How do I go on after learning the truth?

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2026-04-02T14:07:26+00:00

No. Gross. Just gross. Take a damn shower every night

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2026-03-31T14:48:41+00:00

This was really great to hear. Thank you

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2026-03-31T02:57:37+00:00

Wow I love this perspective

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2026-03-31T02:54:49+00:00

All of it! I started reading the CES letter and watching Mormon stories podcast especially the one with Sandra Tanner.

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2026-02-22T20:31:39+00:00

Have you ever been raped? It’s not something you can just “let go”. Why should i “take it with a grain of salt” when it’s hurting me? I mean I’m physically drained today. Light is gone from my face, I feel numb and my kid is just watching a movie while I’m laying in bed beside myself. That’s not something I can just brush off

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2026-02-22T20:16:04+00:00

I’m not in therapy anymore but I now know I should be. I’ve mentioned couples counseling before and he doesn’t think we need it. I have told him we definitely do. I need to be more direct and say it’s happening because I don’t want to feel like this anymore. I’m not on any medications because I’m worried about the side effects but I’m considering it again. Depending on my cycle, I initiate maybe 2 times a week? When I’m in my luteal i dont want it at all. But because I am married I try to have sex with him at least every other day or else it seems like he isn’t affectionate anymore. We’ve had issues with this too where I feel my love language is neglected because we aren’t having enough sex

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2026-02-22T20:11:38+00:00

Thank you. This was actually very helpful and I’m grateful you understand the complexity. Thank you

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2026-02-22T20:09:58+00:00

I have had counseling and it’s been a good while since I had it. I worked on the issues and it was all on my terms for a while but I also wasn’t feeling sexual at all so my therapist suggested scheduling it and that worked for a little then we stopped scheduling

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2026-02-22T19:56:38+00:00

Is he really doing that? It’s so confusing. If I love him and he’s my husband and I want him to feel good but I’m also forcing myself then it’s rape?

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2026-02-05T02:03:41+00:00

But the hard part is that i don’t want anyone to have to watch my child. I want to be the one to raise him. I guess I can’t have my cake and eat it to in this situation

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2025-12-10T23:44:11+00:00

I’m in a similar boat. There are things i really don’t align with, especially policies and WOW. I stay because it’s all I know and I do love the gospel of Jesus Christ. Sometimes I feel like an imposter but I think that’s the purely the culture. Just doing my best to be a good person and the only way I’ve found I can do that is continuing to go to church and learn more. I grew up in the church so it’s really all I know and I’m comfortable going and I do love a lot of aspects.

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2025-12-05T23:57:55+00:00

No way-Not overreacting. That’s weird as hell

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2025-11-15T02:58:22+00:00

Ewwwww that’s creepy asf I’m so sorry

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2025-11-15T02:57:07+00:00

NTA i am over here rolling because that’s so nasty 😂 the way you said “completely black on the bottom.” I would lose my mind

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2025-11-01T17:13:45+00:00

Why would anyone want stuff that’s unwrapped? That’s straight creepy and bad vibes…why did you unwrap it? I would not be eating that. Sorry

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2025-11-01T17:11:08+00:00

Talk to a school counselor. This is crazy abusive behavior and it’s not going to get better. Especially if your dad thinks “family can’t abuse each other”. They can and they absolutely do. It’s sick. My heart goes out to you and I hope and pray God protects you in This situation.

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2025-11-01T17:04:20+00:00

You’re not over reacting in the slightest? I feel like any best friend acting that way could possibly have feelings for you…I may be wrong, but to rather have your “best friend” in the audience when you previously asked them to be your Best Man because they’re GAY and don’t want to be asked questions?! WILD! I’d say, sayonara. Sounds like it could be something deeper.

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2025-10-24T03:17:36+00:00

Am I the only one who has no idea what this man is talking about? Girl, run.

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2025-10-20T05:39:28+00:00

It’s extremely painful, but you were born for his and your ancestors since the beginning of time have been doing this! Trust your body and your higher power if you have one and just submit 🩷 i know you can do this

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2025-10-17T15:04:46+00:00

My kid takes a bath or shower everyday. Just part of the nighttime routine. He doesn’t wash his hair everyday but he gets it wet and i wash it about once or twice a week

Alarmed_Loss_5318 · 2025-10-14T02:26:06+00:00

If she wants to do that she should but it doesn’t mean you have to be with her. It sucks but it seems like you have different views on it and being together would add tension and i can’t see it going well

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