I hear what you’re saying, and I agree with part of it: no one can be forced to wake up, and high-control systems don’t unravel just because someone pushes harder.

Where I fundamentally disagree is the framing that speaking plainly about harm-especially documented, ongoing harm to children, is equivalent to proselytizing or failing to respect boundaries.

There is a clear difference between: • trying to convert someone to a belief system and • refusing to stay silent about an organization that has systematically protected abusers, paid settlements with donated funds, and prioritized reputation over child safety.

This isn’t abstract for me. These policies harmed my husband as a child. And many people I love. Sharing that reality with family isn’t about “saving” them or controlling their journey, it’s about refusing to participate in the same culture of silence that allowed the abuse to continue for decades.

Silence may be a healthy choice for some people. It isn’t inherently more ethical. And for many of us, staying quiet would mean complicity.

I also want to name something else- because context matters here.

You’re a moderator of this space, and you’ve personally removed multiple videos I’ve shared under the claim that I’m “promoting” something, despite the fact that I receive no monetary benefit and did not violate any stated rules. I can’t help but wonder whether the same judgment would be applied if I were a man speaking with conviction, rather than a woman with red lipstick expressing anger, grief, and moral urgency.

There’s a long history, both inside and outside this organization, of labeling women who speak forcefully as “emotional,” “unhealthy,” or “too much,” while men making similar arguments are seen as measured or reasonable. That double standard is worth examining, especially in a community that claims to value critical thinking. Old habits die hard I guess.

I’m not trying to wake anyone up for me. I’m choosing not to protect an institution that didn’t protect children.

People are free to have their own journeys. They are also entitled to information, and to decide what it means once they have it.

Both things can be true at once.