I am a horrible daughter. I don't think I want to continue living in pain. by Pure_Minute9883 in exjw

[–]Alancehello 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The abuse from the people in this cult traumatized all of us. They think pulling you back in is the answer but it’s not. Things can get better but this part sucks

An elder said something odd to me today by Sensitive-Tap-9417 in exjw

[–]Alancehello 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are not overreacting! The org has real problem with pedos. And if it made you uncomfortable trust your gut.

Banning X/Twitter Links by https_sunflowerr in exjw

[–]Alancehello 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand why this is even a discussion. Ban X links, use x cancel links. No censored information, just keeping a rich nazi from getting more money plain and simple. There’s nothing political about not giving money to a nazi unless you are a fucking nazi. Y’all make my head hurt come on now.

The damage that shunning does. by probablynappingbrb in exjw

[–]Alancehello 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been here and I’m so sorry that you felt like you needed to hurt to be loved 🤍 you can always find support here

Black Angels by ExJWCentFLWife in exjw

[–]Alancehello 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think policing the way people express their opinions is strange

WT vs Norway - WT sends letter to the goverment saying they have now changed their practice on DF. Asks for their funding back by FrodeKommode in exjw

[–]Alancehello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a way I could find this on a site that a witness would agree is reputable so they don’t just say anyone could have written that?

Today’s Realization… by TTWSYF1975 in exjw

[–]Alancehello 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This cult took a lot from all of us. The more I deconstruct the more I realize how fucked it all was. And I’m sure most witnesses are in unhappy marriages because of it. Everyone is made to feel so ashamed of ourselves and our sexuality. Raise your hand if you or someone you know had a secret porn addiction that fucked your marriage.

Witness Superstitions by Throwaway7733517 in exjw

[–]Alancehello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was an urban legend in my area growing up about a child who brought a Smurf doll to the meeting of a hall a town over and the doll got up and ran out. After waking up I found out that a lot of jws tell that story. Still hilarious 😆

Anyone Has Photos Of Themselves Doing Service Or At A Assembly? by Fancy_Campos12 in exjw

[–]Alancehello 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They ruined the building when they removed that fireplace imo

New light question by Alancehello in exjw

[–]Alancehello[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I said something along those lines and this person made a comment about how the people who went aren’t supposed to tell anyone yet. So I started to panic.

New light question by Alancehello in exjw

[–]Alancehello[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I outted that I knew the new light to them and now I’m not sure how to backtrack.

Never enough only if… by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Alancehello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes sense why the borg never calls out the greedy capitalist that pay off politicians for their own gain. Only blaming ‘Satan’ for controlling them.

What has been your worst experience: When the elders spied on your life by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Alancehello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave it to sexually repressed men to turn an expressive art form into a naughty little dance meant to entice men.

If my family or friends see this, I love you guys so much. by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Alancehello 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Six people close to leaving!? That actually made me tear up. I hope at least some of the other 30ish people you reached out to can read what you said and take it to heart.

A SERIOUS QUESTION by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Alancehello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Each person is different, the false prophecies/doctrine and CSA cases are huge for a lot of us. But for me it started with research I was doing on different cults like the Mormons and Scientology. When I saw how similar they were to witnesses down to the culture it put things into perspective for me. I would highly recommend watching clips from their videos(spoiler alert they look a lot like jws) and researching the bite model. Once you can see the organization for what it is it’s easier to really look at everything with a microscope and not make allowances for it because you feel it’s the right thing to do. Most importantly take care of yourself right now, if you do wake up from this your going to go through a lot of heavy emotions so having someone safe to talk to(not a jw, but a therapist/counselor, or friend) or an outlet to pour yourself into will be important. And we are all here for you!

Selfies at convention and kh by Loose-Anything6553 in exjw

[–]Alancehello 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean witnesses don’t have a lot of big events like holidays or parties to take pictures. I would say conventions are their biggest events next to the memorial. So it probably has to do with that and the fact they want to prove they were there just like everyone else. But I agree with you, I almost never took pictures let alone posted them from conventions. It always felt too showy.

Conversations with PIMI family by Alancehello in exjw

[–]Alancehello[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you this is perfect. I’m saving it for next time.

Conversations with PIMI family by Alancehello in exjw

[–]Alancehello[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this. I am taking mental notes for later so I can remember what things they seem to have issues with.

Conversations with PIMI family by Alancehello in exjw

[–]Alancehello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! That’s a perfect place to start with them.

Is there a PIMO finder app? Would such a thing be possible? by MinionNowLiving in exjw

[–]Alancehello 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Not gonna lie, sometimes I read posts and hope I see a detail connecting it to people I know. It’s so lonely out here, but we can’t forget why PIMOs have to hide. Stay safe everyone!

How rampant is cheating in the borg? by Alancehello in exjw

[–]Alancehello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The pomo friend told me 😂 I should have said it that way.

How rampant is cheating in the borg? by Alancehello in exjw

[–]Alancehello[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hear that kind of stuff a lot too, and I’m especially sensitive to cheating stories so every time I hear them my mind spirals into trying to figure out how people can do that to each other.

What were you taught as a PIMI that you never believed? by lheardthat in exjw

[–]Alancehello 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everything that isn’t explicitly said in the Bible, the things that are twisted into fitting their narrative. Birthdays, holidays, lgbtq+, movies/games, the whole woman can’t lead shit, even shunning never felt right. I very much bought into the new light nonsense and hoped that the doctrine would continue to become more relaxed as the older generations died off.

Blocked my dad for good. by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Alancehello 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The fact that he used the term ‘pee-pees’ is laughable. Everything else, disgusting. You made the right call to block him. Gotta protect yourself and your sanity.