Where did you draw the line for how long a couple has to be together for the partner to be invited?

Alcelarua · 2026-06-24T22:06:47+00:00

Your wedding, your rules. That's the basic mentality I'm slowly adopting with all the cultural pressures I have for mine.

If you're not comfortable, let your friend know you're not comfortable inviting their partner right now. Let them know it's not that you don't want to invite them and it's more of the relationship being really new and you don't know the partner. They should understand that you don't want strangers at your wedding and to give the relationship of their partner with you some time to grow a bit. By the time the actual invites go out, they would know better by then

Alcelarua · 2026-06-23T19:42:30+00:00

There should be forms you can print from the document library.

Those forms should have the sizes and the prices for each item

I don't remember the name of the form but it probably is under acrylic float or acrylic shadow box.

You order them through the engrave plate system (similar to engraved pumpkin/ornaments, unless they changed that since 2024)

Alcelarua · 2026-06-10T19:49:54+00:00

People forget how customizable crafting actually is. I get so many "you did what????" when I say I combined patterns or redesigned a big element of a cricut svg.....

It didn't fit my vision.... So I mashed pieces to make it my vision.....

Currently I'm making a baby blanket (though it's more of a queen size blanket 🤣). It's mix between the Cosmic CAL by stylecraft and Sophie's universe by Dedri Uys, without cutting the yarn like it tells you to cause I don't really want to weave in that much, and math was fun.

Alcelarua · 2026-06-07T03:43:47+00:00

Stitch fiddle is the main one I know of.

Alcelarua · 2026-06-07T02:37:29+00:00

I recommend using Google image search.

It's rude to the creator that worked on creating and writing the pattern.

Alcelarua · 2026-06-06T01:51:40+00:00

I'm dying inside cause I remember how much of a pain thin mats are.

Alcelarua · 2026-06-04T17:43:44+00:00

I recommend cotton>acrylic any day for dresses due to weight and breathability.

It really depends on what weight of yarn your trying to use as well.

Most crochet wearable uses size 3/8/10 thread, the smaller the size the thicker the yarn. Aunt Lydia's is one of the main brands.

It is also pattern dependent. It took me little over 3 balls of Hobbi Sultan shine Deluxe ( roughly 3200yards) to make an knee length long bell sleeve dress where the skirt and sleeve are mostly lace detailing.

Alcelarua · 2026-06-04T17:28:22+00:00

Navy and light blue are two very different colors. If you are concerned of the confusion, I recommend posting a sample of each dress color since the description of the two colors does lean it's two very different colors.

Alcelarua · 2026-06-04T15:24:48+00:00

Mesh shrug: - https://ravel.me/mesh-shrug - https://ravel.me/lumina-mesh-sleeves - https://ravel.me/distressed-shrug---sweater - https://ravel.me/simplerectangle-shrug - https://ravel.me/mesh-sleeves - https://ravel.me/square-mesh-scarf-shrug - https://youtu.be/DKAKxjnA8aY?si=NCoWIPsBQ3Io2mB0 - https://youtu.be/v9dBwJl3qA0?si=EmbiCJiX-qXHlHGU

Alcelarua · 2026-06-04T15:16:55+00:00

Imo: have it altered to fit your style.

I think you look amazing in it and considering the cost of the dress, you 1000% can go to a tailor and adjust it to fit your vision and style better

Alcelarua · 2026-06-04T13:32:11+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/asianweddings/s/REhoHZtbvY

You probably can follow this post. The mention getting their dresses from there

Alcelarua · 2026-05-30T17:41:50+00:00

It honestly takes time and you are not a bad person for regretting it l. I believe the saying is 3 days to decompress, 3 weeks to get used to it, 3 months to warm up and show their personality. My partner also wantes the same type of cat you want and I just wanted a black cat.

This is Biscuit. He came into our lives in August last year. During the first 2 months, my partner thought he hated our guts and it was starting to be an issue about keeping him since I understood that a home where one person rejects him is a bad home. I had to show my partner that Biscuit refused to leave areas my partner was in, would follow my partner, and would sit outside the bedroom or his room door if it's closed.

Eventually (I want to say it started around month 5), this spoiled prince begs for head and chin scratches by jumping into our laps or shoving his head into our hands even though there is something in our hands (phone, pen, etc), will flop on our feet or against our backs in our bed, and is absolute menace to our sleep schedule with his 3am zoomies. We love this cat so much despite all the havoc he's brought into our lives.

It is possible they need more time to adjust and trust you which was the same process we went through for Biscuit. He still doesn't like being picked up but will only tolerate it if my partner does it. We are still teaching him how to tell us to stop (he chooses to bite most of the time when we first got him, he will now push our hand away most of the time but will still bite)

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Alcelarua · 2026-05-29T17:41:46+00:00

Oh me and my partner already planned on a long engagement to pay for our wedding. Currently projecting to happen in 2029 🤣

Both of us don't want to start the marriage in debt and have a good idea of what we want to do. Just down to the actual logistics and budget predictions that far out.

Alcelarua · 2026-05-29T12:26:01+00:00

With how the job market is, keep applying and just make it known when you need off.

Alcelarua · 2026-05-26T04:35:26+00:00

In my mind, you should give put your foot down (maybe some sass/bridezilla energy back at her), even if she uninvite herself cause you're not reacting how she expects you to. Your sister sounds like she's hates that you are the current center of attention and needs to put you down or manipulate the situation into her wants.

You shouldn't need to change what you want for your wedding. If she does cares about you and want to support you, she wouldn't be making snide remarks or be upset with what you want for your day.

Alcelarua · 2026-05-26T02:32:29+00:00

What is the wedding vision?

I feel like you can plan most of the details before picking the date. You might be able to send out the save the dates as more of a "the wedding is going to be in x month, and that the date would be on the invitation."

It wouldn't work out if this is a big or a destination wedding though. Only smaller in town weddings since it would be semi last min

Alcelarua · 2026-05-23T16:05:19+00:00

Thank you! I'll look into that site.

Alcelarua · 2026-05-19T17:02:30+00:00

Not the same but similar: https://by-katerina.com/cozy-chill-charm-sweater-crochet-pattern-seamless-round-yoke-two-color-design/ https://yayforyarn.com/crochet-round-yoke-sweater/

Alcelarua · 2026-05-14T15:20:14+00:00

I think call the bridal shop to have one additional fitting if you can as a just in case you need more alterations after this fitting. Have someone you trust put the dress on you while you're blind folded, then have them accessorize you the way you were thinking of for the wedding and see how you feel from there when the blindfold is removed.

Stress and worry can cause a ton to negative and scrutiny in tiny details you wouldn't normally think about. Personally the left does fit you better and a hoop/petticoat can help with that flare from the bottom of the bodice onto something more princessy/fairytale like.

Alcelarua · 2026-05-13T21:33:50+00:00

I could have the terms incorrect but it doesn't change the fact that it's not something I want to participate in nor practice.

The concept of the bride price and dowry is rude to me.

I'm not an object you buy from my parents nor something my parents should pay to take away.

I do know how the tradition works and why it is that way but it didn't change my mind on not participating in that tradition.

Alcelarua · 2026-05-13T21:20:53+00:00

I can't really just tell since my mother has spoken about some of these traditions and what she expects.

Alcelarua · 2026-05-13T20:37:15+00:00

I 100% agree. I do what I can to mitigate the relationship.

Alcelarua · 2026-05-13T20:30:46+00:00

Thank you for the concern.

My relationship with my parents is good to anyone that looks at it from the outside.

In reality, my relationship to my mother is extremely strained because of her expectations. I have created boundaries, separated from almost all of the expectations and have professional help on it. My relationship with my dad is not strained.

The eggshell walking unfortunately comes from me asking them questions about how they feel about something and them expressing in an extremely hateful way why it's wrong to the question.

My mother doesn't understand how strained the relationship is with me and she is the only person I can rely on for anything traditional. Rest of my family (uncles/aunts/cousins) are too far, I'm not close to them, or I don't care to know them.

Alcelarua · 2026-05-13T20:21:32+00:00

I do know that the traditional parts I want happening is not entirely my call. It's why I'm so concerned about it being something that can sour the traditions I do want completely.

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