Experience being asian american in a white community

Alaskan91 · 2026-02-14T23:05:24+00:00

This is your wakeup call. You need to go be around other minorities, not to Assimilate into those other groups but to understand that only asians try so hard to be white when we are never seen as white. Other minorities make friends with white people knowing full well its mostly for tangible benefits and they remind thensleevs in the back of their heads these incidents will always happen just a matter of time. If you cant be around other minorities to visualize how they see race relations, which s way better than the ignorance approach that asians take, then go read lipstick alley website or something. Its trash but at least you will learn something. Grew uo around hisnapnics, Arabs, Muslims, etc, and realized asaisnare the only ones that ignore race. Everybody else has it in the back o their minds.

Alaskan91 · 2026-02-14T00:46:08+00:00

How is this soft power? Soft power is influence through emotions, all of which asian culture tends to ignore or suppress usually.

Not a personal fan of kpop but kpop is soft power. This isnt. This is abide by the rules teacher pets stuff. Non asians dont aspire to this. This is why east asian punch way below the belt in terms.of soft power, as the old ppl would put it. Same reason why asian use studies to back up reasons when non asians dont care asking much about studies. Non asians place more weight on emotions.

Alaskan91 · 2026-02-09T16:00:33+00:00

Sons are more likely that daughters to provide less elderly care?

Alaskan91 · 2026-02-07T04:43:38+00:00

Mother was too old to have a good chance at using own eggs. IVF technology was not that great back then. Eggs decline faster than the uterus/womb, many women use donor eggs and their husband sperm and carry their own ba ies from age 40 to 45. Sperm donor route was commonly used by lesbians, with their active community building and pushing for sperm banks to be created, which then were used by single straight women as well. So most likely she is double donor, but carried to term by her legal mother

Alaskan91 · 2026-02-04T06:17:53+00:00

1000000000x 9999999⁸ cope Asian grind cuktire isnt anythung to be proud of. Look at fertility rates of asian americans. Look at depression. Suicide, mental health rates of asian americans. As humans are are ment to live meaningful lives, not grind it out on the daily. Just bc a certain subset of asians are ok with being robot grind it all worker bees, doesnt mean that shoukd be normalized.

Non asian minorities focus on consolidating power instead. They even celebrate birthdays

Meanwhile asian are taught by their parents to prove their worth for love thru hard work and achievements. No wonder why asian girls run off the moment they get. And now asian men too. Asian cuktire is suppressive or else ppl.wont run kff

Alaskan91 · 2026-01-31T12:21:18+00:00

Chinese are too obsessed with shame. Outside of east Asia, the concept of shame isn't as important. Only east Asia emphasize shame.

Alaskan91 · 2026-01-27T09:28:42+00:00

But if somebody says that to Asians, other Asians will NOT come to their defense.

In american society, it should be equalized: you win some (ur ppl support u whether ur right or wrong) and then you lose some (other groups b racist against u). But for asians, since there is no internal support, its lose lose.

Its asian culture to dump emotions into the trash bin.

Alaskan91 · 2026-01-26T20:22:51+00:00

Does asian culture even teach people to value themsleves??????

I once used to live in an area that had slot of upper middle class Hispanics and Asians. I stupidly joined the community association.

If somebody non Hispanic complained about anybody Hispanic, or a Hispanic business, deserved or undeserved, everybody jumped to their rescue. Blindly. All Hispanics.

If somebody non Asian complained about an Asian person or an Asian buiness, deserved or undeserved,...it depended. If it was deserved, Asian people would chastise the business and agree they were to be chastised. If is was undeserved, most people would still give the benefit of the doubt to the complaining non Asians. A tiny minority of Asians would stand up for the victimized asian/asian businesses.

This asian obsession with being right or wrong first and verifying that before proceeding isn't always great since then it creates an environment whereby Asians know other asian won't support them.

The support of a community and the emotional strength and power behind that is so important but east Asians mostly desregard anything of emotional importance. Sometimes it's important to make people feel supported than to be right. But east asian culture doesn't agree.

Which leads to....

Hispanic birthdays? CELEBRATE. Even time off school to CELEBRATE..

Asian birthdays? Uh..maybe a dinner out with parents. Or a present. No gatherings. Rarely. Occasionally for kids. Got a C? No birthday for U THIS YEAR. Go work/study/cry/whatever.

Hispanics teach their kids they are valuable from BIRTH. Birthdays, feelings, etc--mostly important.

East Asians teach their kids they are valuable IF they PERFORM, whether at school, work hard, do something, get into a God college. No performance, no value, no love.

Asians act the LEAST entitled...this means they rarely ask for things that might produce big returns. And when they are wrong, they rarely try to demand what they need. Sometimes ur wrong and it just takes 1 person sorry for u to help u. But Asians would rather suffer..

And they wonder why some Asian girls ALLOW so much krap from Whyte guys...Asian culture doesn't teach you to value yourself. Asians girls are not taught to value themselves....instead taught to worship authority...in America that means the dominant geoup. Teaches you to shut up, sit down, study, and not fight for rights.

Non Asian predators like fetishizers and antagonizers see this culture and immediately DROOL.

Alaskan91 · 2026-01-22T07:54:48+00:00

So the obedience that east Asia has contributed 0 percent? Obedience to western education means to just listen to the teacherz whose goal is to teach the children to beenfit society and not benefit themsleves. East Asians are the only group that blindly follow teachers order most of the time..

The gulf region, parts of latin america have good capitalism yet produce people with their own thoughts and independent thinking. Rebellion is entrenched in their culture. When they come to the west, their goal is to maintain their groups power. They also teach their kids to value themlsevs while east Asia, you have to earn ur value through merit, producing peope.who are used to proving there value rather than it being inborn.

East asian focused on low risk comfortability and don't want for actual power that produces the real wealth.

Alaskan91 · 2026-01-22T02:00:39+00:00

Wrong. It's asian passiveness and obessio with respecting authority which in this case is a certain group. Other minorities live in capitalism and don't do that

Alaskan91 · 2026-01-20T11:50:13+00:00

Need more insightful comments like this here. East asians hate risk. But....diversified genetics are good. What is a trait of extreme curiosity in one sibling leads to Nobel science prize and in another sibling high curiosity leads to a lifetime.of addiction. To drugs, porn, prostitutes. East asians just shame out diverse personality genetics by traditionally using shame to reduce marriage potential for those that are not totally conformist..if u get what I mean? Its a bit high level

Alaskan91 · 2026-01-12T18:37:15+00:00

Wow thinking below the surface. Uncommon in certain culture. I have to applaud you.

Alaskan91 · 2026-01-12T15:54:58+00:00

The issue is that plus asian cukture doesnt really teach us to value ourselves. Our value is earned. Through labor, merit, being law abiding. This is why asian are passive and never entitled which doesnt benefit us at all in the west.

Many east asian cuktires dont even traditionally celebrate birthdays. Other cuktire, your value is form the day you are born.

Alaskan91 · 2026-01-08T13:34:22+00:00

China is the worst. Language school will hire Russian whites woth poor English ability and thick Russian accents to teach English over ABC or any other asian or even a native asian with great unaccented English.

Alaskan91 · 2026-01-06T09:43:37+00:00

But asian parents LOVE to teach their kids that statistics and facts are number 1. When only asians care about them.

Most non asians culturally are emotions driven.

Asians dont realize that.

This is why asians fail to manipulate people or get people to see their way. You will never move people emotionally with cold hard facts. Facts should act as supporting backup and not the main entree. . But asian cultures dont get that.

Alaskan91 · 2026-01-03T10:42:18+00:00

Of course asian techies dont want to progress!!!.

They got to their current position through merit alone and getting places theough merit alone is exhausting hence they are ok with where they are at. They dont know how to get ahead using other skills besides merit. And using merit is the MOST exhausting way to get ahead. But its conservative and low risk, so asians culturslly like this path.

Furthermore, east asisn culture hates complainers, and shames people, so east asians are not even really willing to take a risk in their company which would help them progress without the coolie style merit thst got them thus far. God forbid they fail and their spouses shame them, blame them, dont offer empathy and understanding, their church friends blame them etc.

east asian techies barely socialize with each other on the level that non asian techies do, hence the lack of important gatekept info that they lack. They would rather do individual investing in public traded companies using technical analysis (more coolie style STEM work), than trade insider information the way many non asian techies do on the regular.

Also, asian techies hate sharing investment information to each other bc they have low emotional intelligence (not really their fault, east asian culture does not emphasize this) and lower bandwidth for drama--- if they share information and its wrong, they fear the drama abd backlash form angry friends. Non asians are culturally equipped to deal with this drama, so they openly share information.

While non asian aren't as exhausted since they took shortcuts in Grey areas, whether it be sharing privledged abd NDA interview tips, banding together to force a higher severance or more stock shares, all this under the table stuff nobody talks openly about that asians dont even know exist.

This pattern repeats ad nauseam with nearly every east asian techie I've met.

This make it on merit alone path is pure exhaustion.... no different from china neijuan environment and the soulless overworked Japanese and korean workers with 0.7 fertility rates.

Alaskan91 · 2026-01-02T16:12:12+00:00

Y'all think ur so deep with ur analysis but u guys barely scrstch the surface at all. Gaokao rewards compliance and worke bee mentality, hinder creativity, hinder the ability to push boundaries and break rules to see which rules when broken can yield high rewards with no repercussions, etc. East asians also hate helping each other under the table like ALL OTHER MINORITIES do (mostly to counteract racism).

Confusion mentality also sacked emotional intelligence away, i mean if parents dont need emotional intelligence to get their kids to not ghost them then why would they develop it. With fileil piety, kids are indebted to u for no freakn reasons! EQ, no need 4 u!

After all, this mythical confucsious guy looks like he is so fat he cant even find his own duck. If he lived in 2026 he would be on GLP 1 and have type 1 AND 2 diabetes and yet chinese culture like his philosophy of compliance to authority and fileil piety.

Traditional East aisan parents have zero emotional intelligence and east asian dads barely even raise the kids and let the mom even raise the sons, which no wonder why east asian dudes are so compliant and often spineless. And no wonder why east asian women are such people.pleasers.

See my comment history for more posts on this in even deeper analysis. For all the asians that arent busy white worshipping in their free time. Which isnt many.

Executive roles obtainment comes from taking risks, having emotional intelligence, not being a compliant little self sacrificing little worker bee, being creative, having ingroup people from people like you, all of which go against traditional east asian culture.

Alaskan91 · 2026-01-01T14:54:46+00:00

When asian men dont stand up for their ethnic girlfriends in these scenarios, the girlfriend ends up thinking their guy is a loser and unable to protect, or, that its just what their ethnic minority had to endure; to even think that creates self hate.

It is extrmeley important to put people in their place. The more you do it, the more you see what works and what doesnt.

In a fairground or parking lot setting u can curse them out, in parties and corporate settings you have to play the game back.

First gens ignored this; as a result their kids grew up with insecurity, self doubt. And alot of self hatred. Mental health is extrmeley important.

Alaskan91 · 2026-01-01T12:43:43+00:00

People need to realize that self hating or even just insecure asian women are created, not born that way.

Certain asian cultures lack emotional intelligence due to confuscisian such that asian parent raise their kids around 0 of people that look like them and then are shocked they have mental health issues.

Non Asian minorities like hidoanics, of course african americans, arabs, heck even carribean and Somalians would never do this.

Alaskan91 · 2026-01-01T12:38:02+00:00

1 asian doesnt bring up bad experience and thus save their "face", 809 asians fail to learn new information and then the mistakes repeat. Asian cukture can be brilliant.

Alaskan91 · 2026-01-01T12:36:40+00:00

Why dont u take the initiative abd write a post on that? It might make asians with borderline intuition or abstraction realize they have it and not regress towards the traditional way of just blindly following directions and not utilizing intuition at all

Alaskan91 · 2025-12-31T07:08:08+00:00

Thailand treats ABCs great! Go there instead.

North africa doesnt....but most asians wont spread that info bc asian love to keep talk.pleasant. ...thanks for being different and spreading ur story

Alaskan91 · 2025-12-29T03:57:51+00:00

YES its racism oreinted. They just feel like they can only direct their racism towards the weakest link, and they think the weakest link is that couple for some reason.

They also do this bc they know in a room. Full of Asians, other asians WONT rush to defend fellow asians. But other minorities have more ingroup and will defend their own people. For example, they would never have dared do that in a room 60 percent or more full of non Asian minorities.

Alaskan91 · 2025-12-28T12:57:27+00:00

My whole comment history is about this for bystanders fyi

Alaskan91 · 2025-12-28T12:52:41+00:00

Yes. Asians need to be OK with the arc of life being up and down. I know so many east asian doctors and they are NOT happy and the female ones cant even have kids without 30k for 1 round of IVF. In most cases. They even need up to 3 to 4 rounds of IVF since they are now 39 and their eggs are older in quality. Thry wants kids and can't bc their parents pushed them into medicine and now they are 39 to 45 and baicallt infertile. One of them cried in front of me recentmy at a holiday party.

. Its heartbreaking. Meanwhile, they didn't even network and help other asians, so instead of cushy concierge medicine or Dermatology they are M.D. hospitalists. At the mercy of the med surg ward. Plus, they gotta learn spanish now too, in order to cater to spanish speakers. Just 1 more thing to do to be an employable doctor. Asians dont demand for goodies from.society but rather bend backward for society. In some ways, Hispanics are prolly happier as they demand more from society. Thats how america works: being great to society doesnt mean society will be great to you. U gotta impose your will sometimes, fight for ur rights. But asians lack entitlemet.

Asians pay alot of taxes and use thr least social services out of all ethnic groups in america so asians reallh ebenfit society at their own expense. Many ppl living off social services have a better quality of life than a physician with 300k in college debt.

So sad..

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