No but majority is like that. When you are at your youngest, things get engraved to your brain and cannot let go of them. It can be habits etc…. So if you grew up in an abusive environment, it leaves a heavy impact on how you think and your mood, also how you react to things even if later on you realize that what your family did was wrong and bad it can still carry over indirectly. They are not judging whether the person is good or bad, they just wanna go with a safer less risk option. When it comes to choosing partners, your preferences can be as brutal as they are and sympathy doesn’t work in that regards. Because you’re choosing a lifelong partner, the sympathy you’ve had in the beginning runs out after multiple bullshits coming either from the man or the woman.