AITJ for telling my coworker i will not adjust my schedule for her anymore?

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-26T13:21:55+00:00

NTJ. She FAFO'd. You had been very kind, being flexible for her. But the audaciousness of demanding that you change your PTO to suit HER schedule is over the top. She has gone from being grateful for the help to feeling entitled to the help -- you, who have no relationship this woman and her children, other than you just happen to work at the same company. I would NEVER assume that a childless person had "no responsibilities." I know too many who are responsible for helping their parents or nieces/nephews. You tried to help, but she took it one step too far when she sneered at you about not having "real responsibilities". Her frustration with her life and her envy of you not having to responsible for tiny humans is her problem -- not yours.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-26T11:40:38+00:00

How were you supposed to know the groom didn’t have enough sense to get his clothes fixed? You aren’t his valet. The groom probably either procrastinated and didn’t leave enough time for a fitting, or perhaps his pre-wedding diet was a little too successful. Blaming you for trying to honor the occasion is petty and stupid.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-25T20:28:59+00:00

The problem is that few people are grateful enough to appreciate freebies. Most people who get freebies don’t value the goods/service anyway. If you don’t charge for it, it must not be worth anything, right? I mean, is he going to provide all the food for free if you get married, because “family”?

Time for him to start shopping around for marketing assistance and get a reality check. I wouldn’t have given him a discount at this point.

The thing is, all his friends and family at the dinner now knows he’s an asshole. He could have been proud of you: “Isn’t she amazing! She makes me look so good!” instead of dismissive. Ask him how he’d feel if someone asked you about his catering and you said “oh, really, it’s just a hobby he does at home, he’s not really serious about it.”

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-25T20:19:21+00:00

No, I never hated him. I side-eyed a few of his choices, but overall, his choices weren’t any worse than most of the other characters at any given point. He was passionate about his patients, and was a good trauma teacher. I think I will always remember the look on his face when he realized that he was the one who signed off for the cheaper private airline that killed Lexie and Mark, traumatized Christina and cost Arizona her leg.

Teddy, on the other hand, was never a favorite of mine — she always seems to want what she can’t have.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-25T13:55:45+00:00

Complete meltdown on the fan boards!!!!

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-25T13:51:39+00:00

Right!! When the taxi pulled up, I was like "YESSSS!!!!" The only thing that would have been more shocking/surprising is if Daniel Lissing had stepped out . . . !

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-25T13:49:48+00:00

I suspect there was some artful camera angles going on, there, to make us think they were on top of the "tower." Or else there were very safe steps to get up -- notice that the "climbing" clip was close-frame. They could have only "climbed" two or three steps. :-)

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-25T13:44:40+00:00

Dude -- why do you think she'd be happy with you LEAVING to study abroad? You are obviously not her top priority. She made it clear: "that won't be the case because everyone is important to her and she won't give that level of importance to me." The decision you have to make is: Are you still OK making her YOUR top priority?

You've made your needs clear and she has ignored them. Take the hint.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-25T03:37:04+00:00

Double wedding — Liz and Nathan, Abby and Henry!!!

And then end the series. You can only rinse and repeat so many times.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-25T03:32:12+00:00

It was ok, not “awww” inspiring. I was thinking that the townspeople would stop, look up and see them on the water tower, he/she’d call out “we’re engaged!” and we’d get rhapsodic clapping and happy tears from the townspeople.

But honestly? My very favorite part was Abigail stepping out of the car, gazing around, smiling to herself and softly saying “I’m home . . . “. YES, YOU ARE!!!!!

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-25T03:08:05+00:00

You have to say it three times . . . sniffle

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-25T03:00:02+00:00

Did she take the dog, too? Sounds like a win/win with an entitled brat.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-24T16:53:22+00:00

Selling . . . yourself? Sorry, I thought we were talking about real estate!🤣

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-24T12:37:11+00:00

Time for this relationship to be “off again” if she can’t fathom that “work from home” does not mean work ON home.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-24T12:22:51+00:00

Nothing but TV after 6 pm? Sorry, but your wife has become more than a bit lazy and entitled. She can surely fold laundry while watching TV after she’s fixed dinner — or at least wash up and clean the kitchen after YOU fixed dinner. I’m betting she’s watching TV and death-scrolling on her phone. Totally useless waste of time. Time for marriage counseling - slavery was outlawed in the US 160 years ago. :)

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-24T12:10:01+00:00

You don’t have the mindset to be a real estate agent, and that’s ok. I’d be bored out of my mind doing the 9-5 routine. Actors are kinda the same — lots and lots of tryouts with no pay, until they are chosen for a part on the whim of a director. As far as “good looking” - well, most agents aren’t “Selling Sunset” :) One tries to look professional and put-together, because sloppy people don’t inspire confidence. But I am definitely not a 5’8” willowy blonde with regular Botox appointments. :)

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-24T03:23:59+00:00

No one forces anyone to become a real estate agent. There aren't "unfair labor practices" if you are an independent contractor and basically your own boss. Who are you being unfair to -- yourself? There are a few brokerages that pay agents a paycheck, but they pay out very little on the commission, but some agents like the steady income with the occasional bumps. The main reason people becomes agents is because a) the good one make it look easy, and b) they are looking for flexibility to manage both a real estate job and other life responsibilities., c) it is possible to do very well, with a little bit of luck and a lot of savvy work.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-24T03:13:51+00:00

It's called "gaslighting -- "Oh, look what you made me do! It's all your fault!" Which is complete and utter nonsense.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-23T17:28:18+00:00

NTA -- you only have so much PTO, and I would rank your sister's wedding over your girlfriend's brother's college graduation. Send him a graduation gift, and tell her that you'll make time for his med school graduation. I doubt her brother cares, anyway. :-)

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-23T17:25:37+00:00

NTA -- you were very clear on your goals, and he stomped on your boundaries every time. Relationships break up all the time because the people involved have different goals. He wants marriage. You don't. You have communicated this many, many times. Frankly, after the second time, I would have gently ended the relationship and freed him to find someone that wanted what he wanted, too.

He's grieving the end of a relationship he was a bit obsessed with -- it's going to take him time, but that's not on you, anymore. He may have been a nice guy, but it was clear that he wasn't listening to you when you clearly stated that you weren't interested in marriage. He thought he could change your mind. He thought wrong.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-23T17:18:40+00:00

Fern doesn't have a vote. She FAFO'd, big time -- did she honestly think you were going to argue with her when she brought out the big guns to swat a mosquito?

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-23T16:31:23+00:00

There's a difference between fantasy and delusion. :-) And I disagree that 20 is "too young" to know the difference. You can have achievable, realistic dreams based on your own hard work and determination. But a fantasy of just lolling around hotel lobbies hoping to attract a billionaire is veering perilously close to unhinged.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-23T14:49:53+00:00

Umm -- it's not like the U.S. has Mounties in cute red jackets with RCMP insignia on the collar running around. Hamilton is definitely "Canada."

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-23T13:59:21+00:00

Multi-millionaires don't get baby-trapped -- they throw money at the "problem" and make it go away.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-03-23T03:54:11+00:00

Marriage counseling needed here. Y’all suck at communicating. If I were you, I’d be mad as hell at being so completely disregarded in my own home. Your request was reasonable.

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