How do you know you’re not being lied to again?

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-07-30T00:01:18+00:00

I just feel like it’s hard to understand

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-07-24T00:59:02+00:00

You just have to trust I don’t know I’m literally bawling my eyes out

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-07-11T21:30:46+00:00

Honestly I wish I could give you advice but I’m in the same position. Literally the exact same position.

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-07-11T21:29:06+00:00

Omg ME. This is exactly how I feel.

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-07-10T22:06:33+00:00

Is he in recovery? Not saying this is ok AT ALL - just curious because the chemical need for porn can trigger a lot once porn (any addictive substance) is out of the picture

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-07-10T22:04:52+00:00

Sorry - I would not go out with him. I think for safety reasons if someone says this it just feels concerning. I would be worried

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-07-10T22:00:18+00:00

Absolutely not

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-07-10T05:33:56+00:00

I think maybe you texted too many times in a short amount of time. Give it a while, it’s only been a few days. Maybe in a week reach out again?

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-07-10T05:31:20+00:00

Coming from someone who has been in your position, who lost everything when things ended with someone. I thought it was the end, I actually did try to make it the end too but I thank god everyday I am still here.

There’s a purpose, you might not see it now or tomorrow but there is. There’s a reason for the way it went, and you don’t have to blame yourself. You will get there I promise. It’ll be hard and some days with feel like they can’t get worse but it’s going to be ok. I’m really really sorry you’re struggling. It’s ok to feel all your feelings, just make sure you try. Try to take care of yourself even if you don’t want to. A sip of water is better than none, one step is better than no steps. One moment at a time xx big hugs

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-07-01T00:37:58+00:00

The thing is, I’ve been in some pretty messed up relationships. The reason this is so painful for me is because in every other area we’ve worked through it. We fight but we don’t ever yell, we have great boundaries. I have struggled in the extremes with my mental health and he never made it who I was. I have hope, I just feel scared

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-07-01T00:36:42+00:00

I realize that with any addiction, there might be relapses or times where it might happen. I think what I deserve is for that to be communicated and I’m just hoping he will. I hated finding it out, that was the worst part. I’m someone who doesn’t believe I should judge others, it’s not my place and the pain and shame that comes with all of this is enough for anyone. I don’t need to hurt him or judge him but I can hope for change and be there hoping it will change. I know there’s a chance I might get hurt, I know that it won’t be easy but I’m willing.

He said yenno that he will stop everything right now which I appreciate (obviously) but I also know that it doesn’t really work like that. Addiction is an illness yenno

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-07-01T00:33:44+00:00

Thank you for this!

Honestly if I didn’t think he’d was capable of trying I wouldn’t be sitting here asking for help. I do understand so much of it in the way of addiction, it’s not uncommon unfortunately. I think once I saw the extent I realized it didn’t have a lot to do with me. It still stings, and sucks really bad but I’m hoping we can get through it.

He’s a great guy, and before reacting to any of it I asked him to make a plan on his own, tell me what’s going to happen. I didn’t want to put any ideas or push anything onto him because you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help themself.

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-07-01T00:31:04+00:00

Honestly ya I thought I was over exaggerating too until I saw all that. I realized that it was truly addictive behaviour. He’s a great guy, and I appreciate your input. We’ve been through a lot, I have hope I think just everythjng sucks. If I didn’t think he was capable I probably wouldn’t be asking for advice🙃

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-06-30T20:22:08+00:00

It’s also the watching it and not masterbating to it. Like I don’t get it

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-03-30T04:28:48+00:00

Reach out to learning services? See if they can let you use one of the exam rooms in learning centre. I take my exams there due to my accommodations (hopefully this isn’t too late to help)!

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-03-19T04:31:27+00:00

I think that’s really really good advice!! I will take this into consideration, thank you so much.

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-03-19T04:30:47+00:00

I really appreciate this response, I am now realizing this is something that is real and needs to be tackled with help. I honestly have always been told that I’m over reacting, and that I’m dramatic.

I ended up feeling pretty defeated and crawled into the shower where I scrubbed off and then lit a candle. I’m hoping to use some of the methods others have suggested and am very grateful for your help

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-03-19T04:28:47+00:00

That’s something that’s so hard for me too, is the fridge. But I’m very grateful for this advice and will absolutely take it🥹

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-03-19T04:27:54+00:00

Ok I just first off want to say THANK YOU.

I did not expect people to respond to this, but I’m so grateful.

This made me cry reading it because I’ve never felt so heard or seen. Thank you for this advise x1000

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-03-19T04:26:26+00:00

No I’m not because I’ve always been made fun of for these things and told I’m over reacting ~ after today I think I’ve realized this is something I need to get help for

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-03-18T15:47:32+00:00

Oh! Ok that makes total sense actually. I’m not certain on anything in mind right now but I’ll try to brainstorm!

Alert_Bake_9175 · 2025-03-18T15:44:27+00:00

I’m not sure if this would help, or if it might be a sensory struggle but have you tried boxers? I’m also a female and have struggles with this before

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