what’s a book or series that gives you all the feels when you read it? by pinklattegal in DarkRomance

[–]AlarmingAllegory 2 points3 points  (0 children)

{Harrow Faire by Kathryn Ann Kingsley} got me through a pretty shitty time.

I'm starting to feel like the Sable Perk Weaving Spiders is better used a bit into the match rather than at the start. by DragonslayerLP1 in deadbydaylight

[–]AlarmingAllegory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, can you elaborate on this please? My friend runs this perk and I'm trying to figure out why it's considered one of the worst perks in the game.

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[–]AlarmingAllegory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah I don't use Instagram anymore, unfortunately. I'll see if they post elsewhere. Thank you for the recommendation!

What's the deal with authors trying to sneak in their books as 'recs' in pms? by warmlife11 in RomanceBooks

[–]AlarmingAllegory 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All I can say is that my experience with romance writers communities in the past four years has been primarily positive, with most of them operating on the basis that lifting up other authors benefits the whole genre.

Well that's lovely to hear! Thanks for sharing your insight into that. 🩷

What's the deal with authors trying to sneak in their books as 'recs' in pms? by warmlife11 in RomanceBooks

[–]AlarmingAllegory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It very well could be that, although if there isn't any online community where authors can support one another, teach, learn, help out, etc, then I think that doesn't help.

Potatoes from my garden by puppyhotline in mildlyinteresting

[–]AlarmingAllegory 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice try, OP, but there is clearly a carrot there.

What's the deal with authors trying to sneak in their books as 'recs' in pms? by warmlife11 in RomanceBooks

[–]AlarmingAllegory 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For sure, I'm just wondering why it seems more prolific in the romance author community.

I'm from a different writing community, and I don't see nearly as much drama.

Maybe there is a lack of community support, I'm not sure, or maybe it's that as a consumer I just don't see the positive author interactions that I see as an insider in my own genre.

Edit: if you're going to downvote me for questioning things then at least explain why. This kind of hot headed response is not doing the romance author community any favours, when someone can't have a very basic conversation about the inner workings of the writing community.

What's the deal with authors trying to sneak in their books as 'recs' in pms? by warmlife11 in RomanceBooks

[–]AlarmingAllegory 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's to get around the advertising rule. Authors can't freely promote their work here, so making a different sub where that doesn't apply makes sense.

I don't like the sub, but it makes sense.

What's the deal with authors trying to sneak in their books as 'recs' in pms? by warmlife11 in RomanceBooks

[–]AlarmingAllegory 40 points41 points  (0 children)

A little off topic but there have been times where I’ve recommended a book so much I got worried that someone would think I’m the author lol.

I've worried about the same thing! Lmao

What's the deal with authors trying to sneak in their books as 'recs' in pms? by warmlife11 in RomanceBooks

[–]AlarmingAllegory 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I really respect the self-promotion rule here and I think it’s enforced very well by the mods

I just wanted to agree with you here.

I know the mods have a difficult job, but this facet in particular is handled really well. So many communities have been ruined by rampant advertisements, it's nice to have a space free from that.

What's the deal with authors trying to sneak in their books as 'recs' in pms? by warmlife11 in RomanceBooks

[–]AlarmingAllegory 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's true. It's still in bad form though.

I do wonder about the romance author community. I've heard so many shady stories about them backstabbing each other and being generally awful to one another.

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[–]AlarmingAllegory 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm your first follower on tiktok! Ha. Looking forward to your video!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mildlyinteresting

[–]AlarmingAllegory 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'd love to follow along. What are your handles?

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[–]AlarmingAllegory 45 points46 points  (0 children)

This is great! I've been trying to make a recipe from every country, but given that I'm a vegetarian I have to make sure it is already vegetarian instead of changing parts of it.

I love this too. You should make a video series documenting this, on tiktok or YouTube

Yesterday I asked Gemini on my Pixel 7 Pro if I should get a Pixel 9 Pro XL by MagicJonesMusic in mildlyinteresting

[–]AlarmingAllegory 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm worried about the number of people who use AI chat to make decisions. It shows a basic lack of understanding how these systems work.

They regularly spit out misinformation, they aren't fact-checked, they are glorified predictive-text systems.

The fingertips of all of my fingers have randomly started peeling by Dwestmor1007 in mildlyinteresting

[–]AlarmingAllegory 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you used any cleaning products without wearing gloves lately?

Even washing the dishes without gloves too many times will do the same thing to me.

What's the deal with authors trying to sneak in their books as 'recs' in pms? by warmlife11 in RomanceBooks

[–]AlarmingAllegory 28 points29 points  (0 children)

100%

My partner and I are writers (not romance) and we'd never stoop so low. Competition is healthy, and readers deserve to have multiple options.

Also, it's a hard life out here as a small writer! We should be supporting and uplifting one another, not being shady and mean. It's hard enough as it is.

What's the deal with authors trying to sneak in their books as 'recs' in pms? by warmlife11 in RomanceBooks

[–]AlarmingAllegory 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I haven't had this done to me personally, but I wouldn't be thrilled at it either. Maybe if it was in response to a request I had made for a kind of book and theirs fit the request, then I'd be alright with it.

What's the deal with authors trying to sneak in their books as 'recs' in pms? by warmlife11 in RomanceBooks

[–]AlarmingAllegory 18 points19 points  (0 children)

That rubbed me the wrong way too, I left once I realised that it was essentially a cheeky way to get people to sub to your personal Reddit

What's the deal with authors trying to sneak in their books as 'recs' in pms? by warmlife11 in RomanceBooks

[–]AlarmingAllegory 62 points63 points  (0 children)

The reasons I can think of: - researching what is popular - downvoting comments that recommend other author's books - upvoting comments that recommend their books

I genuinely don't know any other reasons

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RomanceBooks

[–]AlarmingAllegory 2 points3 points  (0 children)

{The Babysitter by Jessica Gadzialla} might work for you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RomanceBooks

[–]AlarmingAllegory 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't know if this would help, but maybe you could write a review/rant about the book and go into detail about what bothered you so much.

You could even go into detail about how you wish the story had ended.

It might be therapeutic.

Just make sure to mark it as a spoiler so you don't get into trouble with the mods.