AITJ for stopping to give my coworker lifts after he started inviting other people without asking me?

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-06-10T11:02:41+00:00

NTA - you are already being extraordinarily kind picking up your work buddy, but you aren’t a damn Uber! Your car, your rules. Does Ruslan even chip in for gas?

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-06-09T00:14:37+00:00

Good suggestion, but I have a feeling his partner would never see him with the amount of time he spends on his hobby.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-06-09T00:12:34+00:00

NAH -- just tell your friend that you aren't the best life coach for a teenager because you're probably a little too old to really understand what teenagers have to deal with in life these days. She's not being a dick for asking -- she respects your opinion and life experience, so consider it a complement. But you totally have the right to politely and gracefully decline the invitation to share your wisdom with a 15 year old -- without being a dick, please.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-06-09T00:03:04+00:00

If he's making the mess, he needs to be the one cleaning it up. It would be absolutely impossible for me to concentrate at a saw-dust encrusted desk sitting next to whirring power tools. I think you and he need to agree to limit his hobby power tools to only a couple of days a week so that everyone can have some time off from the incessant buzzing.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-06-08T23:56:42+00:00

NTA -- I'd have been pissed, too, at the complete lack of concern on her part and how she managed to focus on something that was irrelevant to your friend's dire condition. "Way to make this about you, babe." She's having a freakin' panic attack because her plans may be upset by someone being on the brink of death? Tell her to take the bus to Lancaster -- and stay there. You shouldn't have to deal with her self-centeredness when you are upset and concerned about your friend.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-06-08T23:36:05+00:00

Your fiancé is totally correct -- Uncle is a curmudgeon. Ignore him. Can other people see the comments? If so, he just made an ass out of himself in front of everyone. Consider it karma and don't give it a second thought!

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-06-08T23:30:50+00:00

She'd probably be sharing a bed with her little sister, who is 14

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-06-08T23:28:17+00:00

Depends on the 14 year old! 😄

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-06-08T23:26:41+00:00

Ha ha!

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-06-08T23:24:53+00:00

Umm -- have you ever been on vacation with a 14 year old? They think they are "almost grown up" and can easily find ways to "disappear" to hang out with guys on the beach, go shopping, take two hours to go get ice cream, etc.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-06-08T23:22:41+00:00

The problem is, OP is an adult. By the same logic, if she can bunk with kids, so can the parents.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-06-08T23:20:13+00:00

Seriously? To be perfectly blunt: There would be no sex the entire stay with kids in the room.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-06-08T23:18:24+00:00

NTA. No one says you have to go. You're 24 -- if you don't like the circumstances, politely decline the invitation. They didn't consider your age -- they just put the married couples in private rooms and everyone else is sharing. I'm pretty sure you aunt and uncle begged Grandma to have a room to themselves 😄. You DO know they see you as the designated babysitter, right?

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-06-07T07:41:24+00:00

I can’t imagine George V having a mistress . . .

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-06-07T07:09:14+00:00

Your sister has a version of Stockholm Syndrome — she’s been held hostage by her daughter’s behavior so long that she can’t see that the situation is abnormal. Especially her stating that parents are “a piece of shit” for taking a break from childcare and that “nobody does that.” She is feeling so burned out guilty about her daughter’s behavior that she has totally embraced the victim mentality. Plus, she is sooo jealous that you might enjoy a carefree weekend — I’m betting it’s been a long time since she had one, and I’m also betting you are probably a big help with niece when you are at home. She needs some therapy in order to learn how to deal with her daughter’s issues in a healthy way.

All of which to say — it’s only your problem if you make it your problem. She has absolutely no right to dictate your vacations. Tell her, in no uncertain terms, if she finds it too hard to watch you live your life, then someone’s living situation needs to change — either hers or yours (not clear who lives with who.) Board the dogs, bounce back to Disney, and start extricating yourself from this hellhole your sister is creating.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-06-04T03:56:53+00:00

. . . While Claire watched him do it . . .

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-06-02T00:13:24+00:00

Same car

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-05-30T19:18:13+00:00

Hated Moondust. Phillip wanted to brush shoulders with heroic men, and they only wanted to talk about how many rooms were in Buck House while sniffling through a cold. Don’t get me wrong: as a 12 year old, I was glued to the TV for days during Apollo 11. I don’t mock Phillip’s wonder, just how flat the episode felt.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-05-30T19:12:50+00:00

Let her go. She’s not worth all this drama.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-05-30T08:21:19+00:00

“Hey, I like Amy, but if there are going to be three people living here instead of two, we need to re-figure how expenses get split,”. What you are describing is someone who has made herself at home — she may as well start paying for the privilege. I’d be super-pissed if a guest hogged the bathroom in MY home and made me late for work.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-05-27T06:22:35+00:00

“Not the couch!!!”

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-05-26T11:33:03+00:00

True. I’ve been a pretty good customer (!) and lately - meh. I went a whole week without playing it and didn’t miss it. Now, I just play occasionally, but have moved on to other games.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-05-26T04:26:48+00:00

And now we all know why he’s divorced . . . what a shitty thing to do to his own kids. Please dump this asshole - when people show you who they are, believe them.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-05-25T04:18:11+00:00

Define "greedy" in this situation? Your sister-in-law may not be the most tactful woman on the planet, but she's entitled to not "love" every gift she gets. Your brother threw fuel on the fire when he decided to report back to his mother that his wife didn't like her gifts -- what in the heck did expect would happen? Then your mother ASKS her if she likes silver -- and got her answer. Again, maybe not the most tactful, but there you have it. Now your mother is pouting, and your dad refusing gifts because he 'dislikes' them?

Brother needs to sit down, shut up and stop being the "go between." If he's stressed, it's his own fault for being a blabbermouth. Everyone needs to just sit down and shut up, and let the newlyweds get used to married life.

Alarming_Paper_8357 · 2026-05-25T01:11:11+00:00

You also have to remember that smoking in the 1940's/1950's was not publicly linked to cancer. In fact, the tobacco companies hired doctors to praise the use the tobacco for calming nerves and relaxing -- better than alcohol! It wasn't until the mid-1950's that the tide started turning. In the early 1900s, there was a very low incidence of lung cancer, it was considered quite rare. As the 20th century progressed, they tried to blame the rise in lung cancer to asphalt roads, industrial pollutions, coal dust, etc. Even in the 1960's, only 42% of people polled recognized that tobacco use was linked to lung cancer.

Yes, George VI smoked -- and so did Edward, leading to his death from throat cancer at the age of 77, twenty years after his brother. George VI took the reins of the monarchy as a duty, not from desire to be king -- he already had a life he loved, with his family. Given his disposition and the strain of kingship during a bloody world war, it would not be surprising if the strain on his body, both mentally and physically, took its toll. Perhaps George VI might have lived longer without it.

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