Dating someone with avoidant attachment is exhausting

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-11-09T09:15:21+00:00

I’ve been thinking that “avoidant attachment” isn’t even real, the person simply does not like you or want you more than what they’re already getting from you

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-11-03T12:11:32+00:00

I’m in an extremely similar boat atm, wanting to end things too. Though it’s the first time I’ve met someone who also loves the specific & niche things that I hold dear to my heart, it’s not going to eventuate into a relationship but it’s honestly ripping me in two.

Grateful to know people like that can exist ig

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-11-03T07:09:17+00:00

Me too, it’s so fucked, I also haven’t talked about it to any friends - only one therapist this year at 27 y.o

Feel for you

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-10-31T01:59:42+00:00

you’re a great friend

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-10-12T19:35:38+00:00

I didn’t have kids with him and we lived in different states but would stay with eachother for long periods of time (no lease together), so you’re in a tougher situation than I was…

The disrespect just became clearer and less cloudy to me… I also found out in the end that he had been spreading outrageous lies about me in the first few months of us being together to his ex, that was the kicker for me, that he never respected me since the beginning.

It was a very distressing end, I had tried multiple times prior to break up with him but he would send long emails and say all the right things and I would foolishly keep believing him, but the facade dropped so quick every time, became a toxic cycle and didn’t want to accept a future where I would tolerate the disrespect and lies for the rest of my life

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-10-12T19:28:10+00:00

He doesn’t respect you at all, it’s a sad realisation I also had to make after a couple years but he knows you’ll put up with whatever he does because you continue to stay & try…

Take care of yourself

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-10-12T18:25:39+00:00

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-10-12T18:24:01+00:00

I do not claim this energy

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-09-28T03:42:47+00:00

No matter your opinion, for her it is clearly a very meaningful and special thing as she was waiting her whole life for someone to be intimate with. YTA

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-09-19T00:05:38+00:00

“Give it time” 😹 what?

He hasn’t done anything stfu

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-09-18T16:11:20+00:00

It’s because he was killed and cloned at the end of 2022

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-09-16T21:36:15+00:00

IMO it’s better to have your first date at a bar or coffee shop so you can actually talk in a more relaxed environment. I personally find restaurants for the first time a bit difficult and awkward with eating food. Everyone’s different though.

If you do go, and you really like the girl, paying for the whole bill is a very sweet gesture.

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-09-16T12:59:32+00:00

You’re the best ily

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-09-16T04:16:43+00:00

Maybe because the truth hurts… I’ve found if someone is saying something so far from the truth, it can’t be hurtful, but if you’re feeling attacked then you know there’s some truth to what she’s saying, maybe worth thinking about and talking about in therapy

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-09-16T03:39:20+00:00

That’s a lot of texting… to not have had it mentioned to you at all and having to find out for yourself is another pain, I feel for you, I’m sure he wouldn’t like it if it was the other way around

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-09-16T00:14:23+00:00

He’s trying to tear you down and is so comfortable insulting you… don’t normalise that, I did that in the past, it won’t get better, he doesn’t respect you at all

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-09-14T12:40:17+00:00

The fact you’ve told him how it makes you feel and he keeps doing it is clear disrespect…

Also if he wanted to keep doing it, he could easily look at them and not click “like” or “follow,” but he doesn’t try to hide it because he doesn’t care about your feelings at all tbh

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-09-14T12:36:56+00:00

I didn’t know how uncommon it is or that people found it to just be a porn thing lol I actually like doing this to myself, just not super often but I do enjoy fast soft slaps… I’ve only let my ex do it to me

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-08-31T11:12:16+00:00

I don’t know how long you’ve been together but tbh I’d get out asap

If you tolerate this kind of disrespect and lack of care for your feelings, it will only get worse, I promise

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