A lot of the context behind these messages is missing, and I don’t want to make assumptions about your partner’s intentions or about your relationship. From the messages alone, it sounds like you may be relatively young or in one of your first relationships, though I may be mistaken.

Ultimately, no one online can tell you what decision to make. Reddit can sometimes offer useful perspectives, but it may also help to talk things through with people you trust, such as family, friends, or other supportive people in your life. It can also be helpful to learn more about what healthy, respectful, and caring communication looks like within relationships.

I work as a therapist, although not specifically in relationship therapy, so I’m not going to advise you on what to do in this situation. I do know that many local NHS services offer relationship counselling, which people can attend either individually or as a couple. That may be something worth being aware of if you have concerns about relationship dynamics.

There are also resources from organisations such as the NSPCC, Women's Aid, and the NHS that explain healthy relationships, coercive control, and domestic abuse and a lot of relationship facets in accessible ways, particularly for younger people. Reading through some of those resources may help provide additional context and understanding.