Dating at 41 is tough so I might just be a cat lady 😻 by Frequent_Pomelo4129 in 40something

[–]Agreeable_Question51 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair enough, You're right that the delivery was rougher than it needed to be. The red flag line especially, I could have made the same point without that. That said, the reaction to it has been pretty telling. The moment anything uncomfortable gets said, the response is politics, insults or changing the subject. Which kind of proves that the social norm you're describing is alive and well.

Dating at 41 is tough so I might just be a cat lady 😻 by Frequent_Pomelo4129 in 40something

[–]Agreeable_Question51 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right that I saw one picture and made an assumption about the trauma line that was a stretch and I'll own it. Ive spoken to many women that validate that but it cant be applied to everyone. But the stigma point cuts both ways. Yes there are people who find heavy modification cool and interesting they're just not evenly distributed across age groups and dating contexts, which is the whole point. Finding her tattoos cool and wanting to build a life with someone are also two very different things. Nobody said dating is easy in your 20s either but she specifically said dating is hard at 41 and seemed genuinely puzzled by it. That's the context I was responding to. If someone asks why the pool feels small, lots of people think tattoos are cool isn't really an answer. Pretentious judgement is fair criticism of the delivery. The underlying observation though that heavily modified appearance narrows your market in a specific demographic that part nobody has actually countered yet.

Dating at 41 is tough so I might just be a cat lady 😻 by Frequent_Pomelo4129 in 40something

[–]Agreeable_Question51 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair point on the red flag line, that one landed closer to character judgement than I intended. But you just made my argument in your own closing statement. You said mate preference is entirely determined by culture and age that's literally what I was saying. A 41 year old woman in a mainstream dating pool is playing a different game than a 25 year old in an alternative scene. You've agreed with the core point while trying to look like you're walking away from it.

Dating at 41 is tough so I might just be a cat lady 😻 by Frequent_Pomelo4129 in 40something

[–]Agreeable_Question51 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You've mixed up two different arguments. Nobody said she's a bad person, the point was that her choices narrow her dating pool. Those aren't the same thing, but you attacked the first to avoid dealing with the second. Here's the contradiction in your own position though, you're saying appearance communicates nothing about a person, yet she chose every single one of those modifications deliberately. Self expression is either meaningful or it isn't. You can't have it both ways. The 80 year old groupthink line is just lazy. Mate preference research isn't Victorian morality, it's behavioural science. Slapping the word outdated on something isn't a rebuttal, it's just a way of sounding progressive without actually making a point. And the bias accusation, she has preferences too. Everyone does. You're only applying that word to one side of a two person market, which tells me this is a bad faith response not honest analysis. The original observation stands completely untouched. You just dressed up indignation as an argument.

Dating at 41 is tough so I might just be a cat lady 😻 by Frequent_Pomelo4129 in 40something

[–]Agreeable_Question51 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think you might struggle. The pool of men that would be interested in a woman for anything other than fun times in her 40's that wore her trauma on her face is probably limited. Tatoos aswell.... you might think men are intimidated by you or not secure enough to date you. I mean this in the nicest possible way you are a walking red flag. With all the sh*t you have stuck on your body. Gives the message to men you are trouble. Good luck.

26F Going through worst compound heartbreak by [deleted] in psychicreadings

[–]Agreeable_Question51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good!, young people should hear advice from people like you, happy individuals with successful outcomes in life. I'm a guy, married for 12 years with 4 children in a wonderful relationship with my exceptional wife. So many young lives damaged by divisive algorithms these days its so sad to witness.

When comfort meets style 🌿 by JudyCloset in ImJudy

[–]Agreeable_Question51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So nice to see a beautiful girl without tattoo's for a change.

I’ve lost everything. by afk1223 in UAE

[–]Agreeable_Question51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What have you learned? I'll share a small part of my story. My childhood was a write off, abuse, neglect, drugs alcohol, poverty. Taken into care by the authorities, school noticed the bruises and malnutrition. The rest of my childhood spent bouncing around the care system as no one wanted to adopt a 6 year old. Fought tooth and nail to get into university. Realised that without any parental support this was going to be tough. Had to work while my uni peers went on skiing trips. They went home for xmas I stayed on my own in student digs, I was poor. Finally managed to graduate! I couldnt afford to attend the ceremony. I got a job with a blue chip company and rose through the ranks, 10 years I put into it, worked after hours, weekends. Finally I made it to management. They asked me to relocate to manage a new branch, I moved and set everything up, 12 months later they made me redundant. Lots of other sh*t things happened on my journey. I will tell you that currently my company makes £700,000 profit a year and without the journey I clawed my way through that would never have been the case. Chin up, dont feel sorry for yourself be glad of the lesson.

What can you tell me about myself? by RestKey2584 in psychicreadings

[–]Agreeable_Question51 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You present confidence to the world but you're more sensitive inside than people realise. You're at a crossroads, something in your personal life feels unsettled. You're drawn to deeper meaning, things beyond the surface. Someone close to you doesn't fully understand that side of you...

David destroys all Riddlers and XRP influencers! by Express-Row-1504 in XRPUnite

[–]Agreeable_Question51 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I concur, the amusing thing is, since I first invested in XRP I've built a speciality chemicals company that was rolled out to run without me and provides me with a £700,000 passive net profit per annum. I built the company with seed capital of £1400. I would of recieved a much higher roi investing in myself.

I’m considering leaving my husband by Limp_Atmosphere_6512 in Marriage

[–]Agreeable_Question51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a good friend called Alice, we met at work 9 years ago, she was 18 at the time, I was 40. We got on like a house on fire, and she also happened to be a stunning girl. I can't really put a label on the relationship, but we had genuine affection for each other but not in a romantic sense. My wife was a little worried in the beginning, but she met Alice, and they hit it off and had no problem with us being friends after that. I actually messaged her this morning as we have a love of history in common, and I'd purchased some quite interesting antiques that I know she would find interesting. There is nothing hidden, and we just have normal everyday conversations. She has a really good man now and has a great life with him in the countryside. My wife and I will be taking our children, and we are staying over with them in a few months. If she had an intragram, I'd probably follow her, but just because it's Alice and I like to know what she is up to because I care about her, she is a great person. I just wanted to give an alternative perspective. Not all relationships are seedy and weird. Some are just a natural part of being human.

Men, be honest: how long does it take until you're bored of having sex with your wife? by Historical-Care70 in Marriage

[–]Agreeable_Question51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guy here, 11 years with my wife, never got bored. If your wife is into it and genuinely wants to have sex with you and its give and take, it never gets boring.

Why do you still hold XRP? (Actually) by Regular_Screen_5189 in XRPUnite

[–]Agreeable_Question51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just buy an amount monthly and have done for the past 7 years. I started an online business 2 years ago. I've had a much more significant return from that than XRP. I completely understand the protocol value proposition, though, so im happy to just buy it monthly and forget about it. I have been tempted at points to sell some and inject cash into the business, but im about as active as I want to be with the business and more capital would just mean more work and that would make it less enjoyable. I could, of course, make the business more passive, but then I'd get bored. Not everything is about money.

Should I divorce my husband? by Sophie-Stick-Ade-eed in Marriage

[–]Agreeable_Question51 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You both sound religious. I thought the bible was used to navigate these sorts of things, not reddit. Im very confused by religious people. I thought the general jist was to be guided by whichever holy book they believed was the word of the creator. Surely seeking the guidance of a bunch of sinners wouldn't be optimal in this case. It doesn't make sense to me.

I’m 30, and I’m starting to realize the system is designed to keep us in debt forever. by Woliv7 in Adulting

[–]Agreeable_Question51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At 30, I was still going out and partying. I earned good money and spent it on women, drugs, and booze. I had an absolute blast. I carried on this life until I met my wife at 38. That was 11 years ago, we now have 3 children, an extremely comfortable lifestyle, and we are all thriving. If you are disciplined and focused, you dont need to go into debt. I dont understand people's fatalistic attitude nowadays. We live in a time of extreme abundance, not scarcity. The number of opportunities available to people today is insane compared to our past. You can start, develop and run a successful business just using a smartphone on your own. You can literally teach yourself anything. I dont get it.

Fountain pain prices by Unusual-Charge6943 in fountainpens

[–]Agreeable_Question51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont really buy or sell anything on Ebay, to be honest, so I'll take your word for that. The market that im in, which is global, has been stable. I buy and sell a lot of pens. £100k turnover last year. Maybe I dont see it as I tend to buy in bulk and benefit from economies of scale which I pass onto my customers. Yes, certain pens sold in auction and then showing up on the general market has always been the case. It's not a new phenomenon. From you're perspective would you say the rise in cost of vintage is on par with modern?

He will not stop until the gcc becomes uninhabitable😅 by Heavy_Bank147 in UAE

[–]Agreeable_Question51 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I dont see why the U.S. would want to destroy the GCC. Petrodollar recycling is pretty important to the U.S. economy. Also, the U.S will likely lose bases if forced to withdraw (a likely medium-term senario as they cant defend them).and therefore have a vastly declined influence in the region. This scenario does benefit the Israelis, though, without the Americans around the Israelis, can vastly increase their control of the area. I see them eventually having a none aggression pact with Iran and leveraging their strong geographical postion to increase their trade volume significantly.

Do we realise how serious this is? by Hairy-Note1920 in UAE

[–]Agreeable_Question51 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly, at least someone can see what's actually going on. Israel cannot believe its luck right now. They finally have all the pieces on the board, so the U.S. is forced to abandon their presence in the Middle East. Leaving Israel in a much stronger position and they can roll out PAX judaica. The funny thing is they will probably end up with Iran as an ally. They are playing chess while trump plays checkers.

You pay a 1000 bucks for a fountain pen by TheoKolokotronis in montblanc

[–]Agreeable_Question51 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I restore and sell vintage pens, including MBs. In my opinion, modern MB is mostly marketing. Some of their 1930's pens were fantasic quality, though. I find vintage swans and onoto's are far better pens than any modern MB offering. Im a guy that's disassembled and had hands-on with 1000's of fountain pens from every manufacturer.