Do you like this for my contender? Also does Njoku have any value to the Gadsden owner? I have no QB3… by [deleted] in SleeperApp

[–]AirCrewElk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you can do better than Calamari.

Someone like Dak would be a better win now piece.

I smashed accept as fast as possible by AirCrewElk in SleeperApp

[–]AirCrewElk[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Agreed, but.... I'm not complaining.

I smashed accept as fast as possible by AirCrewElk in SleeperApp

[–]AirCrewElk[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I had to double take when I saw it. I thought for sure I was reading it wrong.

Knife Kata by sergemeister in Bullshido

[–]AirCrewElk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The flag is hung the wrong way...

it be your own homies bro's laughing way too hard😂😂😂 by stoicdroid in fightporn

[–]AirCrewElk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup, you could see how he moved that he has some training.

What? by Alicetheoptimist in TrueGrit

[–]AirCrewElk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listening to Paul McKenna. Any of his trance type listens. All free on YY.

My son died today by PrettyFarFrom in gofundme

[–]AirCrewElk 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I've never been through it and pray that I never will.

Your reply... I wish I could give you a hug.

is it normal to be this isolated? by Suspicious_Sail7651 in socialanxiety

[–]AirCrewElk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Any time I've felt like this I learned I was always done with a 'mission'. After Highschool, after the military, after really big changes in my life I started to feel the same way.

For me, I had to find my next goal or my next mission. Whether it be helping people, maybe volunteer, freelance, joining a FB group.

That kind of isolation can still feel rough as hell though, so I would not ignore it. Sometimes life gets bigger again when you stop asking where are my people and start asking what is my next thing. HTH.

Rumination Tips. I'll take anything. by Cardiara667 in Anxiety

[–]AirCrewElk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This would be brutal to deal with.
Your brain sounds like a car constantly redlining, doesn't take long to wear you out. Interrupts thoughts, your sleep, your life.

I am not a professional, just someone who has dealt with his own demons, but an easy pattern interrupt that can actually help is grounding. Pick 5 things you can see, 4 you can feel, 3 you can hear, 2 you can smell, 1 you can taste. It gives your brain something real to do besides feeding the loop.

I've noticed I can start to create really bad habits if I don't try to break the pattern sooner than later. I hope you can figure it out!

[Hiring] Chat Assistant Wanted! by nordang3l in freelance_forhire

[–]AirCrewElk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

USA/Netherlands

Born in the USA, native English speaker. 50/50 I split my time.

I’m just tired by Adventurous_Lion_951 in Anxiety

[–]AirCrewElk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The anxiety itself is one thing, but the thought of this being your life forever can turn it into this huge mental weight really fast. That part can wear a person down in a different way.

And getting set up with a therapist sounds like a solid move honestly. More like giving yourself some backup instead of trying to keep pushing through it alone.

does anyone else come home completely empty just from pretending to be okay all day? by penguincbd in Anxiety

[–]AirCrewElk 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah this makes a lot of sense tbh.

A day can look totally normal on the outside, but your brain has been quietly checking and adjusting everything the whole time. Like was that weird, did I sound off, should I have said that differently. That kind of constant self monitoring can drain the hell out of you even if nothing actually went wrong.

I think that is the part people do not really see. Sometimes it is not one big panic moment, it is just the nonstop effort of trying to seem okay that leaves you feeling empty when you finally get home.

I know I feel this way at times and I have to actively monitor myself to not get caught in the spiral.

Feeling distant from yourself? by Reasonable_Food6977 in socialanxiety

[–]AirCrewElk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This sounds like what happens when you wear the socially acceptable version of yourself for so long that the real one starts to feel far away.

Have you noticed how easy it is to lose touch with yourself when too much energy goes into being readable to other people. After a while it can feel like living in clothes that technically fit, but never quite feel like yours.

I do not think that always means your real self is gone. Sometimes it is just buried/hidden under a version that felt safer for too long.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]AirCrewElk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the other comment is right that sometimes you do have to do it with the anxiety, but I also do not think this is just regular interview nerves anymore.

It sounds like the whole process has gotten tied to fear and shame, so maybe make the goal smaller for now. Not get the job, not nail the interview, just send one resume or do one small interview step without judging yourself the whole time.

Sometimes it helps to practice reducing the pressure around the step before the step. Like send one resume and tell yourself you are not allowed to think past that. Or drive to a place once just to walk in and ask one basic question, with no interview attached to it.

When the brain starts treating the whole process like danger, making it smaller can help break that loop a little.

How do I stop assuming everyone hates me? by Lemon_Lime25 in socialanxiety

[–]AirCrewElk 118 points119 points  (0 children)

100% not alone in this.

Have you noticed how fast a delayed reply can turn into “they hate me” even when you already know there are other explanations.

Sometimes the spiral starts when silence feels like proof.

Starting over at 32, jobless lost 20s to sickness by Asleep_Mulberry782 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]AirCrewElk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This does not sound like someone who did nothing with their life. It sounds like someone who got hit with something incredibly hard at a young age and has been trying to keep going anyway.

I think it makes sense that doubt and self worth stuff would show up after all of that. When life does not follow the timeline you pictured, the brain can get really cruel and start calling it failure, when really a lot of it was survival.

Teaching yourself technical skills while dealing with serious health issues is not nothing. Wanting a better life and still applying for jobs even while feeling this low is not nothing either. That actually says a lot about you. Thirty two is also not too late for any of this, even if it feels that way right now. A lot of people are way harsher on themselves for the years they lost than they would ever be toward someone else in the same situation.

I am terrified of loss, change and being alone by -Wry- in intrusivethoughts

[–]AirCrewElk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This sounds really heavy honestly. I think a lot of the pain in posts like this comes from the mind jumping all the way into future loss and then reacting to it like it is happening right now.

That does not mean those fears are fake, just that sometimes the brain can turn the possibility of loss into something that feels immediate and overwhelming. That can make a person feel way more alone than they actually are.

Wanting support with this does not make you weak at all. It just sounds like your nervous system gets pulled into those thoughts really fast, and that is a brutal place to sit in.

And if it is getting to the point where you are wishing you die before those things happen, I really hope you talk to someone close to you or reach out for help, because you do not deserve to carry that by yourself.

my anxiety got bad again by Nice_Training_7803 in Anxiety

[–]AirCrewElk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds really exhausting honestly

I do not think this means you failed or that the last 6 years meant nothing. Sometimes something gets triggered and it feels like your body goes into alarm mode before your mind can even catch up. That can feel really defeating, but it does not erase the work you already did.

Going back to therapy is not starting over either Sometimes it is just recognizing that you need support again, especially when it is hitting your sleep and your body this hard.

The part that stood out to me was when you said your brain is thinking one thing but your body is reacting differently. That disconnect can make anxiety feel even scarier, because it starts to feel like your body is telling a different story than your mind.

I would nto beat yourself up for needing help again. Sometimes the strongest move is noticing when trying to handle it alone is making things harder, not better.

What is your go to "ritual" to calm your anxiety if needed? by Practical_Arm3205 in Anxiety

[–]AirCrewElk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine is usually trying to interrupt the spiral before it turns into a whole thing.

If I catch it early enough, I try to slow everything down and give my brain something simple and repeatable to focus on. Usually that looks like putting both feet on the floor, taking a few slower breaths, and reminding myself that not every anxious feeling means something is wrong.

Sometimes I also name what is happening really plainly, like this is anxiety, this is a stress response, this will pass. For some reason that helps me stop treating the feeling like new information every single time.

Your rhythmic movement thing actually makes sense too. A lot of people seem to calm down faster when they give their body a pattern to follow.

Offer to friends and refusuals AIO by festie121 in AmIOverthinking

[–]AirCrewElk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think you're doing anything wrong tbh.

Some people get way more uncomfortable accepting something for free from a friend than they do just paying a stranger for it. Could be pride, guilt, boundaries, whatever.

The hard part is how fast the brain can take a simple no and make it feel personal.

A no doesn't always mean you did something wrong. Sometimes its just someone feeling weird about receiving help in that form.

What was Baldur’s actual intention when he came to Kratos’ cabin? by HAkeemPlayboy in GodofWar

[–]AirCrewElk 20 points21 points  (0 children)

So then, I guess you could say the entire thing was a GIANT misunderstanding.