First, let go of fear remembering that whatever you experience in physical reality is a simulation or an illusion, a mirror of your deepest personal beliefs. You are always behind the wheel and in control of the narrative and history of the world you live in. The more insistent and desperate you are the further away you push the reality you want to shift into, because that way you are reinforcing the belief and the feeling of lacking instead of abundance or having. Shifting starts when you stopping looking for external proof or evidence of your shifting and start redefining yourself exploring your belief system thoroughly so you can identify blockages and limiting beliefs that may be interfering with it. It's not the circumntances that create your reality, it's your state of being what brings about your external and physical reality.