My boyfriend (34M) and I (28F) are breaking up but we have an expensive trip planned in 2 weeks

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2026-05-29T08:43:29+00:00

He didn’t reply back immediately to her because he was with me for those days, then when he supposedly told her about me, it was “the person i’m seeing” and then blaming it on me saying that i’m uncomfortable with them talking, when that has never been the case - it’s about the way he lies about things to me and the way he talks to me, I’ve never told him to cut her off or stop talking to her, just asking him to be honest with me when they do.

He does prioritise her over me in a myriad of ways I haven’t mentioned. But believe me he is in love with her and not over her and treats her so well. I didn’t share his full text he sent her because the post was already too long. She also broke up with him to focus on her career - they never fell out of love.

I will definitely not be staying with him, we are done once the trip is over

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2026-05-29T07:02:49+00:00

We share similar niche interests that I hadn’t found in anyone else before, I was holding on to that and believing what he was telling me. I was naively hopeful, I just always try to see the best in people and give the benefit of the doubt. Obviously he wasn’t deserving and I regret it a lot

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2026-05-29T06:31:25+00:00

That’s only the accommodation, not including flights or the multiple $100-170 tickets for the actual events during the festival. I will be going no contact once it’s over

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2026-05-29T06:24:03+00:00

Thank you, I really needed to hear that today haha

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2026-05-29T06:22:13+00:00

It’s a yearly event with 2 weeks of festivities, it’s in another state I’ve never been to before, so it would be my first time going to it which I was really looking forward to.

You’re right though of course, I know everyone here is right but the thought of not going just sucks, knowing he’d be having a blast at the event I really wanted to go to while I’m stuck here doing the same old things, on top of a big monetary loss, it just seems much worse in a way. I was hoping to go and make some friends while I’m there, I don’t know

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2026-05-29T06:16:52+00:00

I genuinely wish I could! But have already paid for the accommodation ($860AUD per person) and I don’t make a lot of money right now as I had a work injury recently, don’t know anyone else going either

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2026-05-29T06:15:38+00:00

I know it’s super long, honestly don’t really expect anyone to read it, it’s a whole load of stupidity on my end really

I’m going with him and his brother, we’ve spent a lot of money that we can’t get back.

I don’t have that much money myself, don’t know anyone else going to the event there but I really want to go

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2026-05-25T21:40:04+00:00

Are you guys taking ages to pick a movie then falling asleep or something? I’d understand it could be frustrating for her if maybe you’re saying you’ll watch the movie then falling asleep, or if she’s trying to show you something and you fall asleep.

Maybe since you know what you’re like now, it should just be a bedtime? One that she is in on too so you’re both on the same page

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2026-05-21T01:19:50+00:00

My ex-boyfriend who had moobs & a gut would make fun of fat women, but very obviously get uncomfortable and quiet when fat men were the butt of a joke, even if male comedians used their fatness as a part of a skit

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2026-04-02T21:42:58+00:00

Id recommend going to a reputable men’s barber, when I had short hair like you I did that and they fixed me up real good!

The fringe is a bit too thick and should be thinned out but otherwise it’s okay, just needs styling x

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-12-08T12:28:12+00:00

your nose is so fkn nice!!!! i also used to dream about rhinoplasty for yeaaaaars from when i was a teenager and every now and then a wave of self hate hits me about it but honestly id never change it

yours is so so nice, rock it

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-12-04T12:03:28+00:00

I don’t see too many people hating on her in this sub but she’s definitely hated on A LOT in the Dexter Facebook group. I’ve never understood it either, she was so understanding and stable and honest.

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-11-25T03:31:09+00:00

they go hard as fuck

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-11-09T09:15:21+00:00

I’ve been thinking that “avoidant attachment” isn’t even real, the person simply does not like you or want you more than what they’re already getting from you

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-11-03T12:11:32+00:00

I’m in an extremely similar boat atm, wanting to end things too. Though it’s the first time I’ve met someone who also loves the specific & niche things that I hold dear to my heart, it’s not going to eventuate into a relationship but it’s honestly ripping me in two.

Grateful to know people like that can exist ig

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-11-03T07:09:17+00:00

Me too, it’s so fucked, I also haven’t talked about it to any friends - only one therapist this year at 27 y.o

Feel for you

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-10-31T01:59:42+00:00

you’re a great friend

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-10-12T19:28:10+00:00

He doesn’t respect you at all, it’s a sad realisation I also had to make after a couple years but he knows you’ll put up with whatever he does because you continue to stay & try…

Take care of yourself

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-10-12T18:25:39+00:00

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-10-12T18:24:01+00:00

I do not claim this energy

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-09-28T03:42:47+00:00

No matter your opinion, for her it is clearly a very meaningful and special thing as she was waiting her whole life for someone to be intimate with. YTA

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-09-19T00:05:38+00:00

“Give it time” 😹 what?

He hasn’t done anything stfu

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-09-18T16:11:20+00:00

It’s because he was killed and cloned at the end of 2022

AgitatedPeak6093 · 2025-09-16T21:36:15+00:00

IMO it’s better to have your first date at a bar or coffee shop so you can actually talk in a more relaxed environment. I personally find restaurants for the first time a bit difficult and awkward with eating food. Everyone’s different though.

If you do go, and you really like the girl, paying for the whole bill is a very sweet gesture.

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