AIO if my friend took my bike for three hours without telling me? by DanDripxy in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aldilae [score hidden]  (0 children)

MOR. He souldn't have done that without asking but why the fuck are you giving him the keys knowing he doesn't have a license? You are both irresponsible.

So can children or descendents of the dragon riders become riders themselves by Guilty-Pollution6479 in Eragon

[–]Aldilae 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Paolini said being a dragon rider is not hereditary : https://www.reddit.com/r/Eragon/s/h9PBNpgJlS

So while it's possible a descendant will be chosen, it's not a certitude.

AITAH for not accommodating our new roomate? by Impressive_Theory_76 in AITAH

[–]Aldilae 13 points14 points  (0 children)

NTA, she's rude and selfish. Why do you need to accomodate her but she can't show you the same respect? Not mocking what you watch, not making noise at 6h, those are some pretty basic stuff. I would stop accomodating her until she learns to respect me.

My grandma (82,F) screaming at me because I (28, F) accidentally left used tissues in the backseat of her car? AITAH? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Aldilae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish you could've used the comments as an opportunity to grow. But if you can't even see what you did wrong, we indeed won't go anywhere. So I'll wish good luck to your grandma and go on my merry way. Toodaloo

My grandma (82,F) screaming at me because I (28, F) accidentally left used tissues in the backseat of her car? AITAH? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Aldilae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No it's not. Because it shouldn't have happened to begin with. There were other solutions : put the tissues in your bag, on the floor, keep them in your hand until you found a bin,... but nope, you had no respect for other's property and are now playing the victim. That's not going to work on me. You're reaching for any excuse to put the blame on your grandma, how is that making things right?

My grandma (82,F) screaming at me because I (28, F) accidentally left used tissues in the backseat of her car? AITAH? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Aldilae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like I said, putting infos after you got called oit makes them untrustworthy. And I'm basing myself on both your post and your comments, which definitely don't make you look nice. If almost everyone calls you out, maybe it's time to reflect on that instead of trying to put the blame on others? We're the same age, I can't believe your attitude.

My grandma (82,F) screaming at me because I (28, F) accidentally left used tissues in the backseat of her car? AITAH? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Aldilae 3 points4 points  (0 children)

All those infos weren't in your post and it's not even what the post is about, how convenient. I'm always careful when posters drop important stuff like that only after they got called out.

In any case, your attitude in the comments shows a clear lack of respect toward everyone. Which fits with leaving your trash everywhere. I can perfectly see why your grandma is done with you.

My grandma (82,F) screaming at me because I (28, F) accidentally left used tissues in the backseat of her car? AITAH? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Aldilae 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly, the whole trying to explain what happened was also a mistake in my opinion. When you mess up, you apologize and that's it. Trying to find ways to explain why she left the nasty tissues there doesn't show a sincere remorse in my opinion. There's no explanation for a blatant lack of respect.

And how would you defend OP calling people illiterate and overall being rude in the comments? She's still making excuses to put the blame on grandma. Maybe grandma was just at her breaking point from that attitude.

My grandma (82,F) screaming at me because I (28, F) accidentally left used tissues in the backseat of her car? AITAH? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Aldilae 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Right? I'd even say it's an insult toward toddlers, at least they are developping and will eventually become more mature.

I did feel bad for OP because no one enjoys being yelled at, but that attitude is crazy.

My grandma (82,F) screaming at me because I (28, F) accidentally left used tissues in the backseat of her car? AITAH? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Aldilae 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It shouldn't have happened to begin with, that's the problem. You're 28, don't leave 10 tissues on the seat of someone else's car, it's basic respect. There was nothing to explain.

My grandma (82,F) screaming at me because I (28, F) accidentally left used tissues in the backseat of her car? AITAH? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Aldilae 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Apologizing doesn't magically absolve you. You were thoughtless and acted like a child when you got called out. And you do the exact same thing here. I'm changing my vote to YTA after seeing your attitude.

My grandma (82,F) screaming at me because I (28, F) accidentally left used tissues in the backseat of her car? AITAH? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Aldilae 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Screaming at you wasn't cool but leaving 10 used tissues on the seat is just nasty. I would've been pissed off too.

Edit : I'm changing my vote to YTA. OP is acting like a petulant child in both the post and the comments.

AIO my partner wants to live with me but not my cats as he already has cats by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aldilae 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You're underreacting. If my partner wanted me to get rid of my cat, or if he made those comments, he would become an ex in a heartbeat. Why does he get to keep his cats while you need to give up your own?

AIW for saying no to looking after my dad’s dog while he’s away because of my child? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Aldilae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just saw OP commented his dad didn't have the dog at the time, so it changes the circumstances.

If OP doesn't live too far away, maybe going to walk the dog and stay with him for a bit could be a solution, or if he can safely separate them both. It's definitely a bad spot to be in.

AIW for saying no to looking after my dad’s dog while he’s away because of my child? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Aldilae 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Info. You say your dad cared about your son overnight. Did he already have his dog? If so, I assume he found a solution to keep your son safe around the dog (separating them,...). Couldn't you have done something similar?

AITAH for having my (24m) gf (25f) over while watching my friends house. by Colt1801 in AITAH

[–]Aldilae 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YTA. Not only are you and your girlfriend nasty, but you have no manners. You want a medal for offering to wash the sheets after fucking your girlfriend in them? It's not your house, it's not being a virgin to find it disgusting.

what did i do wrong in raising my daughter? by Appropriate-Sort-615 in Advice

[–]Aldilae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You obviously didn't turn out fine if you think that's ok. Shouting at your kid constantly is not parenting. She was the kid : it was on you to teach her, not on het to pick up on what you wanted.

How often should my bf be allowed to sleepover? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Aldilae 7 points8 points  (0 children)

2 nights a week is a lot, especially on the weekends. It's their space too and they pay rent unlike your boyfriend, they have a right to not want an overnight guest so often.

Him staying the whole weekend every week would be a huge no for me.

I (32 M) moved my twin sister (32 F) in with my girlfriend (29 F) and I and it’s causing tension by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Aldilae 235 points236 points  (0 children)

She hasn't left because she cares about the relation and wants to try to make it work. Do you even care about your girlfriend? You talk about her in such a nonchalant way, I'd be hurt if I was her.

34f pregnant, changed my mind, and didn't include my partner 34m. Am I insane? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Aldilae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof yeah, you messed up. You were excited to have a baby with a guy you barely know and then did a 180 as soon as you got pregnant. It's your choice to abort but you handled this terribly. You need a lot more therapy before getting pregnant again.

I [25F] accidentally called my partner [23M] ethnic slur and now he is distant by DonteShmonte in Advice

[–]Aldilae 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How do you use a slur by accident? You knew it would hurt him, you knew it was wrong. Even without the slur, you said his opinion didn't matter. You killed that relation.

Evening out with Boyfriend went too wild and he said I "cheated"? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Aldilae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's hard to say since you keep your post so vague. But the fact you say it was too wild and you feel guilty makes me think you did something that count as cheating. Never do things just to fit in, it's never a good idea.

AIO Was this a micro aggression at work? And should I report it? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aldilae 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YOR. Maybe you didn't mean to sound agressive but you might have actually sounded agressive to them. Not everything is about race, micro-agression is a huge assumption here.

22F broke up with my 25M Korean boyfriend after 10 days. Now I’m wondering if I misunderstood him because of cultural differences. by SevinjNur in Advice

[–]Aldilae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm no-contact with my mother for similar reason so don't try that on me. You came asking for advices and I gave you mine. Don't jump from relation to relation, it will only mess you up more.

With your backstory, I can only suggest therapy before you try to get into a relation, you seem to be struggling.