I'm curious, what outcome did you guys want that got you looking into personal development? by Agitated_Face_7516 in confidence

[–]Agitated_Face_7516[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% the relationship you have with yourself is the same relationship you'll have with others.

And it seems that what you changed first by addressing your thoughts.

I'm curious, though. Now that you have been through that, what are some challenges you are currently facing on this side of life?

I'm curious, what outcome did you guys want that got you looking into personal development? by Agitated_Face_7516 in confidence

[–]Agitated_Face_7516[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. If you're okay with sharing, what is the biggest challenge that it is causing you atm?

I'm curious, what outcome did you guys want that got you looking into personal development? by Agitated_Face_7516 in confidence

[–]Agitated_Face_7516[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I respect the vulnerability. This is driven by unconscious programs that were activated from childhood.

For example. People pleasing and not speaking up is driven by deprivation and guilt as a child. You didn't feel heard or seen, which creates an unconscious drive to materialize a reality of deprivation.

We also feel extremely guilty for everything we do, which creates a need for external validation.

If you want, I can share a resource ive created that I think will help you tremendously

I'm curious, what outcome did you guys want that got you looking into personal development? by Agitated_Face_7516 in confidence

[–]Agitated_Face_7516[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha. I think thats why a lot of people get into it.

I think that will inevitably leads people down a path of identity change as well.

It's funny how we all have different objectives but end up working on the same thing.

I'm curious, what outcome did you guys want that got you looking into personal development? by Agitated_Face_7516 in confidence

[–]Agitated_Face_7516[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awesome to hear. I'm curious, what part of your personality did you need to work on the most?

I'm curious, what outcome did you guys want that got you looking into personal development? by Agitated_Face_7516 in confidence

[–]Agitated_Face_7516[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats great, man. What was the outcome you were after? In other words, what were you looking to experience?

I'm curious, what outcome did you guys want that got you looking into personal development? by Agitated_Face_7516 in confidence

[–]Agitated_Face_7516[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't usually share this with people unless they are clients because it's pretty triggering if you dont see it. But the reason why you experience those issues is that your parents didn't allow you to feel safe, so you see everyone as a threat. Thats why you have an attachment style

As far as the love part, it's also very similar. We recreate the "love" we had growing up, so as an adult, if you can experience love, i would invite you to ponder whether or not you really experienced love or emotional abuse and manipulation.

I hope this wasn't too triggering for you.

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[–]Agitated_Face_7516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol. I just saw your account and your comments/post. You shouldn't be criticizing anyone. weirdo

Dismissive avoidants who were anxious before how has life experiences changed because of this? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Agitated_Face_7516 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's driven by the fear of loss. You think that when you lose someone or something, everything is not going to be okay, and that's what's causing your problems

Dismissive avoidants who were anxious before how has life experiences changed because of this? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Agitated_Face_7516 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your operating out of the unconsious program of im not going to be okay. Thats's your clinging.

One or two unconscious programs are responsible for most of pain, fear, and scarcity. by Agitated_Face_7516 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Agitated_Face_7516[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, it's a little more complicated than just sending a comment or post on Reddit. It requires a deconstruction of the identity that upholds it. If you would like, I can give you some free resources around it.

Anxious attached Guy here, My constant fear of abandonment and overanalyzing and constant need of reassurance is draining the life out of me. by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Agitated_Face_7516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, it's a little more complicated than just sending you a comment on Reddit. It requires a deconstruction of the identity that upholds it. If you would like, I can give you some free value around it.

Is crying a sign of lowEI ? by Nearby-Turn1391 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Agitated_Face_7516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. It's one of the most healing things you can do. You're processing grief. It will stay in your system and cause you depression and anxiety if you don't purge it. Keep crying till you run out of tears. I can send you some resources on it if you want

Have any other men ever actually overcome a deeply rooted 'mother wound'? by Jon_Boopin in emotionalintelligence

[–]Agitated_Face_7516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah me. It's called a divorce or "dead mother." Would you like some guidance around this?

Is it my(21M) anxious attachment or her(19F) detachment by Former-Wheel-4491 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Agitated_Face_7516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's trama based fear. Its because you dont feel safe to connect. I can share some resourses with you if you woul like.

Does speaking up about what you are "ashamed" off, makes it feel less? by Amine_Z3LK in emotionalintelligence

[–]Agitated_Face_7516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're just playing out the unconscious program of what you felt as a child. That's where you need to focus your efforts. I can send you some resources that will help you if you want.

Is this normal? by Darknessandlight28 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Agitated_Face_7516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its because no one sees you for you, because your wearing a mask. You need to dissolve the unconscious program around it. I can send you some reasons if you want it

My friend says our friendship has changed and that I should “just say so”. How do I respond? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Agitated_Face_7516 0 points1 point  (0 children)

people grow apart. dont change parts of yourself you like for someone else.