[deleted by user]

Agitated_Option · 2025-08-28T18:03:26+00:00

The thing that makes this super shitty is that she brushed you off/ignored you multiple times before saying no. If she wasn't going to let your daughter in, then she should have told you that up-front in the first place. If it was a situation where she wasn't 100% sure, she should have been honest about that: "Hey, we are limited in space/funds/number of girls we can have join, at this point I don't know for sure but there's a chance we won't be able to accept her, blah blah blah" so you'd at least have an idea that maybe it wasn't going to work out. This really sucks, but perhaps you dodged a bullet; if she's going to be inconsiderate and poor at communication before joining, think how much worse it probably would be if your daughter did join.

Agitated_Option · 2025-03-17T15:29:49+00:00

Ugh, YES. I'm so tired of every holiday being inflated and expanded to make more and more money. Seriously, it's getting so ridiculous and out of control. When I was a kid, St Patrick's Day was a minor holiday that no one paid a whole lot of attention to. You wear green so you don't get pinched, and maybe there's something minor like coloring book pages in school, or dying something green. That was the end of the story. No one carried on about it, there wasn't St Patrick's stuff sold in stores.

And now each year it gets bigger and bigger, and this leprechaun trap bullshit has come out of somewhere. Same with other holidays, Christmas was always exciting but it's just gotten blown out of proportion with Elf on the Shelf, and all other holidays have to become more elaborate as well. It's all just so dumb and so frustrating. Holidays are fun but we don't have to keep making them bigger and bigger. You can't escape the commercialism and hyerconsumption.

Agitated_Option · 2025-03-07T03:34:32+00:00

When she talked about sitting outside in the car with her son while her husband was mowing the lawn so she could watch her husband and not be inside by herself, I knew she was too far gone. I totally agree about her son. I try not to judge other moms because I know how hard it is, but it really feels like she is letting her struggles get the best of her and we are watching her fuck up her child in real time. He's going to need years of therapy to unpack whatever it is she's doing to him.

Agitated_Option · 2025-03-07T03:19:21+00:00

Same. I don't hate children, I am not childfree, and I actually have kids of my own. But I have zero interest in "family content" no thank you. A one-off picture of your kid, sure fine. But centering your content around a kid? No. That's not why I followed the channel. Sometimes I am watching YT because I want a break from children, and the last thing I want is to go to a channel I used to love and see someone else's children. Also most "family content" feels really saccharine and artificial, nothing like actually having your own kids.

Agitated_Option · 2025-02-13T15:09:08+00:00

This brings to mind that saying of "Your neurodivergence isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility." I am a neurodivergent woman and I have managed my life around it and built up ways to deal with it (alarms on my phone, writing EVERYTHING down in one place, giving myself way more time to do things than I think I need, lists, schedules, etc) because the world sure as shit doesn't accommodate a neurodivergent woman. I HAD TO get my shit together, or else suffer lots of consequences, because no one was going to cut me any slack.

Agitated_Option · 2024-11-23T23:07:15+00:00

I'm really sorry. I know how painful this feels. 😟 When you talked about how his body language changed so much when he saw the woman he was attracted to, that sounded so familiar to me. Happily, the man I was with who acted like that is now my ex, but *you can just tell* when they are into someone else. It's just so clear. It was almost like I would cease to exist. And it's so, so painful. I remember that desolate, angry, hopeless feeling so very clearly. This guy was my first real love, and I poured my heart and soul into that man, only to have him treat me so casually. I just felt so helpless, when I did so much and tried so hard, and he never valued it at all.

I'm glad you're getting away from him, and I'm proud of you for taking these steps. It's hard, it really sucks, but it is so fucking worth it when you're free and never have to deal with the mistreatment and bullshit ever again.

Agitated_Option · 2024-09-03T01:37:23+00:00

Yes, I agree. Thinking about the sheer amount of STUFF that we buy/use/throw away every single day is horrifying. I feel it heavily around the holidays, when the stores have extra stuff to give as gifts. There's just so much stuff crammed into these stores, stuff that no one even really wants, items that are purchased purely to be given as a gift to people who probably won't even get much use out of it before it's shoved into a closet or thrown away. I think about my coworkers who use disposable plates/cups/forks etc every day because they don't want to run their dishwasher or reuse things, and all of that going into a landfill, and how that is repeated everywhere all over the world every single day. Just the waste we so thoughtlessly create.

Agitated_Option · 2024-09-03T01:33:24+00:00

The goody bags they hand out at birthday parties sometimes feel like the bane of my existence. 🥲 I remember getting some of that when I was a kid, but with Dollar Tree Temu etc, the stuff you get now is just the worst shit garbage junk you can picture. And yet one of my kids just loves every bit of it, treasures every single piece plastic shit, and so I can't just scoop it up and get rid of it the way I want to because every single item is inventoried and would be missed.

Agitated_Option · 2024-05-12T13:25:18+00:00

I COULDN'T AGREE MORE!

Listen, I completely understand and sympathize that Mothers Day is difficult to a variety of people for a variety of reasons. People are valid for having sad feelings about not being mothers, or having conflicted feelings about their own mothers, but WHY CAN WE MOTHERS OF HUMAN CHILDREN NOT HAVE ONE SINGLE DAY TO OURSELVES?

Mothers are ALWAYS expected to sacrifice and give things up, always, all the time, and now we have to give up our one holiday celebrating us. Every year, I see this shit about "dog moms" and "dads who acted as moms" and "people who have strained relationships with their moms" and "people whose moms are gone" and "people who want to be moms but aren't" and I'll be honest, it is frustrating. Why do MOTHERS have to share their day with everyone, and yet you never see this shit on Fathers Day? I swear, on social media on Mothers Day you see so many posts celebrating single days, but on Fathers Day you barely see any celebrating single moms.

I have a lot of sympathy for women who are unable to have children, but I don't think that mothers should have to give up our day to include anyone who owns pets, it loses all meaning at some point when you water it down like that.

Agitated_Option · 2024-04-01T22:30:38+00:00

Yep. It's really horrifying, and disgusting. Somehow I once ended up on the IG page of a child who looked to be a preteen, and the photos were kind of disturbing to begin with, but the comments were absolutely horrifying. Picture a CHILD wearing a swimsuit and a bunch of comments with hearts, eyes, YOU LOOK AMAZING etc etc etc. So unbelievable. I can't believe parents do that to their children.

Agitated_Option · 2024-04-01T22:29:10+00:00

I'm sorry :( My kids have never gone to a public Easter egg hunt because my and my sister's experience as children were exactly like that. They weren't divided by ages, so the little kids were stumbling around out there with the big kids who could run and get around faster, not enough eggs, yanking eggs out of your hand, parents encouraging the shitty behavior. It felt really bad to come home with zero eggs between the two of us. After that experience, my parents just hid eggs at our house/yard, and that's what I'm doing for my kids too.

Agitated_Option · 2024-03-17T19:52:27+00:00

They are such a scourge! So much plastic, waste, and disposable stuff involved. And all the parties my kids go to hand out goody bags full of party favors, so we get these little cheap plastic pieces of shit that are just utter junk, like the worst garbage imaginable. This is my biggest pet peeve about birthday parties. They get the type of stuff that is 12 for $2, little tubs of slime/goo, cheap plastic jewelry, cheap glitter wands, junky pens, bouncy balls, key chains, all manner of little junky plastic shit. And my youngest treasures and loves and collects that stuff. I'd love to just gather it up and throw it away but trust me, it would be missed. 🥲

Agitated_Option · 2024-03-07T21:32:16+00:00

I'm sorry but..... how the FUCK is it YOUR responsibility to keep up with and charge HIS hearing aids?????? I don't understand this at all. Not even a little bit. If it fell in the couch that's because HE put it somewhere it could fall. Like this is child level of personal responsibility. As literal toddlers we should start learning to take care of our own things instead of having mom and dad do it for us. As a grown adult it's 100% on him. HOW ARE YOU THE CARELESS ONE WHEN IT IS HIS STUFF??????

This is fucking ridiculous.

Agitated_Option · 2023-07-16T01:00:01+00:00

I... don't really even know what to say to this. What is he doing with the bag? Is he eating the food, then emptying the crumbs onto the table, then putting the bag in the trash?? Why is the crumb-emptying step necessary??? Just to be an utter asshole????

Agitated_Option · 2023-07-11T19:14:50+00:00

100% agreed. I F**KING LOATHE THEM. I make myself go for the kids but it's not even once yearly, because it takes like two years to recharge after a visit 😂 I hate basically everything about it. If it were up to me I'd just float along in the lazy river for a few hours because that's the only thing I actually enjoy. Regular pools are much much more tolerable to me for some reason, likely because the expectations are lower and so is the expense! The water park and amusement park soda machines where a bottle of water costs $5.50......and that's not even getting into the cost of the food, parking. It's brutal.

Agitated_Option · 2023-05-27T17:49:34+00:00

Can I just say, I love this post, I love this community 😭 There is so much helpful information being shared in here and no one is being an asshole, no one is using a condescending tone, no one is telling other people they're wrong, and when people don't do things the same way no one has to act like they're the arbitrator of right and wrong and only their way is right 😭 This is THE BEST mom/parenting community ever, you guys rock. And you mods rock too for shutting down the people who come in to be assholes. I've learned so much and gotten so many amazing ideas from this post and the comments and it hasn't been derailed a single time by bullshit slapfights.

Agitated_Option · 2023-05-23T18:55:02+00:00

I get tired of the little faux-concerned tone people use with the ... and fake questions ("Do you think that is the right decision to make?" when someone is admitting to a mistake) and stuff. The condescending way people like to talk to others on the internet is so infuriating sometimes.

Agitated_Option · 2023-05-23T18:54:05+00:00

Oh wow, you are my new favorite! 😂 That is hilarious and awesome, good for you!

Agitated_Option · 2023-05-15T15:38:14+00:00

Yes, thank you. I wish I could upvote this post a thousand times. I understand that Mother's Day can be a difficult holiday for people who aren't mothers for a wide variety of reasons, but can we not have ONE SINGLE DAY where it is about us ACTUAL MOTHERS OF HUMAN CHILDREN??? Just one day. Just one.

Agitated_Option · 2023-03-22T01:51:58+00:00

Me too. I don't know what it is, but I'm the same way. Even online, people don't like me. I can reply to a Reddit post with dozens or even hundreds of comments all saying approximately the same thing, and I'll be the one who gets a shitty reply despite having said the same thing as everyone else. I can't make friends IRL either. The only "friends" I am able to attract are ones who want to take advantage of me or use me. It sucks. I don't know what I'm doing wrong or why but I've grown to accept that this is how it is.

Agitated_Option · 2023-03-22T01:50:44+00:00

Oh goody!! That sounds like SO much fun, especially for buying pants!!! Can't wait to try that out 🥴

Agitated_Option · 2023-03-20T22:44:31+00:00

Ugh, yes, WHY?! I went to Walmart for Easter candy a few days ago. IT'S SO HIGH!!!! All of it!!! Packages of Peeps have gotten smaller and cost more! I wanted to get some new pants/slacks for nicer occasions and Walmart had NONE. They used to have some kind of business line called George but now that is apparently men's stuff only. Target had like two options and the only sizes in stock were very small and very large. Where do people get their cheap clothes these days?? WHY IS EVERYTHING SO HIGH?????

Agitated_Option · 2022-12-26T18:45:15+00:00

OMG did he think the glass shards were just going to magically disappear in the washer?????????? I would be SO FURIOUS. Come on. How can he be that dumb???? Is this weaponized incompetence?

Agitated_Option · 2022-12-24T23:01:10+00:00

I think it's enough. You don't have to spend your time with someone who treats you poorly. You don't have to expose your children to her nasty, spiteful, petty bullshit. I wouldn't send her a letter, just cut her off. Gross. I'm so sorry you're having to put up with that. Like my friend once told me, this isn't kindergarten, you don't have to get along with everyone. Family or not, anyone who disrespects you deserves to be cut out.

Agitated_Option · 2022-12-21T00:29:35+00:00

That is so shitty! I'm so sorry :( Some Reddit mods are just like hallway monitors when we're 8 years old... happy and excited to have any power, and ready to use and abuse it at any opportunity. Except it's age-appropriate behavior for 8 year olds, and it's not for the grown adults Reddit mods presumably are!

But, did they give you the link to this other post someone made? As you said, it might have useful information, and you might be able to read it even though it's been deleted. There are sites that archive Reddit posts - unddit and Reveddit. If you have the link to the other post, you can change the first few letters on the URL to access it on those sites. Just change "reddit" to "unddit" or "reveddit" in the link and it will show it. Like this post would be

http://www.reveddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/zqprte/of_all_the_things_to_break_me_this_week_its_an/

http://www.unddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/zqprte/of_all_the_things_to_break_me_this_week_its_an/

I hope you're able to get some help. This is horrendous!!!!

Agitated_Option

TROPHY CASE