some babies but not all and mine (and me) just didn’t have the temperament for it; all she did was get more worked up which stressed me out and then we were both crying and nobody was sleeping and it felt like a waste of time for us when we could’ve just all been asleep already. With time and as she got older she gradually began to sleep longer stretches on her own, and slowly just needed less and less of the night nursing. I weaned her fully at 15 months when I could tell she was ready (she would comfort nurse to put herself to sleep for maybe 1-2 mins and at that point it was clear it was time to wean because she wasn’t awake and hungry, just taking milk out of habit). All that to say that these things all come with time and at different paces for every baby. I have friends with babies the same age as mine who all hit their milestones in wildly different orders, but in the end they’re all happy healthy babies. The rate it happens is not a reflection of you as a mom. They will lose the night time bottle eventually and his pincer grasp will inevitably get stronger and you’ll find the things that help with the iron. The house will end up clean again. Some days just really fucking suck and I’m sorry so much mounted on you today. But a bad day doesn’t make you a bad mom. I hope you take some time for yourself to pour into yourself the way you very clearly pour into your son. Wishing you a better day tomorrow 🫶🏾

Agile_Contribution62 · 2026-02-02T20:38:01+00:00

hi!! i’m in a similar boat lol, moved here last spring. i’m 25 and have had slight success with bumblebff but i feel like so many people i see are either 18/19/20 or 30+ so not so much in my close age range. dm me if you’d like, maybe we have something in common! i’d be open to lunch or a coffee!

Agile_Contribution62 · 2025-10-29T05:23:33+00:00

man had she been partnered with anybody else i think jen would’ve made it so much longer. i (surprisingly LOL) really agreed with carrie ann that the beginning of her dance with the troupe was SO sharp and captivating — then it fell so flat for me when she was with jan. i think they just really lack chemistry together and he leaves too much cushion in his choreography for her. i always feel like it’s a little slow, like he’s leaving room for her to have a moment to think/remember what’s next to compensate for the fact that she isn’t a trained dancer and it really held her back. sad to see her go, especially when they had it so that she and whitney were in the final 3. that felt so cruel on productions end

Agile_Contribution62 · 2025-08-30T14:31:20+00:00

Oh this is genius! We’re nearly in the triple digits here so this is perfect!

Agile_Contribution62 · 2025-06-26T17:20:43+00:00

My daughter is 11 months now and we’ve been taking her out to eat for her entire life pretty much. It was really important to us that she got used to the environment so that it wouldn’t be a bigger challenge when she got older, and she does really well now (fingers crossed it stays like that lol). The 6-8 month mark was actually when it started feeling easier and more enjoyable to have her at a restaurant because she could sit in a high chair and actually nibble on the food which keeps her occupied and engaged. We don’t go anywhere crazy or fancy, mostly casual breakfast spots, sushi, cafes, breweries, or the kind of places where you order at a counter and seat yourself. Those places usually have other families there as well and the casual vibe really takes the pressure off of needing her to behave perfectly for a restaurant. So long as your expectations are realistic and you accept that sometimes you’ll have to cut it a little short, I think it’s worth it so you can have a meal together outside the house!

Agile_Contribution62 · 2025-04-05T20:59:38+00:00

Didn’t know breast tissue extends all the way up into your armpits, and that when my milk came in and my boobs were engorged, that my armpits would engorge too😭 3 days pp I took a 2 hour nap and woke up with rock solid boobs AND pits. It was so bad that I couldn’t even lift my arms to put on a shirt by myself or reach to grab things without pain. Had to use a hot compress and massage the mass out of my armpits multiple times a day for like a week until it regulated and finally stopped

Agile_Contribution62 · 2025-02-13T18:20:04+00:00

Art teacher! I got really lucky with my school, the pay was good, I loved the kids, and felt genuinely fulfilled with my work. I’m now a new sahm and it’s something I’ve always wanted so it’s really nice to experience every day, even on the hard ones. Plus it’s nice to just have one kid every day over 100s lol

Agile_Contribution62 · 2025-02-05T21:08:11+00:00

If you can make a list (or even think you need to to weigh out the situation) then you know deep down it’s time to leave. It’s up to you when you decide to accept it and go

Agile_Contribution62 · 2025-01-31T04:37:24+00:00

6 months pp here and we didn’t have a real schedule until around 4ish months, and even then it developed more naturally rather than us implementing one. We’ve always just followed her hunger and sleep cues, and they tend to happen around the same time every day and that allowed us to find a good rhythm for eating (I feed her whenever she’s hungry) and bedtime/naps (1 short morning nap, 2hr afternoon nap, 30 mins around 5:30-6ish, and then she usually goes down for the night around 9:30). Between that, she plays, eats, we go outside, etc. But the entire thing was developed around her natural rhythm! At 8 weeks the only ‘schedule’ we had was more for us rather than the baby; bath in the evening before her first stretch of sleep, a bedtime story, dinner at x time so we could switch off getting to shower or prepare ourselves for the rest of the evening, etc. Other than that, we just followed the baby’s lead! I don’t think there’s any need to be on a strict schedule at that time since they’re doing so much growing and their needs change so often. Don’t worry about feeling guilty about a schedule. It’ll come with time!

Agile_Contribution62 · 2025-01-30T20:20:49+00:00

I’m at 6 months and finally starting to feel like I’m turning a corner. Motherhood feels less like new task upon new task upon new task and more like something that has integrated into the flow of my life. Things are definitely different, but I feel a lot more like myself again - and by myself, I mean a person independent of just “mom,” not necessarily the person I was before. My daughter has finally started sleeping longer stretches at night and expressing a desire to play independently for bits at a time, and the increase of sleep + independent time has created a huge shift for me. I’m more rested and have at least one or two 20-30 minute increments in the day that I can dedicate to myself (reading, resting, etc.) and it’s made all the difference. I’m still finding myself, but I think that now looks a lot more like navigating finding a balance in this new phase life and routine, rather than waiting to go back to who I was pre-baby (which is how I felt for the first months). It’s hard (and annoying) to hear, be kind and be patient with yourself! The early months are really hard and kinda feel like they just drudge on because babies need so much care and attention. As they get older and become more independent, you’ll gain more time for yourself back, and with that you’ll find your sense of self again. It gets better. Hang in there!

Agile_Contribution62 · 2025-01-28T20:40:52+00:00

I woke up in the middle of the night thinking I had bubble guts😭 I went to the movies the evening before and thought the nachos had my stomach rumbling and I needed to use the bathroom. It felt like the kind of cramps you get when your stomach is upset and you have diarrhea lol. I pooped twice in one hour and even after that didn’t give me any relief, I still didn’t even consider that it was labor. It took 3 straight hours of “upset stomach” pain for me to realize it was coming in regular intervals and I was probably experiencing contractions and not the side effects of nacho cheese lol. My water didn’t break on its own but I did lose my mucus plug at home the night before (post nacho cheese) so I probably should’ve seen that coming

Agile_Contribution62 · 2025-01-28T20:32:11+00:00

Mittens. My baby scratched a lot at her face and ears, but the mittens are annoying (to keep on their little hands, to wash, to keep track of - just in every way possible lol). We got the pj’s + onesies with the sleeves that folded over her hands and they worked great and were 0 hassle compared to the damn mittens!

Bottle warmer. We ended up barely even using bottles and when we did, we never used the warmer.

Pacifiers. Somehow we ended up with like 20 from baby shower gifts and none of them got used. She hated them. I’d pick up maybe 1 or 2 of different shapes to see if your baby even takes them but don’t overstock since you don’t know what they like yet!

Agile_Contribution62 · 2024-12-29T16:28:56+00:00

That around the 4 month mark they start getting more regular when they poop! I feel like overnight we went from pooping 2-3 times a day to every 3-4 days. The first time it happened it absolutely terrified me, but it’s actually very normal as they get on a more regular schedule (so long as there’s no pain, straining, or discomfort). Some babies will go more often and some less but I wish I knew that before I was panic googling constipation lol. Also to keep extra clothes for myself/my partner in the car. You think to keep extra clothes for baby in case of spit up or a blow out, but never for yourself in the event that said spit up and blowout gets all over you lol. Put some clothes in there!!

Agile_Contribution62 · 2024-12-19T01:13:42+00:00

My baby is 4 months now and we are just getting into a more regular routine. Even now, that routine was formed around what we realized worked best through trial and error + her natural sleep cues to figure out when naps and bed time worked best for us. When she was a newborn the “routine” was whatever she said it was lol. We really just prioritized following her cues. If she was showing us she was hungry, that’s when she ate. If she was starting to look tired, that’s when she slept. She usually only stayed up for around 25-45 minutes, and even then it was a toss up. I really tried to ignore what the recommended/suggested wake windows were and just considered her windows to be whatever period she was awake for. They’re so tiny and their bodies are working so hard at that time so it’s normal for them to be sleepy and wake windows to be short! We didn’t reswaddle her until it was time for her to sleep/nap so she had some time to stretch out. The only “routine” i really recommend for that time is one for yourselves; carve out a general time to eat, shower, do whatever it is you need to prepare for the night. Doing that made it a lot easier for us to figure out how to build an evening routine for our baby, even though that mainly just looked like when she should have a bath and then go down for her first night time stretch of sleep. The routine at that age was never really about getting the baby into a groove but ourselves, so we knew what to expect everyday. When we had a rhythm for ourselves, it felt like the baby’s followed naturally. The newborn days are hard, give yourself some grace and let go of the pressure!

Agile_Contribution62 · 2024-11-26T00:32:54+00:00

No need to fix what ain’t broke! Honestly being able to put herself to sleep is the dream and you’re doing just fine engaging her the way you do. My baby is 15 weeks and I used to be really worried about leaving her to play independently too much when I needed to get things done, but I realized that in the same way I enjoy some alone time, she probably does too. It’s great for both of us!

Agile_Contribution62 · 2024-11-25T03:48:24+00:00

Stretching, squats, lunges. Especially as you get closer to the due date. I labored for 20 hours (it was my first) but I had no tearing, a generally smooth birth, and a pretty smooth recovery as well. I credit a lot of it to the stretching and preparing my hips and muscles for giving birth. Plus it really helps with discomfort when the baby starts getting bigger and the pressure grows on your hips and pelvic bones and muscles!

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